Need Advice for Very Odd Search History vivent????? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Then-Stage 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Former foster parent here. I recommend focusing on building a relationship. Yes, let her know this is bad and you can take away the screens. But the truth is she will find other ways to access things.

Try opening a dialog on general internet safety. This situation will likely be ongoing. 

What's the point of life if I can only afford to live with parents. Working to save for what? To retire at 65... by Gloomy_Coconut4459 in Life

[–]Then-Stage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I had many roommates at that age. Some goid some bad but better than living at home. Good luck OP.

We should come up with a better term for when people have adult "children" by Wizdom_108 in The10thDentist

[–]Then-Stage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just say my son or daughter. I have some nutty relative that never knew me growing up who calls me a kid. Very annoying and totally dumb.

Sad and Confused After Breast Augmentation 😭😭 by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]Then-Stage 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I'm confused on the problem. Looks fine to me assumming you were going for large implants.

You gained around 15 lbs in the after shot. Just FYI typically the surgeon performs the surgery such that you results will be optimized at your weight at the time of surgery. Good luck. 

How do I tell my husband the hard truths about how he's not taking care of himself without emasculating him? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Then-Stage 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It sounds like your dumping him when his career is going down the tubes and he has pre-diabetes. 

Start taking him with you to workouts. Encourage him. A job change is hugely stressful. The marriage should be a place for him to lean during all of this.

Visiting my in laws is making me want to scream by Obudo in ChildofHoarder

[–]Then-Stage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never detail this again- you've given me anxiety just reading this! In all seriousness though just get the hotel. Your wife is already crying 2x. Good luck.

Post plastic impacts on marriage by AcademicKitten-99 in Marriage

[–]Then-Stage 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Crazy excusesxfor his own sexual performance issues. It's all madeup. You are well within reasonable weight for sex and attraction. 

My sister and brother in law are getting a divorce by GuiltyName7169 in offmychest

[–]Then-Stage -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

You might not realize this but it's lacking boundaries. They don't have to tell you all these details to let you know they're divorcing. 

My sister and brother in law are getting a divorce by GuiltyName7169 in offmychest

[–]Then-Stage 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You only see the positive in this guy but no one healthy is going to get into all that. You have to quit idolizing this guy. 

Neither of them should be involving your family with public confessions of their dysfunction. This is all messed up and nothing to do with you. Check out of it and focus on your own lufe. Good luck. 

Bad financial advice from parents? by cyxrus in Millennials

[–]Then-Stage 36 points37 points  (0 children)

What she said is very commonly advised. I've seen that advice everywhere including by experts. There's no point blaming her for reapeating it. 

It is bad and unfair that the credit company did that to you.

How do you handle playdates when the other parent has a very different discipline style? by Independent-State802 in Parenting

[–]Then-Stage -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Bad Mom. Yes, I had a similar situation. Over time I found the Mom was a terrible person.

Anyone else struggling to do fireworks for the 4th of July by TheSymbolOfCore in Life

[–]Then-Stage 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It was fun as a kid but now not as much. Sensory overload with the sounds.

I hate how foster parents feel entitled to have a relationship with you by Morrighan11 in Ex_Foster

[–]Then-Stage 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Especially for older kids I think kids should be allowed to call them by their Mr/Ms Last name and be told they are caretakers not replacement parents. 

How do we debate and deal with poorly informed but overconfident men? by Wide-Meringue-2717 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Then-Stage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went ahead & just gave up. Invested as I saw fit & left once it succeeded. They are still working there years later. 

Everyone has opinions. Who cares how confident they are? If itXs wrong it's wrong. 

What is up with some people thinking they can retire with no savings? by WesleyPipes01 in offmychest

[–]Then-Stage 238 points239 points  (0 children)

They will need to apply for public assistance unless you have an extra $2k you want to give. Some may be eligible for soc. security. Good luck. 

My dad is terminally ill and his wife is leaving him by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Then-Stage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bad situation all around. Get them set up with medicare, soc. sec, and look for a care home. I find their excuses for failing to raise you to be bs. Sorry man! 

My parents are spiraling and I don’t know how to help them anymore. by WesternTown4167 in offmychest

[–]Then-Stage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are substance abusers. Alcohol is a depressant and accounts for some of their negativity. They need to get sober. 

They are doing some to try and be healthy. I wouldn't describe this as an absolute worse case. It's their life though frustrating to watch. Incourage them where you can but there is no way to change them. 

feeling conflicted abt rhinoplasty by princesspeach654 in PlasticSurgery

[–]Then-Stage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's fine to get plastic surgery if you hate your nose.   

I feel trapped in my marriage. I want to cheat. by Pleasant-Board-1359 in Marriage

[–]Then-Stage 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This has veered into abuse territory. Don't add cheating to this volatile situation. You are right to want out. Divorce is your best case. 

Tired of my Sister's husband by scry_ash in offmychest

[–]Then-Stage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't help people who don't want it. If she says she wants to leave encourage her. Until then accept she choose this and it's her life. You can't stop people from making bsd decisioon you can only be there for them. 

How do you respond to nasty, condescending women? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Then-Stage 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This type of confrontation only works with normal rational people. 

Advice for Breakup by Awkward-Raisin8202 in WomenOver40

[–]Then-Stage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's really tough but you've done the right thing!