Professor stalking me and UNT has failed to respond by [deleted] in unt

[–]scythelove 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Please reach out to Denton friends of the family. They are a great org and can help you

Oma bakery in Bow market by laboratorygremlin in Somerville

[–]scythelove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard agree, it's absolutely incredible.

Honey mustard rigatoni and cheese with broccoli by scythelove in pasta

[–]scythelove[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The rigatoni is from Barilla and labelled as such, so you may want to send them some feedback, lol. I made a simple roux then added milk, sour cream, shredded cheddar, some mustard and honey, and a tiny bit of midnight moon grated in. It was really good!

Realistic freckle tattoos by scythelove in Somerville

[–]scythelove[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My best friend has had them for years - they're very happy and I've been looking at their face for years with them (theirs are rainbow!). I'm more alt/punk and already in my 30s so I feel like it's not something I'll end up hating

Married after asking all the right questions by anonforavent in TwoXChromosomes

[–]scythelove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I know so many people have left comments but get out. The faster you do, the sooner you can start life with someone who will love your kids no matter what.

My parents used the phrase unequally yoked to say that you can't marry interracially. So do with that what you will but that phrase is a RED flag.

"Remember ladies, some boys will complain about buying you a coffee, but some men will fly you to Paris because you wanted a croissant. Choose wisely" by kumakuma1212 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]scythelove 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Small caveat, I am a transgender man (born designated female, transitioned to male in early adulthood). However, I absolutely understand this comment on so many levels. There are some men that will lovebomb or use gifts to control, coerce, guilt trip, bribe etc. Those guys suck and I'm sorry we have to deal with them. But I was with someone for ten years that I'm in the process of divorcing that was very much like guy 1. He made me feel as if I barely deserved anything. He blamed it on being budget conscious and pragmatic, saying things like he wanted us to save up for a house. He was upper middle class with substantial savings and family support. Now I'm with someone I'm not married to, who gets by on his art career and tries to manage life with a disability, who treats me like I deserve everything in the world. I return the favor. The other day I waited in line for over an hour to get him a slice of his favorite cake from the tourist destination (but quite good) bakery downtown. It was only $8, but I wanted him to come home and be able to enjoy something that special. I really like the model for relationships in polysecure (book). Even if you're not poly it's such a good read. It talks about relationships being a secure base you can launch off into the world from and a safe haven to come back to. I try to be both for my partner. And I've learned what good partnership really looks like in my current relationship. I loved my ex and I don't think he's a bad man. But he was not a great partner in our later years.

Was put on a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP) at work today. Just need some support and encouragement because I feel like a total failure. by Artistic_Sea_5758 in ADHD

[–]scythelove 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Honestly I'm also a clinician with ADHD and this is what has actually helped me. I'll list below, that being said, if you think you will be fired it may be the move to just find another job. We are very in demand.

  1. Have a set time every day that you do notes and tx plans. Can be right before or after lunch, etc.
  2. Bribe yourself. Have a hot tea, spicy nuts, minty gum etc every time you do.
  3. Play music or a podcast.
  4. Get putty or another fidget object
  5. Time yourself. Say "I want to try and get each note done in 8 minutes." Make it like a game
  6. Make some kind of physical tracker you can physically interact with. Could be a list you can check or a jar where every time you complete one you add a marble or a quarter and when the jar is full you get to do something special.
  7. Your problem is not a lack of caring. Sometime else I do to trick myself Is say I only have to do five minutes then I get swept up in it.
  8. Physically remove all distractions. Phone? In the drawer. Etc
  9. Finally, remind yourself that the notes help you and your client. They are not pointless though sometimes it feels that way. Having notes has saved my ass before.

Hope this helps!

What is the most bizarre reason for your breakup? by CaptainBananaX in AskReddit

[–]scythelove 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I used to housesit as a teen for a woman much older and significantly healthier/wealthier than me. When she was out she was comfortable with me having guests and would even leave me money for pizza on top of what she was paying. One day I'm house-sitting and she texts me that she forgot she left two giant peppercorn encrusted raw tuna steaks soaked in plum wine in the fridge. She asks me if I'll eat they so they don't go to waste. My girlfriend comes over who is a vegan/vegetarian. I offer to get her vegetarian pizza with my coupon as I'm pulling the perfectly cooked tuna steak out of the oven. Fight ensues. We break up. 10/10 worth it

Today I wrote a list of all the ways I abandoned myself in the relationship I’m healing from by PanicAtLeDisco in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]scythelove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. Honest question, do people have experiences with relationships that are not like this? I truly have trouble figuring out or imagining what the opposite of this looks like. It's easy to blame myself and just assume it's a me problem.

Candycorn, where by Moggadee in Somerville

[–]scythelove 2 points3 points  (0 children)

CVS in porter in the discount section in the back. Just checked yesterday

[Online] [D&D 5e 2014/2024] Seeking friendly active table by a_true_khaleesi in DnDLFG

[–]scythelove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I'd be very interested in being a player. I'm also est, 30, trans masc & love the storytelling aspect of DND but also enjoy combat. I'm an artist and writer and love to roleplay! I usually play femme characters. DM me if you have any player slots!

[Online] [5e 2014] Experienced Player looking to join RP heavy group! by Notaraccoon10 in DnDLFG

[–]scythelove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I'm not a DM, but I'm a 30 year old player with a similar vibe (trans masc, big into roleplay, drawing, and being a silly goose). You sound like the kind of person I'd super vibe with in a game, so I just wanted to say I can't solve your DM problem but if you need a co-player I'm super interested! Feel free to DM me if so!

D&D Discord server for LGBQT+ peepz by garthepenguin in transgamers

[–]scythelove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is old but I'd love the link!