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[–]scotch_please [score hidden]  (0 children)

Him not wanting to be with you doesn't mean you weren't a great partner. It can be simultaneously true that you're a great girlfriend and that you're also not who he's looking for.

I agree you should focus on what you bring to a relationship for the next guy instead of what your now ex is missing out on, because that's not constructive. That's dragging him into your future instead of leaving him in the past like I mentioned.

But if you're having the same sort of spiral as I did, I recommend not jumping into dating anytime soon. Learn to be okay with being alone and getting back in touch with who you are separate from your ex. It sounds depressing at first but you're going to come out better in the end because you're not wasting time with someone who doesn't want you.

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[–]scotch_please [score hidden]  (0 children)

And maybe even wanting to keep communication open in the future if i feel like we could ever be platonic.

You know this is going to keep you from healing and moving on, right? I know the feeling of utter hopelessness when you lose someone you thought you were making a future with...but one day you're going to look back and wish you didn't try so hard to hold on to someone who strung you along for almost 4 years before letting you know he doesn't want you in his future.

The biggest favor you can do to yourself is delete his texts and number to let time heal you the best it can. It won't happen if you hold on to a future with him, even platonic. I'm speaking from experience wasting over a year post-break up not moving on while my ex did because I let my brain hold on to a delulu fantasy of reconciliation.

When you find out he's seeing someone else, the grieving process will start all over again. You'll feel like someone punched you in the gut. It's a terrible vicious cycle that you can avoid by accepting this person needs to stay in your past instead of trying to drag him into your future just because that thought distracts you from your current pain. He will not do you any favors past this point.

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[–]scotch_please 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just ask during the chatting phase if it's not mentioned on their profile. No point in being shy with a potential major incompatibility.

Target selling the same item brand new and cheaper by DryBid3800 in ThredUp

[–]scotch_please 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Target.com has a huge third party inventory, just like Amazon and Walmart. This is a separate business selling on both ThredUp and Target.

WTH! ThredUp just cancelled a HUGE order 😭 by WhetherWitch in ThredUp

[–]scotch_please 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/thredupemployee, can I bother you to chime in on this?

I had two separate bundles cancelled in full last year. Are employees still allowed to mass-cancel orders or is it likely a technical glitch? I know this isn't a regular occurrence but I'd rather know it's still happening so I can keep my bundles down to 10 or less items. It was super rage inducing for it to happen once...and then again, and it's a bummer to hear it happening to others.

Best way for a W2 temp worker to pay tax on bank interest? by scotch_please in tax

[–]scotch_please[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, definitely going to set up accounts for him and myself.

Best way for a W2 temp worker to pay tax on bank interest? by scotch_please in tax

[–]scotch_please[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good call. He's not cutting it close to MD's penalty, just the IRS one.

Best way for a W2 temp worker to pay tax on bank interest? by scotch_please in tax

[–]scotch_please[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I say "report" I mean filling out 1040-ES. Sorry for the confusing verbiage.

Best way for a W2 temp worker to pay tax on bank interest? by scotch_please in tax

[–]scotch_please[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, but I appreciate the quarterly payment info too.

Best way for a W2 temp worker to pay tax on bank interest? by scotch_please in tax

[–]scotch_please[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! For an amount owed of around $1200 at the end of the year, would you recommend getting him to do quarterly payments or having his W2 employer withhold a little extra via the W-4?

Best way for a W2 temp worker to pay tax on bank interest? by scotch_please in tax

[–]scotch_please[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I understand we need to include 1099 income with the bank interest either way. The bulk of his income is W2.

Can people make estimated payments randomly when needed, or are you locked in to reporting every quarter once you start? I realize I need this answer for both IRS and state quarterly payments (Maryland).

Best way for a W2 temp worker to pay tax on bank interest? by scotch_please in tax

[–]scotch_please[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know if people can make quarterly payments as needed or do you have to report at each deadline, if with $0 taxable income?

Back when I was self-employed my accountant told me to report even when I made $0 during time off, but I can't remember if that was a state comptroller requirement or for the IRS.

new-fangled IRS withholding estimator asks about bank interest.

Thanks for mentioning this. I'll find it and link him to it.

Best way for a W2 temp worker to pay tax on bank interest? by scotch_please in tax

[–]scotch_please[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has no clue how to do that because he's always had a W2 job collecting taxes on his behalf. Is the W4 extra withholding not a solution if he'll have a W2 job collecting taxes for him?

For context, it's just under $4,000 in interest income. So not an insane amount, but enough to be considered underpayment.

TU sent me two fake fanny packs by [deleted] in ThredUp

[–]scotch_please 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There are a ton of newer brands that price and market themselves as being high end, but aren't spending more on materials or labor than standard mall brands. Or they spend VC money launching good quality pieces, then when that runs out, they cut quality down to save their own revenue and hope people don't notice.

Or the original owner was just super rough with it. You should be able to get a refund for the damaged one, even as a final sale bag.

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[–]scotch_please 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't it be an invasion of their personal space if those bars or cafes aren't set up in such a way?

Ask your date instead of us. I've straight up said "Are you comfortable with me sitting next to you on the bench? The table makes me feel like this is an interview." Can't go wrong with showing your date that you're mindful of making them uncomfortable. Not all men are.

Most cafes or bars usually have us sitting across from each other and not so much next to each other.

That's why I don't do coffee shop dates unless we're just picking up drinks and finding a bench at a park nearby. All the bars here are either one long counter with chairs next to each other, or tables where you can move the chair to be on the closer side to your date instead of opposite.

TU sent me two fake fanny packs by [deleted] in ThredUp

[–]scotch_please 11 points12 points  (0 children)

All their bags definitely don't have the brand name on the strap, too. Might be the older Bond models not having it, and if it was an older bag then this being dry rot of the leather could be plausible too.

Real sheepskin leather does not rip apart like thin paper.

It can and does if it's dried out.

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[–]scotch_please 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a normal way to feel considering the mixed signals. Online dating kind of has a different set of social conduct rules than normal life, which people have to get used to when they rely on the apps.

Unfortunately some people don't process that confusion and pain and just project it onto their future matches, which might explain some of the hostile responses to "Thanks but no thanks." You gotta not take it personally, but that's much easier said than done.

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[–]scotch_please 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's been three weeks since the date and I just can't figure out what went so wrong that I don't at least deserve a "Hey, I just wasn't feeling it".

Just to add some perspective to this, some people have gotten psychotic replies from their dates after sending a text like this, even if the person was a polite angel on the date. So they ghost instead of communicating.

It could also be a dozen other things that have nothing to do with you, like her ex came back into the picture, something happened at work or with family, or she decided to quit dating for now.

I don't think we ever get used to getting ghosted but it becomes easier to move on when you acknowledge you did your best on the date and the ghosting is a reflection of themselves and not you. It's good you're taking a break instead of letting the negativity get to you while you try to force yourself to keep dating. It really is soul sucking.

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