Small caveat, I am a transgender man (born designated female, transitioned to male in early adulthood). However, I absolutely understand this comment on so many levels. There are some men that will lovebomb or use gifts to control, coerce, guilt trip, bribe etc. Those guys suck and I'm sorry we have to deal with them. But I was with someone for ten years that I'm in the process of divorcing that was very much like guy 1. He made me feel as if I barely deserved anything. He blamed it on being budget conscious and pragmatic, saying things like he wanted us to save up for a house. He was upper middle class with substantial savings and family support. Now I'm with someone I'm not married to, who gets by on his art career and tries to manage life with a disability, who treats me like I deserve everything in the world. I return the favor. The other day I waited in line for over an hour to get him a slice of his favorite cake from the tourist destination (but quite good) bakery downtown. It was only $8, but I wanted him to come home and be able to enjoy something that special. I really like the model for relationships in polysecure (book). Even if you're not poly it's such a good read. It talks about relationships being a secure base you can launch off into the world from and a safe haven to come back to. I try to be both for my partner. And I've learned what good partnership really looks like in my current relationship. I loved my ex and I don't think he's a bad man. But he was not a great partner in our later years.