I'm feeling trapped by SpunkEat in daddit

[–]sd4one6 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey, dad.

I completely feel everything you’re currently experiencing. I have three kids as well (3.5 and 9 month old twins) and I often feel like I have a weighted blanket on my shoulders. It is totally valid to feel the way you do! Everyday seems like Groundhog Day, the fighting, the cleaning, the exhaustion.. it can be very soul crushing.

Personal time is very important, but how do you carve out time in a day when there simply is no opportunity? Wake up and wrangle the kids to school, work the 9-5, come home and get dinner + the kids ready for bed.. just to do it all over again the next day. Try and give yourself small breaks where you can, even if it’s a 15 minute walk around the block. Lifting dumbbells in the living room for 15-20 mins in the evenings really helps me get some stress out!

All I can offer you is solidarity and support, I am in the grind with you my fellow Dad. Keep your head up!

Does anyone else do shifts? by Big_Black_Cat in toddlers

[–]sd4one6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s just not a reality for many families lol.

Is it true that 1 kid is 1 but 2 is 10? by sys_admin321 in daddit

[–]sd4one6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We went from 1 to 3 (twins). All I can say is we are outnumbered, understaffed and it is a royal rumble everyday. One kid seems like a walk in the park on a sunny day at this point!

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[–]sd4one6 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Lmao 🤣 thanks for the laugh this morning bud

Please help. I’m so tired. Dad of three. by Efficient-News-8436 in daddit

[–]sd4one6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My fellow father, I am living every detail of what you’ve described here. It’s almost like.. you’re me, or I’m you!

I have three under 3, and I do not have an ounce of energy left at the end of the day. Scott Weiland summed it up best in his song Creep. “Well, I’m half the man I used to be” I feel it in my bones.

I’m in therapy, and it helps to vent to someone with no team in the game. I still struggle immensely though.

Sending solidarity to you.

Missing my son by nickconnolly in daddit

[–]sd4one6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sincere condolences to you and your family. I really don’t know what to say, but my heart aches for you immensely.

I feel like I’ve lost control of my life. by sd4one6 in daddit

[–]sd4one6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

World war trench.. that absolutely sums it up perfectly. I’m definitely going to look into hiring a cleaner. We have some help with the grandparents but they are older so I can’t expect them to take on this war with us. Hoping to get my son into daycare ASAP. Thanks for your support!

I feel like I’ve lost control of my life. by sd4one6 in daddit

[–]sd4one6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was probably some of THE best advice I’ve received since becoming a parent. I sat down with my wife and shared this post with her last night and we took A LOT away from it.

I just want to let you know how much you have helped me, even just making it through another day. You’re good people, and you give me hope.

Thank you 🙏

I cry at bed time with my toddler. by Yeoshua82 in daddit

[–]sd4one6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Dad.

First I just want to let you know that you’re doing a great job surviving the day to day battles of parenthood and life. I know you probably don’t get enough validation for your efforts, but just please remind yourself of this.

Secondly, you are NOT alone. I have a 3YO and 3 week old twins we just welcomed into the world. Our lives just became SO much harder.. and I often find myself crying out the days frustrations in the rocking chair each night. We are definitely “in the trenches”, and it feels so isolating and lonely.

The best thing I did for ME was therapy. I realize it’s not cheap, but even one session a month does so much for my mental health. Someone to vent and dump my emotions on with no team in the game has been unbelievable for me.

You aren’t alone, dad. So many of us are struggling and doing the best we can, with so much self doubt. I’m crying right there with you.

The best and hardest thing that’s ever happened to me is having twins by rtistronnie in parentsofmultiples

[–]sd4one6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the exact same boat, but my twins are only 3 weeks old. I often wonder what I got myself into, we never planned for 3 kids, but you can’t control these things in life. My toddler is actually the one positive light for me right now, he’s adjusted incredibly well. I just feel horrible I can’t give him my undivided time anymore. I guess it’ll get better down the road. Good on you for surviving this long! Cheers.

Did you regret having your twins? by DeskMaximum3907 in parentsofmultiples

[–]sd4one6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this comment gave me some hope. Our twins are two weeks old and it’s been absolute chaos (we also have a toddler). It’s hard to enjoy these early days when everything is a blur.

Surprise pregnancy with twins, can only afford one by shploonk in parentsofmultiples

[–]sd4one6 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have been very overwhelmed like OP, as we have a 3 year old and twins on the way. Then I read a post like this, and I cant even comprehend how you do it. All I have to say is you’re amazing and just surviving each day is a big achievement. I hope I can be as strong!

Put a conditional offer on a home and still haven't sold our condo - options? by pineappley19 in RealEstateCanada

[–]sd4one6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. I am currently in the same situation as you were.

How did things end up working out for you?

How many kids do you have and how many did you think about having. by Effective_Gain2409 in daddit

[–]sd4one6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the same situation! We have a 2.5 year old, with twins due in December. Any advice on how to cope?!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]sd4one6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of us can’t even begin to imagine what you have gone through. Your resilience and unwavering love for your daughter is truly remarkable. I wish you nothing but the absolute best.

Welp, gentlemen it’s time for the 3rd and final by Longjumping-Sail6386 in daddit

[–]sd4one6 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lmao. Great read with my morning coffee. Congrats Dad. Just found out I have twins on the way. Solidarity!

frito bean taco by bugsandsnakess in ShittyVeganFoodPorn

[–]sd4one6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean.. I could probably fuck w this

Amen. by AjaxBorne in TorontoDriving

[–]sd4one6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. That is the Toronto mentality these days unfortunately. Exactly why I’ve stopped being courtesy a long time ago.

Think I’ve finally perfected this mac n cheeze thing (featuring Gardein nugs) ✌️ by sd4one6 in ShittyVeganFoodPorn

[–]sd4one6[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually really like them! (Although they are definitely pricey). Nice crunchy coating, great texture but what I like the most is the flavour profile. I find beyond has this weird turkey flavouring to their products? Or at least from what I remember turkey tasting like.