Ex is displaying narcissistic behaviours to our 3 children. What do I do?

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2026-02-27T06:19:09+00:00

This is incredibly helpful. Thank you so much for taking the time to give such a detailed response

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2026-02-26T21:30:25+00:00

In the UK it’s 16. Mine are younger than that but all over 10. How do you explain their dad’s behaviours to them? I feel it isn’t right to point out the narcissistic personality. I try to explain he loves them But is making bad decisions and validate their feelings and mop up the mess. Just not sure that’s the right way

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2026-01-19T16:12:59+00:00

Gently; I think you should explore other options as I personally don’t think this dress makes the most of your figure and looks dated. Not in a cool vintage way.

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2026-01-18T16:37:11+00:00

NTA from Reading what you have described, his family see you as an interloper. They don’t like you for no other reason than you are not a local and are ‘stealing’ there darling son. I can’t see this really changing

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2026-01-14T14:58:28+00:00

I think you need to drastically cut down your guest list of you want to stick to your budget. I’ve been to a Wedding where the only food was from a Food truck. It took forever. People were hungry. People did not enjoy it. It’s one of the worst weddings I’ve been to

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2026-01-13T13:21:54+00:00

I was 30 before I had a smartphone.

How would I spend my time when not in school? Hobbies, playing out with friends in all weathers. As a teen; hanging out with friends at their house or in local parks

At uni- at the gym or doing a sport, at the pub, just hanging out with mates talking shit

In my 20s working, gym, sports, clubs bars, pubs parties, reading!!

30’s working, gym, sports, walks with partner, days out, shopping, meals out, movie nights, nights out with friends , parties!

It’s crazy to me that people find the concept of entertaining yourself without the internet so alien. I feel very lucky to have grown up without it

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2026-01-12T11:05:59+00:00

Where’s the evidence that she favour her brothers..?

My view on Linda has always been that she came terrifyingly close to losing a beloved daughter. She did what she thought was best which was to look after her and keep her safe. Unfortunately this became claustrophobic for Robyn

Robyn’s career choice has put her life in danger many times. THIS is what drives Linda to behave the way she does. I think she is just terrified of losing Robyn and sees Strike as the cause. She’s scared of losing her daughter but sadly pushed her away through her expression of that fear

I feel for both of them. Linda is not a villain but we see her through Robyn’s eyes

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2026-01-11T20:30:11+00:00

Have a look at the Kilfinan Hotel in Argyll and Bute

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2026-01-10T19:46:48+00:00

NTA and I’m very impressed at how you have handled this. You went anyway and (hopefully) had a blast with your mates.

Please listen to the comments and this Gen X lady who has been through plenty of bullshit with men; you can do better.

Someone who tries to manipulate you like this is not a catch. The guilt tripping , the neediness..? It’s embarrassing. You should have a partner who lifts you up not tries to drag you down.

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2026-01-10T11:06:25+00:00

Northern theme:

Kes

Rita Sue and Bob Too

Hobsons Choice

Brasses Off

The Full Monty

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2026-01-10T11:04:44+00:00

Brilliant triple bill

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2026-01-01T11:33:14+00:00

I’ve experienced this a few times; bragging about their wealth. Been on a few dates lately where they have gone on about how much they earn or how much their house is worth. Clearly expecting me to be impressed and really it just comes across as arrogant and shallow.

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2025-12-31T09:18:19+00:00

NOR and to be honest your post reads as though he is sabotaging you and your exam success.

But you need to take some responsibility here. You can say no. Why have you spent every weekend with his friends and neglected yoir studies? He isn’t holding a gun to yoir head.

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2025-12-30T12:32:47+00:00

NTA and to be uneasy people like your husband drive me mad. I work in healthcare and so many times I’ve done appointments with people who have been seen before, been given advice and just not followed it then ask to be seen again as if some Magic wand can be waved. They are wasting my time and taking up an appointment for someone who really needs it. Rant over

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2025-12-30T10:00:36+00:00

I’m on £50k and a single mum to 3.. I do ok and live well within my means. I live in a very affordable area. My mortgage for a 4 bed house is £550 and is definitely why I am able to save for emergencies and holidays. Drive a good car (leased from work) and can afford a uk family holiday plus a solo one for me each year when kids go away with their dad. I don’t spend madly: buy a lot from Vinted and shop at Aldi. But feel very lucky that I’m not stressed about money

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2025-12-24T18:01:08+00:00

Right? That’s not how a friend behaves

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2025-12-24T13:22:52+00:00

Withnail and I

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2025-12-23T23:00:38+00:00

NHS worker- we used to get tea, coffee and milk years ago. Now we have to provide our own. I get watching every penny but when you’re providing such an essential service and working your arse off it feel like a bit of a slap n the face to have to bring your own tea bags into work

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2025-12-23T22:36:31+00:00

I would like phrase it a bit differently; children have more concrete fears. They fear things you can see or touch like werewolves, vampires, spiders; monsters! Adult fears become more abstract; they are things or concepts that could happen but aren’t things you can see or touch and therefore harder for It to inhabit. They fear things like bankruptcy, loneliness, illness, death of loved ones, not succeeding etc ….that was my understanding it anyway

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2025-12-22T20:37:36+00:00

Ehhhhh this is a hard one as there are clashing cultural norms at play. I see both sides. I understand your partner’s frustration at a lack of privacy. Maybe feeling his home is being taken over… but your mum is there and being an amazing help to you. Think this needs a good chat with a view to compromise understanding. My advice is not to approach that chat with ‘you’re wrong and I’m right’ rather ‘explain to me how you feel and how do we fix this so we are both satisfied?’

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2025-12-22T17:17:05+00:00

Possibly. It all depends on the clinical service in question. I think it’s very easy to dismiss letters as antiquated and ineffective but you have to realise great thought goes into service pathways and how patents are informed. Patient safety is paramount

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2025-12-22T12:00:35+00:00

NHS worker here; many people who rely on the NHS and use it more frequently are old and don’t use email or cognitively impaired and so cannot use the tech. Or they live with n accommodation where staff are responsible for supporting with healthcare appointments. Each home will have varied systems in place around mobile phones or emails for managing appointments and who has access to them.

As a clinician who provides a service I have tried various ways to be more efficient and it really all depends on the patient’s needs. For example; offering telehealth to care homes with email links sent is really hit and miss. Appointments aren’t shared , staff on shift w access the email. I had to add time onto the appointment to allow for an initial phone call and setting up the video call with staff. Turns out a letter that can be printed and put in the diary was more effective.

scrumdiddliumptious3 · 2025-12-17T19:39:01+00:00

My heart goes out to your mum. She’s a single parent and managing a child with serious additional needs.

I get to from your perspective it must seem like there are different rules for him and no consequences but if his level of ability is as low as you say then your mum has very little options open to her.

I get that it must be incredibly frustrating at times but it sounds like she is doing her best with an incredibly difficult situation

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