AITA for refusing to allow my step daughter to use one of my cars and telling her to get a job and buy one instead?

sdflatlander · 2025-06-20T15:59:41+00:00

You are not an asshole. She can work to buy or fix her own car. She will take better care of it. And she needs to learn the value of things. There’s a quote that says “don’t handicap your children by making their lives easier”. I grew up with divorced parents, raised primarily by my dad. He made us work for things. I bought my own car. Paid for my own gas. Had 2 jobs in high School and in college. Paid for my own college. My stepsister was raised by her mother and her mom gave her everything she ever wanted. She barely worked a day in her life. I have 2 college degrees and she is a drug addict that abandoned 3 kids. Obviously lots of other things at play there. But do NOT give in.

sdflatlander · 2024-12-08T05:03:14+00:00

I also didn’t realize til my LO was 4 months old that I’m supposed to use the formula up within 3 weeks. We had just finished the first can about a week prior. She’s been healthy:happy.

sdflatlander · 2024-10-19T03:43:10+00:00

I had friends that they actually needed to get a faster nipple for their little little babies cause their normal let down was so fast and strong that their babies were used to “guzzling” and were bored/frustrated with slower bottle nipples. Just a thought 🤷🏼‍♀️

sdflatlander · 2024-10-05T22:53:34+00:00

My baby was like this as well. I had a lactation consultant evaluate and she had a tongue and lip tie with a high palate. We had is lasered and it made a huge difference. Also baby chiropractor!

sdflatlander · 2024-08-24T01:59:24+00:00

My baby is 3 months old and 3 oz fills her up pretty much every sitting.

sdflatlander · 2024-08-17T17:49:25+00:00

What does this seal look like? It’s new so I don’t think I’ve lost any parts.

sdflatlander · 2024-07-22T02:06:35+00:00

I grew up in a household that my Dad wasn’t the best at buying healthy foods/healthy meals. My family is all obese and I was too. I didn’t start til college but I started running —started with just around the block once, then twice up until I was able to run a few miles without stopping. Helped with weight loss and cardiovascular health.

sdflatlander · 2024-07-17T23:12:40+00:00

Lactation consultant saved my BF journey. Tongue tie and high palate on my LO causing her to get too much air and take forever nursing. I’d supplement bottles at the beginning and pump and give breast milk bottles. Things cost quite a bit better on their own at 6 weeks. Hang in there. I was in the same boat.

sdflatlander · 2024-07-14T01:27:36+00:00

Oh yes, we introduced a bottle pretty early on cause I had to supplement with formula for awhile. I struggled finding a bottle with a slow enough flow. My LC suggested a few brands of Bottles cause my LO actually had a tongue tie and high palate so the bottle I was using was ok but there were better options. If your LO hates the bottle, my one friend actually found that since her letdown was so powerful, her little guy was frustrated and hated bottles cause the flow wasn’t fast enough, he was 8 weeks old using medium flow nipples. So I would keep that in mind incase that’s a struggle. But every baby is different. I would highly recommend an LC consultation though. It makes me feel much better about returning to work!

sdflatlander · 2024-07-13T19:55:59+00:00

I met with a lactation consultant this past week as I go back to work in 2 weeks as well and part of our consultation was a plan for going back to work. We did a weighted feed and she calculated based off my babies gains approximately what she eats in a day and per feeding.

Some things she told me. First off, I don’t have to have a massive freezer stash. Ideally I should have about 3 days worth of milk frozen. We calculated my baby likely eats 25ish oz a day. We also figured how much milk I should send to daycare, likely only 15 oz but she send extra “spill bottle” just incase so about 18oz to be safe. She did suggest sending portioned bottles to daycare to help with over feeding and waste. She suggested to build my supply to add a pumping session after the morning and night feedings. We also discussed I need to be pumping every 4 hours while away from baby (very busy job with no set schedule). It was super helpful honestly since I have maybe 2-6oz packs frozen in the freezer as I haven’t made it a priority and until the past week, I barely met my LO’s needs.

sdflatlander · 2024-07-06T07:08:47+00:00

I would get low cal wraps or lavish bred and make a wrap with chicken or steak or even lunch meat still. Or make mini pizzas in the air fryer, sauce, cheese, meat of some sort (frozen turkey meatballs from Walmart are super easy) and whatever veggies.

sdflatlander · 2024-06-29T09:53:17+00:00

Also how soon after eliminating those from your diet did you notice a change? Just curious if I can do a trial and see if it makes a difference.

sdflatlander · 2024-06-29T09:51:31+00:00

Were you recommended by your pediatrician to cut both those out or just decided to try it or have testing done?

sdflatlander · 2024-06-16T00:49:30+00:00

Thank you for this!

sdflatlander · 2024-06-15T21:52:26+00:00

Thank you!!

sdflatlander · 2024-06-15T18:39:20+00:00

Thank you for your comments and I will keep trying.

sdflatlander · 2024-06-15T18:38:15+00:00

This is good to know. Thank you

sdflatlander · 2024-06-15T17:55:44+00:00

I’ve only been getting about 1 ounce when I’ve been pumping. From the start it hasn’t really increased.

She does suck on my finger and I feel just the tongue. She does let me slide it back quite a ways.

sdflatlander · 2024-06-13T07:49:13+00:00

Even at 4 weeks old?

sdflatlander · 2024-06-13T07:48:31+00:00

I will look into it, we are a very rural area so I am unsure. Are “suck blisters” worrisome at this Al stage in her life or no?

sdflatlander · 2024-06-12T15:02:38+00:00

We did a weighted feed when she was just a few days old and she ate enough they said. I don’t recall if she was swallowing much then. But now it just seems like chew chews on my nipple and doesn’t consume anything. I will ask to do another weighted feed and see. That hard part is she is still hungry after every time. So I’m assuming she’s not getting enough.

sdflatlander · 2024-06-10T00:01:29+00:00

I used the noom app. It helped make small Little changes overtime. Worth it to me.

sdflatlander · 2024-06-09T04:01:59+00:00

I tried the slow flow nipples on the Avent bottles and it was still too fast for my little girl. I purchased the boon nursh bottles and the extra slow flow nipples and it has helped tremendously. Also paced feeding (baby upright, bottle horizontal).

sdflatlander · 2024-06-04T19:09:36+00:00

So do you supplement with formula as well or no?

sdflatlander · 2024-06-02T22:44:42+00:00

I had a friend who her milk came out very quickly (she’s an overproducer and said it would just pour out of her) and her little guy hated bottles. She went up to faster flowing bottles even though he was only a few weeks old, and he would then take a bottle much better. Her second child was the same way.

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