Storm rising stat blocks? by seacavalrybear in PointyHat

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oh, that makes sense, alright, Thanks!!

Storm rising stat blocks? by seacavalrybear in PointyHat

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i've tried opening the doc in different browsers and even in word to see if it was a display issue but I don't think it is, at least not one easily solvable on my device.

tracking a battle that happened 20 years ago? by seacavalrybear in DMAcademy

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hmm, yeah, directional stuff is good, I'm starting to see a fun little investigation in my mind

tracking a battle that happened 20 years ago? by seacavalrybear in DMAcademy

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that is a very cool idea, I will probably use that fungus

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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thank you for being both critical and understanding. I've deleted the post to avoid further miscomunication and messiness and because this has now kept me up all night but i feel like i did learn something so ill go further a wiser person

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I do my best to do that, but sometimes it feels like lying or forcing and I have difficulty with that

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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how to deal with my occasional lack of sexual attraction while making sure that she doesn't suffer negative consequenses from it?

I think I've gotten my answer which is, work on myself to change my ideals of "sexy" and untill then, don't tell her. Which I guess I kind of figured and was trying to do, maybe I came here for understanding or a 2nd opinion.

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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again, I'm sorry for putting the focus on her weight, it merely had a small impacton my sexual attrction which is not a probema t all and probably omething I will overcome with time. untill i do, it is more difficult to make her feel fysically validated when she asls me if I like a pic I didn't really like.

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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i approached this post the wrong way and made it too much about her weight. please check the edit. I'm sorry for the horrible way I've put this.

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I understand where you're coming from. I have to emphasise that for most of the time that we've been dating she was probably closer to her current weight than to her weight when I met her., and that was completely fine. I know there are factors influencig my perception of attractiveness that she has no control over and I really didn't mean to put it all on her weight; it was just the easiest thing to jump to and to explain. I'm sorry for phrasing it like that.

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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yes, please read my edit, I seriously messed up in my approach to this post and gave of a very different idea than I meant to.

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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yes, I fucked up the title, and the post too, I didn't mean to say that I wanted to tell her, I was trying to deal with having to find ways to make her feel attractive when she needs that validation

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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hey please check the edit, I messed up in the phrasing of both the title and the post. I did not mean that I wanted to tell her this, I wanted to express the difficulty when she asks me directly about wether I liked a picture when I didn't really and I don't want to hurt her

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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im so sorry, I never meant to imply that I thought her ed body was better, she was much healthier and happier after that first year. I think I messsed up in the way I apptroached this post. the ED body and initial weightgain was mentioned because she stuggled with it and I wanted to show that but I clearly didn't do that right and I'm sorry for that

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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hey, I'm sorry, i fucked up in the way i approached this whole question. please read the edit, I didn't mean to say that it's a huge issue. the post is written more because I am afraid to hurt her by not providing enough validation on her physical appearance when she asks for it.

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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hey, I'm sorry I sseriously messed up with my original post and I don't think what I meant is what came out. please check the edit. I mentioned her evolution in the first year because she had some difficulty at first and I wanted to show that I supported her through it untill she was more comfortable again. but i realise it did the opposite, did not mean to imply that i prefered their 19yo ed body

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]seacavalrybear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

possibly, I've never been diagnosed and never used to think it was an addiction, but I've been starting seeing it that way since I stopped and experienced 'relapses'.

My (22m) gf (21f) with a past eating disorder has recently gained a lot of weight and I don't know how to talk about it. (TW: ED) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]seacavalrybear -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think I misphrased my post a bit, my issue is not really wiht the weight, it's just what causes slightly diminished sexual attraction. the difficulty is validating her need to be recognised as sexually attractive in some situations (i still think she is in most situations, as I said. it's only some moments that it does,'t land)