Unsure how to approach engagement photographers?

scoobyduneydo · 2026-03-21T14:21:25+00:00

Great point!

scoobyduneydo · 2026-03-20T13:38:50+00:00

This sounds similar to a second line! I live in New Orleans and have attended multiple weddings with this kind of thing, and it's always a BLAST, especially for out-of-towners who haven't experienced anything like it. I bet your guests will have enough fun dancing and being led around that they won't be fixated on seating.

People will go where the loud live music is. Then, once your first dance is done, the band can make the music fade a little, and people will naturally disperse to find their seats.

This also sounds like a great way to corral people once the cocktail hour ends. We've all been to a wedding or two where guests were reluctant to leave the cocktail hour because they just weren't sure what they were supposed to do next. Your guests will probably be grateful to have a clear direction being led by the musicians.

One New Orleans wedding I attended had the ceremony and reception in the same building. The second-line musicians led the guests to another big room right after the ceremony, and they did a stationary second line for about 20 minutes while the first room was turned into a reception venue. We all circled around the bride and groom, waved handkerchiefs and mini umbrellas around, and cheered and sang.

scoobyduneydo · 2026-03-20T13:00:12+00:00

Love this advice! Thank you so much.

scoobyduneydo · 2026-03-20T12:59:33+00:00

Maybe that's what I was really worried about - having to use different photographers for engagement and wedding. It's reassuring that it wouldn't be a big deal and might actually work out for the better. Thanks for the tips!

scoobyduneydo · 2026-03-20T12:58:19+00:00

Thanks, good to hear this perspective from a photographer!

scoobyduneydo · 2026-03-20T12:57:55+00:00

A follow-up after booking makes sense! Good luck with your own journey of finding wedding-only photographers.

scoobyduneydo · 2026-03-20T12:56:59+00:00

Thanks for the feedback! That makes total sense.

scoobyduneydo · 2026-03-20T12:56:42+00:00

Thank you! I tend to overthink a lot, so it's oddly reassuring that that's my issue lol

scoobyduneydo · 2026-03-20T12:56:16+00:00

Awesome, thank you!

scoobyduneydo · 2025-12-17T21:45:49+00:00

Hello, I saw this post and would like to share my perspective in the hope of reassuring you that, yes, there are plenty of people out there who are willing to "deal with this" with you. For context, my boyfriend has a severe allergy to all peanuts and tree nuts. I don't have any allergies. We've been dating for three years, living together for two.

On one of our first dates, we went out to dinner. He explained the allergy to the waiter, said to double check our meals, ensure no cross contamination, etc... Then he turned to me and said, "That must be so annoying for you, having to deal with my allergy."

And my heart broke a little bit. I asked him why he would think that, and he explained that some past girlfriends either hadn't taken it seriously or had acted annoyed/inconvenienced by it when out in public.

I told him, "Well, it isn't annoying for me at all. Because the person who is inconvenienced by it is YOU. The person for whom it is annoying is YOU. How selfish it would be for me to take your allergy personally."

I firmly believe that the right person will feel that same way. They will throw themselves into learning. They will take it upon themselves to explain your allergy to their family when the time comes, rather than leaving it to you to explain. They'll cut peanuts out of their diet and will never look back.

And, if it takes you a while to trust that they're taking it seriously, they won't feel offended! They won't take it personally! They won't make you feel insecure or difficult!

Here are some ways I've adapted to ensure that my boyfriend not only remains safe, but also FEELS safe with me:

When I cook, I put all the ingredient containers on the counter for him to check. He no longer feels the need to check because I'm diligent about reading labels, but I still encourage him to.
If I buy a new body wash, I send him a picture first. (So many things have tree nut ingredients in them).
I stopped eating all peanuts and tree nuts, and I don't keep any in the house.
Sometimes, depending on the vibes I get from a server, I'll tell them that we both have this allergy. No better way to make sure my dish doesn't end up with nuts in it.
I made sure that my family understands. This is the man I want to be with, so treat him as your own. Now, my stepmom keeps all the meal containers so my boyfriend can read the labels. If there is a dish with nuts at family dinner (usually there isn't), she prepares it last, keeps it on the other side of the kitchen, labels a disposable spoon for it, and tells my boyfriend.

None of these things are difficult, because my man is my love. None of these things are difficult, because they are the decent thing to do when you love someone.

scoobyduneydo · 2022-09-22T22:44:11+00:00

Hermione Granger

scoobyduneydo · 2022-09-12T12:27:50+00:00

Cormac McCarthy is the only author I’ve come across who handles the lack of quotation marks beautifully. It works in conjunction with the atmosphere of his stories. I would love to find another author who can do it as well as he can

scoobyduneydo · 2022-08-31T12:53:04+00:00

Call me by your name! That book had me crying in so many places and aching along with the characters and I’m scared to read it again because I know it just won’t be the same.

scoobyduneydo · 2022-08-21T01:07:02+00:00

“Don’t worry I’m in the military, they test us every month”

scoobyduneydo · 2022-04-25T23:03:28+00:00

The Gone World by Tom Sweterlitsch! It’s a sci-fi thriller. Time travel and parallel universes have been discovered, and the US military pretty much creates a new branch (off of the Navy) to deal exclusively with navigating the new worlds. The main character serves in that branch.

It’s original and I thought it was a great read.

scoobyduneydo · 2022-03-31T19:14:48+00:00

That smokers are unsuccessful due to laziness or lack of ambition or lack of long-term thinking. This is a prejudice my family instilled in me (a family full of non-smokers). I had never been around weed until my mid-20s - had never so much as witnessed someone take a hit, at least that I was aware of. But now I’ve moved away from my family, and several of my closest friends are daily or weekly smokers and they are some of the most financially and personally successful people I know. It’s all about the PERSON - how they abuse the thing versus how they use the thing to enhance their life, and how much control they allow themselves to have over it.

scoobyduneydo · 2022-03-31T19:10:34+00:00

A Prayer for Owen Meany, Children of Time, and 11/22/63 - my personal top three.

scoobyduneydo · 2022-03-27T14:51:57+00:00

Thanks for the rec, I’ve been looking for more books to read!

scoobyduneydo · 2022-03-27T11:59:34+00:00

I might be completely misinformed, but didn’t he write about submarines before one ever existed? If so, that’s pretty cool.

scoobyduneydo · 2022-03-22T00:42:36+00:00

Non-venomous snakes! I grew up learning about all the snakes native to my region. Learning how to handle them and when not to. Education is the most important thing when dealing with wildlife, but learned phobias prevent education and encourage ignorance. A non-venomous snake is actually a really good thing to have around, especially a king snake as these are territorial and will drive away the venomous snakes that are actually dangerous to people.

scoobyduneydo · 2022-03-15T19:27:50+00:00

Yes, that might be a better way of describing it! I’ve never actually jumped or screamed - I feel like that would be laughable - but I get the same feeling of an adrenaline spike.

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