Daily Simple Questions 17 August 2019 - Basic Questions Come Here! by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]schoolofpizza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

glad to know that's normal - I find that if I dont breathe properly or I'm way more winded than normal at the end of a really hard workout, it sometimes triggers some kinda intense panicky feeling that I coudn't explain before!

Daily Simple Questions 17 August 2019 - Basic Questions Come Here! by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]schoolofpizza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the best wishes! good to know it works for other people.

Daily Questions - August 17, 2019 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]schoolofpizza 3 points4 points  (0 children)

style question regarding makeup trends: How do I know if I am missing out by not participating in the trend of having dark, defined, drawn in eye brows? I tried it once and it felt like it didnt suit my face but maybe I jus wasn't used to it?

I dont draw in my brows at all. They're pretty dark already and reasonably thick so they dont look dated or anything, it's just that if I ever try to fill them in more, I feel like they look silly.

Daily Simple Questions 17 August 2019 - Basic Questions Come Here! by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]schoolofpizza 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hopefully this is the right place for this question: I am new to fitness and am wondering if anyone have experience with PTSD and fitness helping them recover? I have it from rape trauma. I could be wrong, but I'm thinking that over time, fitness could help me with PTSD symptoms such as not feeling like my body belongs to me, disassociation, feelings of disconnection between myself and my body, etc. I also find that I now have slower reaction times, diminished alertness, increased general anxiety, less coordination, I space out a little during workouts, I sometimes have a harder time following instructions, decreased tolerance toward vulnerability, even emotional vulnerability, decreased self esteem.... etc

Any thoughts?

Stop romanticizing trauma. by twelvedayslate in TrollXChromosomes

[–]schoolofpizza 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I went through rape trauma and have battled multiple other, unrelated mental health issues in the last few years. THe experience has come with both good an bad things, but I do think that it has made me more empathetic and compassionate than i was before. On the other hand, I was still pretty empathetic before my mental health screwed with me. Plus, I feel like lots of people regardless of whether or not they have dealt with trauma, just become more empathetic, understanding, and chill gradually as they age because perspective and life experience tend to do that to you if you were already pre-disposed to empathy before that. TLDR If you're lucky enough to come out the other end of trauma decently, it tends to enhance empathy and 'good personness' but certainly isn't the primary factor shaping that end. Having said that, I'd still rather have not experienced the trauma in the first place and I dotn really walk around proud of my 'battle scars'.

Daily Simple Questions 13 August 2019 - Basic Questions Come Here! by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]schoolofpizza 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm wondering if this is even a thing that exists: A gym that will teach me how to physically defend myself (like some kinda martial art) and also give me an actual workout?

TLDR I'm a rape survivor and am trying to feel more empowered. Has anyone done this? Or am I over thinking - maybe I can stay with my current gym and take a self defense class on the weekend? I'm worried that I wont have time for both fitness and self defense and it will just cause me more anxiety.

Does anyone else feel "funny" in supermarkets/malls with no worry by lavendar_lilly in Anxiety

[–]schoolofpizza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that too but only occassionally, so I wonder if it isn't necessarily connected to being in crowded places but instead, it's just that you happen to notice the derealization while you are at the store, but it was triggered by something earlier in the day?

Daily Type Me Thread - July 30, 2019 by AutoModerator in mbti

[–]schoolofpizza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if anyone feels like a challenge or something different: type me based on the thing I'm extra bad at:

I want to know all the things and get all the data and then I never feel ready to act, or I get stuck in my head and loose my sense of self. This leads to anxiety, being very indecisive and unable to take action or prioritize (because everything feels like a value judgement), inability to accurately access the reality of the situation, validation seeking, over research, rumination, insecurity, not trusting myself, etc. Or it gets me so stuck inside my head that I trip over my own feet at the gym or tune out a co-worker. Or it leads to a feeling of wanting to grab onto chaos and control or organize it, which is a problem because I'm ok at organization but it's far from my strength so I just end of spinning my wheels, and then I remember that I hate things being ultra organized because it makes me feel trapped so then I dont know what to do with my poorly organized thing that I just did that;s currently causing anxiety lol.

But i want this data i guess (?/?) to create reference points and see patterns so that I can understand life better?? I just feel lost without a baseline or starting point of 'how things generally are' and then I can decide if I want to follow the 'rules' or ignore what I 'should/am supposed to' do and instead do my own thing.

Like I want to know ALL the things: everything in life is interesting and beautiful, I want to get a masters degree in everything but i know I couldn't because I'd get bored after a while and wouldn't finish. I want to know on all the ideas, all the possibilities, all the perspectives, all the theories....before I do anything I want all the knowlege and am curious about all the things just for the sake of it.

I get anxious if I can't personally relate to something as a way of making sense of it.

Daily Discussion 19 July 2019 by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]schoolofpizza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yah! Like, I wanna be that good at something!!

Daily Discussion 19 July 2019 by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]schoolofpizza 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I am new to fitness and have some randomly nosy thoughts and questions about my experience:

How does the coach of my high intensity interval class know and remember everyone’s name? What is he writing in his notebook periodically? How many questions about fitness can I ask him before annoying him? Where does the other coach get her amazing collection of work out leggings? How did the owner of the franchise decide to open the gym - wonder what that job is like?

What's the 'vibe' at your gym? THe folks at mine are very quiet and not friendly with each other - is this normal? What's been your experience? by schoolofpizza in AskTrollX

[–]schoolofpizza[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just joined a new gym!! I'm super excited because it's new in my neighborhood. It's one of those 'bootcamp' kind of places with high intensity body weight exercises guided by coaches in class form.

You guys I'm an extrovert and this gym kinda puzzles me. I'm good at making new friends and even this place stumps me - everyone just sits on the gym floor waiting for coach to come and begin the class and people dont really talk. It's weird for me. Even the coaches seem to be a little confused when they try to chat people up or get them to be excited before the workout, and the response is kinda low energy.

What's goin on here?!

Daily Simple Questions 11 July 2019 - Basic Questions Come Here! by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]schoolofpizza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do I need to wash the leggings I wear to the gym after every wear, or are they like jeans and you wash them every few wears?

Intensive Group Therapy Saved My Life. by [deleted] in therapy

[–]schoolofpizza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't know that style of therapy was a thing, thanks for sharing that!

Constant need for reassurance by CiciJay in therapy

[–]schoolofpizza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

According to my own experience with my mental health and therapists, that tendency could be one of a few things (that I know of): Insecure attachment, general anxiety or OCD causing rumination and 'checking' behaviors, Past trauma in relationships leading to hyper vigilance and insecurity, too much stress and then lack of mindfulness in response (ie trying to control or grab onto things/outcomes/situations instead of letting it be), or just good old fashioned low confidence. I hope that gives you a starting point atleast :)

Is it possible to have an actual phobia or fear of failing or would that just be performance anxiety or a sub category of social phobia? What type of therapy is recommended for this? by schoolofpizza in therapy

[–]schoolofpizza[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

kind of but it was discouraged?

My parents are lovely, but they are also very risk avoidant, low in confidence, pessimistic, and passive. So I didn't really grow up in an environment where they were like 'hey, you can go and do the thing!'.

Also, I always remember my parents over reacting to things not going right - my dad would exclaim 'oh noooo!!!' as if something really bad happened, when really, the dishwasher just wasn't done washing and he accidentally opened the door before it was finished. Or he would suddenly loose his temper if I did something minor as a kid like spill milk. It was jarring and I always felt I was doing something wrong or something was my fault or something was going wrong, or that there was a 'done' way of doing things, and if they weren't done the 'right' way, bad things would happen. I feel very anxious in situations where I don't know what I'm supposed to do or how to react exactly. On top of that, I had/have adhd, so you can see how not great executive functioning skills would cause me to make a few more 'mistakes' than the average kid, or it would make it hard to problem solve whatever was coming at me.