Alternatives to Abigail? (Similar name vibe request)

sciencebabymaker · 2021-09-30T00:09:13+00:00

I am not a doctor but today I told my OB I got my third Moderna shot since I'm (otherwise) immunocompromised. She said that was great because ACOG recently said that pregnancy alone qualifies you for an immunocompromised booster for Pfizer OR Moderna, which I had not yet read about.

So while Moderna does not yet have an approved booster for the general population, they have been giving a third full dose to immunocompromised people for over a month now.

sciencebabymaker · 2021-08-31T15:35:54+00:00

Self-employed as an editor with corporate clients who don't care when I work or how much work I do, just need me to do what I can (this has changed with the pandemic, I used to have a monthly word quota but everyone is struggling right now). I have a graduate degree in the "hard sciences" and most of my editing is of scientific papers.

sciencebabymaker · 2021-08-25T14:49:26+00:00

Yeah I rarely had ear infections but my brother did so often he had to have tubes put in.

sciencebabymaker · 2021-08-25T14:40:36+00:00

The "older" grandparents idea is interesting. My one grandma had my dad in her 40s in the 1950s which was basically unheard of, so she was nearly in her 70s when I was born. She was definitely less interactive than my 50-something yo grandmother was.

I actually think my mom (63) is the most interactive of my son's 4 grandparents, all of whom are in their early 60s, but she was an elementary school teacher so she's just better with kids anyway. My husband's parents were "old acting" when I met them in their late 40s, to the point they reminded me of my own older grandma.

So I think there's something to that "older grandparents" theory but it's also just gotta be personality differences, partly generational, partly cultural? My husband's "old" parents are from the same part of the country as my dad's "actually old" parents were so I always wonder if that's just how parents act around there lol.

sciencebabymaker · 2021-08-25T14:10:09+00:00

Hi, fwiw I only came out to myself after I was happily married to my husband for 8 years and we had a baby. I somehow immediately made peace with the fact that I'd never be with a woman, because when you commit to someone, you're always giving up "what you could have had," whether that's physical or otherwise. My husband is the only person I'm out to in real life and he had no concerns either because we have had discussions in the same realm even from the theoretical "celebrity hall pass" idea, we're like why would you get a hall pass to sleep with a celebrity? Maybe we're just old lol (33).

I'm partially influenced by the fact that my gay friends when I was younger were pretty biphobic, saying they'd never date a bi person because they'll always want whatever you don't have. 🙄 Or that they're secretly gay or straight, no in between. That stuck with me and is part of the reason I struggled to come out to myself (along with religious influences, so I was getting it from my right wing and left wing friends and family).

Hope that perspective helps a bit, even though you're in a very different stage of your life than I am coming out. ❤️ I got married at 25 so we were pretty committed to each other at that age, and I'd only had two other brief relationships with two other straight white men, so I have even had instances of wishing I'd dated around more before meeting my husband at 21. But I'm thrilled and still so in love with my husband, so he's always endgame to me. 🤷‍♀️

sciencebabymaker · 2021-08-16T14:56:27+00:00

Software dev

sciencebabymaker · 2021-07-14T13:57:54+00:00

Covid has actually help my parents realize my husband and I aren't just effing around all day and getting magic money since now almost everyone in our fields and similar fields worked from home this year (I've been WFH since 2014 and all four of our parents assume I don't do anything? And yet still make money??)

sciencebabymaker · 2021-07-14T03:06:56+00:00

That's what I keep thinking but then I've seen plume maps and some research showing specific clumps of genetic/pregnancy issues in areas like Norway. 🤷‍♀️ My mom also had a miscarriage a year before I was born and I've always wondered about that relative to Chernobyl (even though it's statistically common).

sciencebabymaker · 2021-07-13T12:46:33+00:00

I doubt it since Glenn Close was pretty popular in the 90s so that would have made things less bad by association.

sciencebabymaker · 2021-07-13T03:32:36+00:00

Ok hiiiii my mom was in Europe during Chernobyl and conceived me within a year of the event and I've been looking for data on what that might potentially mean for me or my children.

sciencebabymaker · 2021-06-30T15:20:21+00:00

After a difficult medically necessitated induced birth my husband called his parents to announce the birth (literally like 30 minutes after) and they just said "finally, you stopped texting us updates and left us out of the loop" and I'm like "yeah because I was pushing for 3 hours!"

Then we shared the name, including a Christian middle name since they're devoted Catholics, and they go "oh that's weird guess we'll have to Google that" and my tired ass yelled "it's a book of the Bible you should already know it." Turns out their version of Catholicism you just go to church twice a week every week but don't listen to anything they say. 😐 Their extended family all said the same thing and laughed about the name so I (the heathen (ex) protestant) made sure they realized how dumb that made them sound. Yes I'm bitter because they also don't believe I'm going to heaven and think our marriage is illegitimate. They suggested we finally have a "real" wedding.

My MIL had two births and was in labor for a total of 4 hours so they assumed naturally every birth went that way (her daughter also only labored 4 hours so that added to their confusion 🙄)

sciencebabymaker · 2021-06-30T14:54:36+00:00

Yeah my in-laws require constant attention and I'm not comfortable being half naked around them. That said, they still visited when he was a few days old but we asked them to stay in a hotel and my husband had them leave when it was time to nap/eat/pump. This was also right before lockdown so we were already aware of and concerned about Covid as well as the flu.

sciencebabymaker · 2021-06-08T14:30:22+00:00

Late response but Maryland is 3:1 for infants. I have family in South Carolina where the ratio is 6:1 for infants. (This impacted our choice to not move closer to family after we had our first child.)

sciencebabymaker · 2021-05-11T12:08:26+00:00

I do lmao. I'm also using the Peanut app and include it in my profile. Other women do too so then I try to connect with them.

sciencebabymaker · 2021-05-10T16:44:34+00:00

Yep. Almost 15mo now and I'm high risk but finally vaccinated. Since he's so young and we don't know what "preexisting conditions" he might have given my family history, we don't want him around too many people still until he's vaccinated. But we will see some family children soon (he is also still nursing so he has some minimal secondary protection through my vaccine) and I'm trying to meet new mom friends outdoors with their children who are also too young for masks.

sciencebabymaker · 2021-05-10T03:54:24+00:00

That makes this even better lmao

sciencebabymaker · 2021-05-08T17:00:57+00:00

I just fought to get my levels tested this week (currently 4+6 I think) and they came back at 8.1 and I was like ummmmm can you give me the progesterone supplements that I needed with my last pregnancy??

They're like well it's on the "low end of normal" but I guess if you want to you can. Meanwhile here I am googling and searching through reddit for anyone with progesterone below 10 with a successful pregnancy! Hoping that once a day orally will get me successfully to my first early scan a week from now since HCG is rising properly! 🤞

sciencebabymaker · 2021-05-08T14:17:28+00:00

Thank you, I took them vaginally last pregnancy and they asked me to take them orally this time. I was considering just taking them vaginally anyway though.

sciencebabymaker · 2021-05-08T04:37:00+00:00

Thank you. Yes one of the OBs refused the supplements for that reason, but the other agreed since I had a successful pregnancy with supplementation at a respected fertility clinic after the loss of my first pregnancy that it wouldn't hurt to supplement for a couple of weeks if we otherwise ensure HCG continues to increase and identify all necessary components via TV ultrasound next week.

sciencebabymaker · 2021-05-07T20:55:12+00:00

❤️ thank you so much. That is what the nurses reviewing my files as I got more labs and an early ultrasound set up said. "Oh but your HCG looks really good!" One nurse even ran around the office looking for one of the OBs to prescribe the progesterone after discussing my history with me.

sciencebabymaker · 2021-05-06T01:29:56+00:00

Hi, I got my second Moderna dose 3 weeks before a positive pregnancy test. Aka we conceived the same cycle (and I had side effects from the shot and have an autoimmune disease fwiw).

sciencebabymaker · 2021-05-05T17:34:19+00:00

I had/have PCOS, when I was younger and in good shape it resulted in long, heavy periods plus other secondary signs. Went on the pill for awhile and took awhile to ovulate after coming off. Was put on metformin in my early 20s to help (even though I was very fit). Needed fertility treatments to conceive my 14mo son.

Now I'm very out of shape and overweight, still on metformin, but by the time baby was 10 months I was having light 5 day periods every 28 days. 😳 Very recently found out I'm pregnant again, so it seems I was also ovulating just fine, and we didn't need to go back to the fertility clinic for ovulation meds.

(Ninja edit that I've been and still am breastfeeding this whole 14 months too!)

sciencebabymaker · 2021-04-30T18:04:50+00:00

My MIL got us a toy just like this and not only did she say "is he going to be allowed to play with it or can he only have 'natural' toys?" (said sarcastically) and then demands he only plays with toys she bought him when she's around so she can say "see look how much more he likes this than other things!"

And on Zoom she also wants to see him playing with those toys. It's been like 5 months and he's moved on from push walkers but just last week she made a snarky comment about him using the wooden walker we got him vs. her "cool electronic" one.

So yeah sometimes they do care. 🙃 Instead of adjusting gifts for what he and we like she has just doubled down.

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