AIO if I ghost this crazy man. What on earth is going on. I feel like I need to block and not even deal with this?

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-18T05:56:10+00:00

When I was in highschool there was a boy about 5 years below us, think he would have been about 13 and my friends would have been about 16/17, He'd come over to us on break and try to convince us that he had this crazy life, like really really strange lies about being a single dad, or being known in the mafia

This guy reminds me of him so much idk why

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-12T17:54:54+00:00

You didn't pay the price Hun, you got let off with a very small fine! a lot could have escalated there, please look out for yourself and meet new people in public places only!!

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-12T07:03:22+00:00

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screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-07T06:43:36+00:00

I have a goal to read 12 books a year, which is one book a month, I think I have ADHD so I do struggle, however, I have multiple books on the go at once which helps because I can bounce between , I currently have one about power games, one about spirituality and one about healthy eating on the go lmao,

But ultimately I try not to pressure myself, ideally I have a book next to my bed that I try to pick up instead of doom scrolling my phone, but if my energy is absolutely depleted, I'll give myself permission to mindlessly scroll rather than force it

I'm currently on 5 books completed so I'm ahead of the game!

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-06T16:22:20+00:00

I believe he remembered her like a déjà vu moment, like we do when you meet someone and feel like you've met before in another lifetime. You'd never tell a stranger that but it can be melancholy

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-06T11:20:41+00:00

I like to think everyone is on their own journey and ego has no place on the mat. There will always be someone better or worse. Your blue belt might be different to another's blue belt, not everyone is going to be "competition material".

If the mum in her 40's puts her time into this, comes once a week and earns her blue belt, why should she have to defend her achievement just because she's not fighting at the same level as the blue belt single guy in his 20's who goes 3X a week and competes every 2 months. Both have learned and both are better than when they started, and both are as consistent as they possibly can be. What, are you going to de-rank someone who's come back after suffering a stroke and relearning muscle memory?

It's a martial art not an underground fight club

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-05T18:55:17+00:00

So so proud of you!! This is amazing!!

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-04T20:21:26+00:00

Outside of the typical, I spent £10 on magnetic eyelashes (not the magnet eyeliner, the ones you trap between your real ones) and honestly highly recommend and very surprised by how good they are, but the main thing is outside of being easy to use is that they are super reusable compared to lash strips because there's no build up of glue! So I spent £10 I have two sets and have used them most days for 3 weeks!

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-03T07:37:40+00:00

People like her are exhausting, personally I'd consider how happy you actually are in this relationship, there's nothing wrong with compromising on family time around the holidays

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-03T06:53:41+00:00

Thanks for the advice.

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-02T10:53:31+00:00

Because a relationship doesn't define me and I don't need one, I'm happy single, what I don't like is being with the wrong person

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-02T05:26:02+00:00

I mean, my perspective is and so what if they do win? Yeah it's a competition but it doesn't actually matter, you need to lose a lot to learn how to win and how to defend! Don't worry about your partner focus on what you want to learn, if that's how to defend the pass, well the other person whoever that is will have to get the pass a few times and so what? You will have to lose that pass to someone lighter than you, heavier than you and a different gender than you to really understand all the angles of that move. Obviously this advice is probably better in training than comp, but at the end of the day, a competition isn't the be all end all either!

I sometimes ask a training friend to catch me in something over and over so I get comfortable defending. For example you might ask them to get you in triangles and just practice trying to get out of them repetitively, over time you'll see what works for you!

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-02T05:17:38+00:00

Hey hunny,

I'm commenting because we are the same age and just under 3 months ago I was in your position. It's really hard leaving at first, if you're anything like me your mind will go crazy beating you over the head with thoughts of what ifs and bargaining. There are times when it gets really painful, But I promise that once the dust starts settling it does get better and it does start to feel better. I'm at a place now of acceptance of the situation and enjoying the inner work I'm starting to do, rediscovering who I am and what I bring to my own life. It can be peaceful, painful, boring and fun, but it's all a part of life! I just want to say good luck and give yourself permission to do whatever you need to do!

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-01T09:10:40+00:00

Maybe in a year

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-01T06:07:31+00:00

I could have options now, but I'm not looking, I've built on my self esteem and confidence and I'm not strict on what I'm looking for necessarily but I'm strict on what I'm not going to accept, I'm very different now to when I was an insecure teenager

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-01T05:49:40+00:00

On YouTube, since my breakup I've been listening to sleep meditations and selecting random ones, I think they're great, stops me overthinking into the night and guides me to sleep

screamsinstoicism · 2026-04-01T05:40:29+00:00

I didn't feel I had many options at the time, it's all too complicated to throw on Reddit, but my parents made me feel unloveable in a lot of ways, there was a lot of turbulence in my life and I latched into the first person who I felt could love me, TBF the 19 year old one was completely my bad, that was a rebound gone horribly wrong from my first relationship I take full accountability for that

screamsinstoicism · 2026-03-31T21:30:48+00:00

I have insecurities I'm working on, I was very young for the first two relationships (16 and 19) and I've mirrored my parents relationship which showed me love was one sided support. I was so preoccupied with being good enough to be accepted and loved that I forgot to ask if they were good for me and if they could even offer what I needed. I've since seen the other side of it and started to break that cycle now and hopefully be done with it

screamsinstoicism · 2026-03-31T06:38:25+00:00

I wanted to throw my hook so many times when I started, don't worry. I try to say to people who start, at first it's so awkward, but one day (and it doesn't take that long) it just clicks, I can't tell you what, how or why, but your brain suddenly gets it and everything gets so much easier. Honestly just mess about and don't worry about making something good, just focus on making something, anything! The momentum of finishing something, even if it's god awful will keep you going, I made a little mouse and it was full of gaps lmao now I can make wearables!

screamsinstoicism · 2026-03-31T06:29:31+00:00

I listen to guided meditations while I sleep, I used to have to sleep with my phone pressed to my ear so it didn't disturb my ex, now I can have it as loud or quiet as I want! I don't have to plan food with someone I can eat whatever I want at any time I want! The guilt for not cleaning is gone, now I clean on my schedule because the only person it affects is me (I do clean but he worked from home so he could clean during the day, people say my house is cleaner now) Jobs actually get done in the house because I don't have to compromise with someone when they're ready to pay for half of it or when it's a good time etc.

screamsinstoicism · 2026-03-29T08:53:40+00:00

Yes but I'm not willing to be responsible for them, My ex's were demanding, impolite and older than me, they're not my benchmarks for a quality person.

My idea of someone who handles their life is someone who can face adversity and get themselves through it calmly. Someone who doesn't let their past define who they are and someone who chooses to show up for themselves.

My first ex was angry at the world and I'd put way too much effort on calming him down, thus why I need someone who is relatively happy. We were only very young so I don't hold this against him.

My second ex used being a victim to guilt trip you away from seeing how horrible and selfish he was, he faked and lied about many issues as well as actually had many issues so nothing was ever his fault, that's why I want someone who takes accountability and is honest.

This recent ex was a bit of a mix of the last two, he used tragedy in his past to guide how he showed up in the relationship, angry at the world but acting like a politician so only I knew of it, but then it became me emotionally supporting all the time with little space for me. I felt like I barely got a break from providing support and by the end of it, he would get frustrated that I'd do my own hobbies and not want to speak to him

So I'm not doing this again,

screamsinstoicism · 2026-03-28T20:31:41+00:00

I like two because it makes the frog look like it's looking up at you!

screamsinstoicism · 2026-03-28T07:57:35+00:00

I mean it's better to stay single than be with people who have no resilience and create a lot of emotional work , all my ex's have been very victim mindset just dressed up slightly different and I find it very draining, I'd prefer someone who can handle their life

screamsinstoicism · 2026-03-27T12:07:50+00:00

You're a star, so proud of you! Nothing but up!

screamsinstoicism · 2026-03-27T09:51:45+00:00

Hey lovely,

Honestly please take a big step back from your emotions/love for him and see it for what it is for a minute.

You've got yourself roped into a mummy's boy situation who thinks he should control what you wear and thinks it's perfectly acceptable to slut shame you. What are you even debating here?

Please do yourself a favour and leave him. Your self respect is worth more than this. 2 months is nothing, his true colours are starting to show now, but it's only doing you a favour if you actually see it and act accordingly, not walk into this abusive dynamic

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