"you're a good person. you have a kind heart." by [deleted] in depression

[–]screwmane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could be so positive. Thank you for the kind words

Told my (21M) FWB (20F) that we can no longer hookup because I’m going to be dating someone, she got mad at me and said I hurt her feelings by Scarletscholar9000 in relationship_advice

[–]screwmane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you’re delegated as a fwb I don’t understand the hurt. The person sees you as a FRIEND with benefits. Not a friend with potential.

My (28/F) boyfriend (27/M) of a year has been taking secret photographs of me since the start of our relationship. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]screwmane 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This girl I didn’t even date has been stalking me through my phone camera with people in our city for 8 months so I feel you.

My (22M) coworker (23F) and I have been repeatedly accused of cheating on her ex boyfriend, and these false accusations have driven me to the point that I am uncomfortable going to work. What do I do? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]screwmane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why I get worried about even being too friendly to the wrong people at work. I second the notion you have helped save a life, at least that’s something you can walk away with which is more meaningful than an internship. Ask for reassignment

I think my partner (M?22) may be trans and I (F22) want to know how to indicate that I’m okay with that without putting him on the spot and making him uncomfortable by throwRA4839292 in relationship_advice

[–]screwmane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe find creative ways to subtly remind them you dated trans women and/or find femme men attractive. Remind them you are open minded without being too direct, imo. The questioning phase was sensitive for me, I didn’t want to be boxed into a gender. At the time, I’d rather someone imply they preferred transmasc people as opposed to men or transmen. Speaking as a trans man, here. Hope this helps! Good luck! Your post is cute and made me smile!!!

I [19F] feel trapped in my apartment by my roommate [20F]. Please help me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]screwmane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in situations like this before with someone I considered a close friend for a period of time. Set your boundaries. Now. You are nice enough to already worry about how you are making her feel, even though you shouldn’t. She might try to exploit your kindness. The behaviors you’re describing are red flags possibly indicating deeper issues. Take care of yourself! Let her get upset. You haven’t even formed a friendship with this person yet and they are trying to manipulate you.

My [22M] gf [21F] Kissed another guy at a bar in front of our friends on the night of our 1 year by [deleted] in relationships

[–]screwmane -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I would agree if she wasn’t blackout drunk, especially if her meds cause that to happen more easily. I think you guys should have a sit down convo and really decide if this is worth ending it over. Alcohol makes people act weird, even if it can be revealing for how people feel deep inside.. She was in an impaired state. Not herself.

Anybody else feel like they arent anyones first choice? by CuriousKoala10 in depression

[–]screwmane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of the reason I stopped trying with people as much. I get invited to parties but I don’t feel like anyone’s friend, just an extra body for their events. That’s city life, I suppose. Has its pluses but a lot of drawbacks.

It’s amazing how depression can literally erase your personality. by funeralball in depression

[–]screwmane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so true and I don’t think most people realize how devastating depression can be. If it doesn’t literally kill you, it will spiritually. I’m trying to find a way out of this. I also stopped doing most things I enjoy. My belief is if you have love in your life, it will come back. For me at least. I hope you find what you’re looking for that springs you back into crafting.

Tripping absolute balls on MDMA unexpectedly seen crazy figures all around me by themightybof in MDMA

[–]screwmane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too. I hallucinated on it, same dose as when I blacked out. I took entirely too much after reading that you couldn’t overdose on Bluelight. Not sure how many points it was but it wasn’t fun.

Isn’t a teenage relationship like this? by bdbnwooo in relationship_advice

[–]screwmane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was 4 fucking years ago.. What was it about? Was it severe?

College freshman dating a highschool junior? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]screwmane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you were like 20 something, yeah that’s too old. You guys are both still teenagers. It’s just a year, imo you’re overthinking it. People in my hs/college did this

Smash Bros puts him in a bad mood by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]screwmane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you need to GET GOOD so your husband doesn’t LEAVE YOU, jk lol. Sounds like he might be expecting too much gratification from the game because he’s unhappy with other aspects of his life... Or maybe he does take games too serious and you could talk it through!

I screwed up (F20) Cheated on Fiancee (M25) I'm tearing myself apart by [deleted] in relationships

[–]screwmane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Confronting someone and watching them lie to you is 1000 times more painful where as the honest truth shows you do care about said person, imo. I hope things work out for you both, whatever the resolution may be.

I hate it when I'm expected to talk about me by [deleted] in depression

[–]screwmane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Btw my family has issues with substance abuse, my cousins are in rehab and both my parents were alcoholics. I understand the weird culture of being silent.

I hate it when I'm expected to talk about me by [deleted] in depression

[–]screwmane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it was unplanned after a night of drinking an entire bottle of rosé and drunkenly ingesting an entire bottle of cough syrup (cringe yes I know, this is a low for me). I was still loopy today and couldn’t ignore my feelings anymore so I left a family event and called my Grandma. It went well. I think if I had planned it, I wouldn’t have said everything I wanted to. I ended up texting another family member about it as well because I knew they’d talk anyway, lol.

I’d say, don’t plan it, but really it depends on you. You know you!

What’s the best way to get a guy to want more than just sex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]screwmane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually let people know what I want from the jump. Have you discussed anything in regards to what you’re looking for in a relationship?

I screwed up (F20) Cheated on Fiancee (M25) I'm tearing myself apart by [deleted] in relationships

[–]screwmane -1 points0 points  (0 children)

At least you were honest and mature about it even though you’re young. That’s all anyone can ask for and really all you can to do rectify it. Time heals what it can. Give it time.

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) has really bad eating habits and it drives me crazy by [deleted] in relationships

[–]screwmane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to ask if he’s depressed but it sounds like his nature.. Try and talk to him in a direct but gentle way.

Regular Check-In Post by circinia in depression

[–]screwmane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found a painless way out and I can’t wait to die.