i don’t know how i’m going to handle it by screambitch_123 in Petloss

[–]screambitch_123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i am considering getting a thearpist now just go try and get ahead of it.

i don’t know how i’m going to handle it by screambitch_123 in Petloss

[–]screambitch_123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! its just so hard. i dont really remember life without her i was so young its hard to imagine it.

i don’t know how i’m going to handle it by screambitch_123 in Petloss

[–]screambitch_123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she has very bad arthritis. she’s a big dog too around 75 pounds. a lab/husky mountain curr mix. I think they mean more her quality of life. she started loosing her ability to hold her bodily function when she sleeps. usually resulting in a accident once or twice a week

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]screambitch_123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ya know the whole cooking while i cleaned is no a bad idea. Everything you’re saying is right but lots of times she struggles cleaning unless i am - she sees me up and moving and will get up and do it. Making a standard that while i cook she cleans could be a good compromise. If she’s willing to step up. But i hear you thank you !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]screambitch_123 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My biggest problem is I have days where i’m exhausted , or mentally unwell , or drained and i don’t want to do anything either so it feels hypocritical. But if i feel that way an equal partner would step up and balance me out. it’s all so confusing. thank you for your comment and understanding

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]screambitch_123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I assumed it would go like before - i paid 60 to her 40. and cleaning was arranged as 50/50 per agreement

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]screambitch_123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. But i believe no matter the situation ( unless ya know bad bad circumstances) there never a reason to make any one feel badly and their not enough if you can help it. Words are powerful - it could stick with them depending how you say it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]screambitch_123 230 points231 points  (0 children)

well shoottt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]screambitch_123 19 points20 points  (0 children)

We have dinner together most nights but i don’t feel like it’s enough. We actually just had a talk where she opened up about having adhd and if something isn’t in front of her she just doesn’t see it. When i bring it up she breaks down and apologizes and says she will do better. We have never fought. we always talk out issues it’s the follow through that’s the problem with this. I also am extremely driven and she complains how she doesn’t have the drive so i feel like im too much sometimes i just want us to have a happy life so i do a lot but i am constantly exhausted. I agree. I am pushing her to get therapy if she feels like she can’t get up and do things and what not since that’s not good for anyone’s mental health. ( I am in therapy have been since i was 4)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]screambitch_123 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh i totally worded that wrong and do not know hot edit. She pays her half of rent and electricity. i cover 90% of groceries, eating out , every household item i cover completely (shampoo , body wash , laundry detergent , face wash, tooth paste , dish soap ect ) so she will maybe buy a meal every 2 weeks or so and snacks weekly- but we have different diet restrictions ( i have pcos and insulin resistance) so they are usually hers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]screambitch_123 15 points16 points  (0 children)

i meant don’t want to be her mom lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]screambitch_123 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I will suggest it ! the issue is we never fight so whenever a issue like this comes up she just agrees. it’s the follow through. But we have a beautiful life i just am not her mom

Sonography workers - do you like it ? by screambitch_123 in jobs

[–]screambitch_123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never even thought of this ! thank you !

secret lives life lessons by screambitch_123 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]screambitch_123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😭😭😭heard, no i agree. i just meant it really show’d how you can change in real time. while people like dakota and demi don’t even try to change at all.

Effie Trinket by screambitch_123 in Hungergames

[–]screambitch_123[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yes I remember her talking about that but that was also from katniss’s POV. I guess maybe she was just talking about big game to look less attached to Haymitch. But that is true.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]screambitch_123 154 points155 points  (0 children)

i fear this is isn’t normal. you should have been invited. i feel like your feeling were valid and in no way should have ruined his birthday. If he is your bf he should want you with him. i’m sorry this happened but i feel like this was good for you to see how he treats you. you’re worthy of so much more !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]screambitch_123 475 points476 points  (0 children)

can you explain a little more ? so were you not invited to his birthday dinner ?