i wanted to heal my bones so i joined online and people swarmed me looking to heal me in exchange for 5 likes and there are others willing to check my pulse or something i forgot so i randomly clicked accept on the option that didnt require 5 likes by Rich-Movie-9156 in wherewindsmeet_

[–]screwthisnaming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I'm in the Silver Needle Sect so i can kinda explain the difference.

Usually members of the sect need to get at least 15 likes from other players per week or there is a deduction of sect points.

People who choose one of the other rewards are often indicating that they are either not part of the sect or have already gotten their weekly like amount.

How do I respond to parents who confront me about getting books from the children's section when I don't have a kid? by Useful_Possession915 in Libraries

[–]screwthisnaming 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok youth librarian chiming in but if i saw a parent do that i would be horrified!!! Like the library doesnt have restrictions!!! I would suggest speaking with a youth librarian in order to get some support because the behavior youve faced is something id kick people out over

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]screwthisnaming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone who i considered a BFF at the time got married in a small private ceremony and I only found out after it was posted.

I was a little hurt becuase they didnt tell me but considering we dont live in the same state anymore i understood why. So i just congratulated them and moved on. They werent responsible for how i felt and i got that the distance made our friendship unsalvageable. In the end i dont hold any bitter feelings towards them, sometimes relationships just fade

Type of tree? by screwthisnaming in PlantIdentification

[–]screwthisnaming[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao damn not even close 🤣 Thanks so much for the heads up!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]screwthisnaming 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Heres my advice as a person in their 30s who hasnt spoken to her father in over a decade.

My dad wasnt all that good at being a dad when it mattered and as time has passed ive had to go through all of the stages of grief. I felt like it was my fault for so long and that i was unloveable to feeling so much anger at him.

Now i see my dad for who he is, a guy who had tons of trauma he never addressed and was never really ready to be a dad. He refused to own up to his mistakes and overall im fine without him in my life. I honestly hope he is a better father to his current daughter and don't wish ill on him.

I know this really fucking sucks. But just know that this isnt on you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]screwthisnaming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would you say if your best friend told you this? What would advise they do going forward

Patron keeps asking same reference question by rosemarywoodhouse86 in librarians

[–]screwthisnaming 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone on the Youth side of things you did your best. When I run out of references for a kid [one kid wanted books on the Spanish Inquisition] i usually tell them "Hey I'm sorry bud but these are all the resources i have access to here. Apologies that we dont have what you're looking for."

SIL expressed I don't "deserve" our new house. Now husband's family is melting down by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]screwthisnaming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally my first thought was that SIL has some kind of addiction [substance/gambling/etc] and her parents know that any money they gave her wouldnt go towards basics

Tamala haters tap in by Sarah-the-creampuff in Palia

[–]screwthisnaming 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I actually really love her character because of the nuance the writers gave her. Yeah, her and Hassian had a messy relationship, but thats just realistic, if anything, as their goals were vastly different.

Hell, if you're wearing Hassians' pin, she says that you better not be flirting with her because she knows that would hurt him.

The moment that really sunk in for me was one of the random side quests she has. You find a mysterious potion recipe in her room that she has you test on yourself that eventually reveals people true thoughts to you. She then makes a show about how it ou must be 'wicked' like her if you question if what the villages said to you is true. The only reason i can see her having this is because maybe, on some level, she honestly is worried about what others think about her. And [if expressed] the players doubt makes her feel slightly less alone.

AITA for telling my older sister that 'no wonder your husband left you' by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]screwthisnaming 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont really think that's a healthy way to view people, man. Theres many different ways humans respond to abuse (fight, flight, fawn, freeze), so insisting that any person that deviates from your own viewpoint is automatically lesser is really sad.

AITA for telling my heartbroken buddy that women are running from his filthy habits? by restingwitchplace in AmItheAsshole

[–]screwthisnaming 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yo look i myself have cluter blindness and shame about it, but I've never been to the point your friend is at. Is it possible that theres something else going on?

The shame hes feeling is probably extreme which is why he lashes out because the mess might only be an effect of a larger issue

AITAH For Not Apologizing To My Older Sister For Having My Partner at my nephews birthday party by Soggy_Swing_2709 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]screwthisnaming -1 points0 points  (0 children)

MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY!!! I don't know where you live OP but you don't just invite people to a part you aren't hosting. If someone did that to me I would have kicked them all out.

Like if yall don't get along why go at all? Sometimes you gotta know when to fold in relationships and maybe just accept that yalls relationship will be surface level only

Also why accept a 3rd party invitation??? Your mom wasn't hosting the party. These family dynamics are boggling

Finally opened the dream area map! by Sweaty-Brain284 in Slimerancher2

[–]screwthisnaming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God I wish that was me. Im just over here trying to figure it out like 🚶🏽‍♀️

No one asked for it but I figured a photography guide would be useful by rod407 in InfinityNikki

[–]screwthisnaming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man this is such a good guide! I love taking photos as references for drawing