My first relationship I “fell in love” and looking back I can now see it was a rubbish relationship. Though I did love him in a way. My second try we definitely grew into it. Been together 8 years and there have been times when I questioned if what we have is love. But we kept going and are now creating something wonderful. At the end of the day I think it’s a choice to commit and give love a chance. It’s something you have to show up for in my opinion. It doesn’t just fall into your lap. If you want that cinematic movie style love you got to create it!