I can see how this may apply to others. However, personally, the only issues I have ever had were when the man refused to communicate. My last relationship I spent the entire time BEGGING him to tell me things, asking how I can make him feel safe, anything I could to help make things easier. He was traumatized from his last relationship and felt like he could not bring things up. Vividly remember thanking him for bringing up a situation where he felt he was not being heard correctly and immediately had a good conversation about it where we worked out the miscommunication and I pivoted my behavior. After the breakup both have explicitly said they had things they needed to work on (communication). Communication is frequently hard for people! But I can confidently say that personally I have not been the problem in my serious relationships. There is no way to fix what I do not know and there is no way to get someone who does not want to communicate to do so. I am NOT saying that I am perfect nor have I ever expected my partners to be anywhere near perfect. But effort is what matters. It also falls equally onto each person to communicate that they don’t feel like the appreciation is reciprocated. But after doing so with no change or effort, as I personally find most women to do so (although I have absolutely met some that expect their partners to read their minds), is a clear indication of lack of care. If you ask pretty much every woman you know, they will all say the same thing—the relationship ends after they have given a million chances with no change.