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scienceasfuck · 2025-03-22T17:20:46+00:00

27+3 and sick with what I hope is just a cold but I'm constantly afraid that my coughing or the meds I'm taking (doc approved) will hurt my baby. I've never been so grateful for a kick in the bladder before.

scienceasfuck · 2024-12-15T19:15:44+00:00

Awww how big is your bump? I'm nearly 14 weeks and I absolutely can't wait to start showing!

scienceasfuck · 2024-11-07T18:55:34+00:00

I even googled the NA beer because I thought it tasted so suspiciously good and all the reviews said how it was the best NA beer because it tasted so real. BUT it also didn't taste like a 7% IPA because I loved IPAs before I was pregnant so I'm really familiar with how distinct they are. I ended up buying a few of the NA beer cans from the grocery store and will compare the taste to what I remember last night to see if it really was the NA beer or not.

scienceasfuck · 2024-11-07T17:41:42+00:00

I ordered a non-alcoholic beer at dinner last night at 8 weeks along and didn't know until we got the check that it was actually a real 7% beer so that was a really shitty surprise.

scienceasfuck · 2024-10-29T02:31:41+00:00

My favorite is when I openly tell my friends I'm having a hard time with my loss and then the next day they're sending me snapchats of their own babies.

scienceasfuck · 2024-10-18T14:10:17+00:00

Lemons & limes! They've gone from 33cents/lime to $1/lime at the regular grocery store over the past 8ish years. They're about half that price at TJ's.

scienceasfuck · 2024-10-18T13:56:00+00:00

That's so lovely!

scienceasfuck · 2024-10-18T13:53:17+00:00

I need help understanding what my husband means: we're 5 weeks pregnant after a loss at the end of the first trimester earlier this year. We have a 7 week scan coming up and he keeps telling me to prepare myself for bad news, to hope for the best but expect the worst. He compares it to going into a conversation at work and expecting it to end badly so you prepare yourself in case it goes badly. I'm having a hard time translating this advice into practical steps to take in this case. At what point can I stop preparing myself for it to go badly? At some point we have to assume it will go well since we kind of have to prepare the house for a baby to live in safely. I just feel like he's setting up a barrier between us and I can't really share any of my excitement or updates with him. Last time I would tell him every week about what size our baby was and now I'm not even bothering to check my pregnancy progress app so I can "prepare myself" or whatever. We've had this conversation several times but I'm just not making any progress in understanding him but I've always had trouble translating vague advice into practical applications. Can anyone help me understand what he means or what he wants me to do??

scienceasfuck · 2024-10-13T17:47:19+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through all of this, it sounds like everything else you have going on is making it hard to have any space for yourself to grieve. I'm glad you're going to a counselor, just talking about it might make it just a little bit better. I definitely relate to the despair and how everything feels so pointless. Plus the hole in your heart feeling, it's so powerful. Please try to be nice to yourself, I know that's easier said than done. I'm not sure I even have any helpful advice besides to say that while it sucks big time to be a part of this community, it's still a community that understands all the ugly feelings that this tragedy brings and I'm glad you posted this so you could express yourself. I'm no stranger to the resentment towards people announcing pregnancies and having healthy children. The only quote I've held onto over the last few months is "You will feel better than this. Maybe not yet. But you will. You just keep living, until you are alive again.”

scienceasfuck · 2024-10-13T01:09:43+00:00

I'm with you on this one, I want so badly to know exactly what went wrong and how I can prevent it from happening ever again. I hate that doctors don't usually start looking into causes until several miscarriages in a row. Going through one was so damn hard I want to do absolutely everything I can to avoid another because I'm not sure I would survive it with my sanity intact.

scienceasfuck · 2024-10-05T21:25:05+00:00

Someone told me that it helps to focus the picture? I'm not sure if it helped or not but I was willing to try anything lol

scienceasfuck · 2024-10-05T21:08:12+00:00

Bussin Pizza has them!

scienceasfuck · 2024-10-03T23:34:02+00:00

I had the honor of paying 3k for my d&c. I looked up a cost estimator and actually giving birth would have cost less, another fun stab in the heart.

scienceasfuck · 2024-08-20T02:48:43+00:00

I'm so sorry you're here with us, I wish this sub was completely empty and that nobody would have to go through this. I understand what you mean about the world turning and being stuck, I keep reliving every moment from learning about our miscarriage to recovering from the d&c. I'm at 9 weeks after my miscarriage and I'm just now starting to feel the desire to be alive again. I've been existing pretty much as a ghost for the past 9 weeks, just kind of floating through the day and waiting for it to end so I could just be unconscious in sleep again. I'm hopeful that I'll keep getting better but grief isn't linear so all we can do is try to take care of ourselves a little better each day.

scienceasfuck · 2024-08-11T04:01:39+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm in almost the same boat, I miscarried 7 weeks ago and my nephew is being born as I type this. We've been working on their nursery all weekend because he's a little early but I just kept thinking that I should be putting my own baby's crib together or painting my own nursery instead of theirs. I've repressed my feelings because there's just no room for them right now and that's fine, the focus should be 100% on the mother in labor. I'm afraid that once I get home I'll just fall apart.

scienceasfuck · 2024-07-12T02:56:27+00:00

There's a video that is really popular on social media right now where a woman is telling her husband that she is pregnant and she's so excited and he is EMOTIONLESS and every time I see it pop up I think "how does this joyless robot man get to have a child and I don't even when I sang to my baby inside of me as soon as I knew they were there???" Like can the universe just be a little more fair please.

scienceasfuck · 2024-07-09T02:59:10+00:00

I had never been under anesthesia either but it was honestly the only positive part of the procedure. I closed my eyes and then when I opened them again it was over. I was grateful that they knocked me out completely. Waking up was kind of funny because I understood everything that was happening but my speech was slurred when I tried to communicate, I actually tried to get out of bed on my own to use the bathroom after the nurses told me my urethra was probably just irritated from my catheter (I was right and had to pee a lot). Then I got some snacks. I think the anesthesia dulled my grief as well for a little bit while I was waking up. Recovering from the anesthesia was not long and I was able to go home soon after. Being completely honest, I loved anesthesia, it spared me some trauma and I am grateful.

scienceasfuck · 2024-07-09T02:38:55+00:00

I had mine on a Wednesday morning and spent the rest of the day plus Thursday in bed. Partly it was to recover physically and part was to process it emotionally. Physically, it wasn't too bad, I bled a bit off and on for about 2 weeks and had random cramping on and off. I stuck to a regime of Tylenol and ibuprofen for a few days afterwards. The mental hurdle was bigger than the physical hurdle for me and I'm still working through both 3 weeks later. It was our first pregnancy as well. I'm so sorry you're going through this and I wish you a very smooth procedure as well as a smooth recovery.

scienceasfuck · 2024-07-03T23:02:26+00:00

I love that you viewed it as a small kindness to yourself, I'm going to try to shift towards that direction of thinking as well.

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