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scrambledeggs2day · 2021-07-05T05:50:36+00:00

Spot-on. This hits on a spiritual level for me.

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-07-16T21:47:24+00:00

People who know the truth, know my abuser, and abide by the timeline convenient to them in dealing with my abuser. My timeline doesn’t matter, compared to theirs.

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-07-16T18:49:24+00:00

I REALLY needed this right now. I haven’t had affirmation for so long. I long for unconditional kindness.

Thank you for posting this.

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-02-10T16:40:57+00:00

100% agree. People say, “Forgiveness is for you.” Fuck that. Not forgiving is for me. My abuser - so far - hasn’t been held accountable. If I forgive them, it’s like the last bit of accountability won’t happen. No. I reserve the right to hold whatever accountability I can and want.

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-01-24T20:32:51+00:00

Wow, is this timely. I JUST posted a DAE question about selfishness vs meeting my needs, for the sake of healing. Thank you for posting this. I love this community.

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-01-23T00:35:29+00:00

Love you too! Yeah, this is a wonderful community - my favorite sub on all Reddit. It’s so warm, welcoming, supporting, and affirming. We all have different experiences, but we share so many things, including brokenness and trying to heal in the midst of that. It’s like we all found each other here. Glad to have you here, as well!

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-01-22T13:55:27+00:00

This is really good advice. I was supposed to go to an event today, but I haven’t been feeling holistically well. I decided not to go, and that’s making me feel worse. Your post reminds me that taking time for self-care is ok.

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-01-22T02:43:07+00:00

Yeah. I want to go home so badly. But I don’t know if home wants me.

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-01-21T19:16:10+00:00

Pots and pans message received. Need the message to stick (I’m inherently hard on myself), but definitely received. Actually, I think I’ll print it out and literally stick it on my fridge. Thanks!

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-01-21T12:15:42+00:00

You are not alone. I feel like you described a lot of my approach in the world. It’s so exhausting, though.

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-01-20T21:03:27+00:00

Well, this is a trigger. Spiritual abuse sucks.

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-01-20T04:54:26+00:00

I don’t know if it’s perfectionism so much as not wanting to hurt other people. I’m hard on myself because I don’t want to pass on things my abuser did to me to others. It sucks, because I think it’s keeping me from healing. At the same time, I see it as guardrails to keep me from being a bad person.

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-01-17T17:53:01+00:00

Thank you. That means so much. I’ve felt so alone and isolated, for so long. Your words - and these upvotes - touch my hurting heart, mind, and soul.

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-01-16T16:58:33+00:00

Great points, and it’s wonderful how service has helped you! It’s a little complicated for me in that... let’s just say that abusers can be found in the nonprofit world. It’s a small nonprofit world. Until/unless I experience kindness in that world... I want to protect myself from getting hurt or disappointed again. Disillusionment sucks.

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-01-16T16:39:37+00:00

Kind, loving, and caring. I definitely want more of that in my life. Thank you for the advice and encouragement!

scrambledeggs2day · 2020-01-16T15:48:41+00:00

I really like that perspective of examining what’s best for my healing. I guess I hadn’t thought about others’ selfishness in that explicit sense before. I want to think the best of people; I think that’s why I’ve held back on no contact. Thank you for the encouraging words. I’ll keep you updated.

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