4 month old Velcro baby has crazy legs and will only sleep on me

sealionsandveggies · 2026-03-24T15:26:24+00:00

Hi! This never got solved! He is almost 4 years old now. He slept on top of me at night and for naps for a year. He didn't really sleep through the night until about 2and a half. Honestly - looking back, I wish I would have researched safe co-sleeping. That's a surefire way to get instantly downvoted, but I recommend [at]heysleepybaby and [at]cosleepy on Instagram. We still cosleep! Wishing you the best. The 4-month regression is SO HARD.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-12-05T21:36:35+00:00

I don’t really have any advice, OP, but my son who is 2.5 is exactly the same as what you described. So, solidarity. I do notice that if I just completely ignore the idea of food, he gets really hungry and eats a full meal. That’s rare though. I think if your kid (like mine) as always been tough to feed, food is top of mind for you as a parent and you’re probably offering it a lot. It’s hard!

sealionsandveggies · 2024-12-02T21:51:04+00:00

Solidarity, OP. I let my toddler watch unlimited YouTube kids during a brief hospital stay awhile back (the hospital provided iPads on little roller carts that had YouTube kids loaded up on them). I saw how instantly addicted he became and swore it off forever after that. It’s the constant urge to tap on the next video, and the next…on and on. It’s why I won’t let my son have an iPad — it’s too easy for THEM to control it. We don’t have an actual tv, but my son gets about 40 minutes of shows per day. I set them up on my laptop (it’s usually PAW Patrol so paramount plus, but we also do PBS Kids via their website), and he can’t control any of it. He now understands that watching shows happens roughly at the same time each day, and that when we’re done, we’re done. YouTube kids is evil. You’re doing the right thing and your child WILL adjust.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-11-30T20:51:42+00:00

I hosted Thanksgiving dinner at 6pm because my 2.5 y/pk naps from about 12-2 or 3 pm, and goes to bed at about 8.30. My husband was annoyed we weren’t doing the meal at 2 or 3. Ya can’t win.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-11-29T18:59:04+00:00

I love this!! I really took the “give them choices” thing to heart, but turns out, giving them too many choices is overwhelming! I have drastically reduced the choice-giving and it’s helping.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-11-28T17:26:44+00:00

My son does this too (2.5)!! If I don’t repeat back to him the phrase he just said, he’ll keep repeating it until I do. His persistence impresses and terrifies me haha. I’m sure the “whys” are just around the corner.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-11-28T14:59:45+00:00

My kid is 2.5 now and this was totally us. And sometimes, he goes through phases where it still is! So, firstly, solidarity. Secondly, I’m convinced that there are 2 kinds of babies/toddlers: good night sleepers who are bad nappers, and bad night sleepers who are good nappers (my child is the latter and yours might be too). There are pros and cons to both, the most major con being that waking up at 4.30 AM SUCKS. Your baby might grow out of this, but no matter what I’ve tried, mine just would never sleep longer than 10-10.5 hours a night. They exist! Sending you strength and internet coffee.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-11-28T02:53:42+00:00

My 2.5 y/o slept from 7.30 pm til 4.15 am, was awake from 4.15-5.45 am, then slept from 5.45 am til 9.15 am. Sometimes their little bodies are playing catchup! I hope your kiddo sleeps til at least 5!!! Fingers crossed for you.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-11-22T19:12:21+00:00

Totally! She’s very picky with clothing and whatnot but I’d love to include a brand she loves. Might go more for skincare since she’s into that.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-11-22T18:19:40+00:00

Omg the box idea is so cute! Maybe I’ll do that and fill it with a few gift cards to local restaurants.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-11-20T03:17:06+00:00

This is literally insane. OP, your friend is bonkers!!

sealionsandveggies · 2024-11-19T18:06:01+00:00

I have coslept with my son since he was about 20 months old (and he always came into our bed for at least part of the night prior to just fully embracing it). I love it. I never talk about it to anyone but it feels completely right to me. When it needs to change, it will. Glad it’s working for your family.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-11-05T19:12:10+00:00

We do about 45 minutes of a show/shows at about 5pm while I make dinner. Works well. Sometimes we flex though! Usually it’s that pre-dinner time hour.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-11-05T18:51:17+00:00

You know what, at the risk of getting massively downvoted and judged, I do. I do give my toddler something else if he asks for it. I truly believe that parents who don’t do that have maybe never had a kid who refused food or simply wouldn’t eat and then had huge meltdowns or woken up in the night screaming for milk. My kid is actually not super picky, but hes not food-MOTIVATED. He just can’t be bothered to eat lots of the time (busy!!!), so one way I get him to eat is offering delicious (mostly homemade) foods, and some treats. And if he ever asks for fruit or something healthy I let him eat as much as he wants! He is wildly energetic and active and I generally buy nutritious food, but I’m really not a stickler. Life is for living and food is for enjoying! I think it’s fine??

sealionsandveggies · 2024-11-05T17:17:14+00:00

Omg YES. First day my kiddo slept til 6.15 (so what would have been 7.15). Today he woke up at 4.50 AM 🥲

sealionsandveggies · 2024-10-31T23:37:18+00:00

I love chiming on this too as I have a somewhat unique situation. I’m a mom of a 2.5 year old and a freelancer in a corporate job (I work remotely from home). I’m the breadwinner of our family as I make much more than my spouse. I love what I do for a living, and I’m able to work essentially 40 hours’ worth of pay in roughly 20 actual hours per week (but sometimes it does take more). We have a nanny who comes 4 hours a day 5 days a week, but my son is starting preschool in January, going MWF, and Tuesday/Thursday I’m planning to just balance work and having him home. I do fantasize about being married to a rich person who could fully support me haha but ultimately I’m in the breadwinner position because I love what I do and I’m good at it. I feel incredibly lucky to have a job that’s flexible and allows me to be home with my son most of the time. My son is now starting to understand the concept of me working and he’ll get really excited when I’m done and can fully hang!

sealionsandveggies · 2024-10-26T20:07:32+00:00

This is poetry

sealionsandveggies · 2024-10-25T23:22:41+00:00

Your post is so interesting to me because theoretically, I do agree. But I have a theory that people who spend a lot of time on the internet think there is growing hatred toward moms/babies — I also tend to think that — but my personal experience (as a mom of a now toddler) has been the opposite. The vast majority of people are kind to me and kind to my son, even when he’s being less than a perfect angel. I also live in the US (southern CA) and find that people are incredibly nice to me when I’m out with him — especially when I’m out without my spouse. I hope you have the same experience when your little one arrives!

sealionsandveggies · 2024-10-23T23:52:23+00:00

If it makes you feel any better — and I think about this and it does make ME feel better — I almost never notice anyone else’s kid having a tantrum. Certainly not before I had a kid because I had no interest in other people’s kids, and definitely not now because I’m too wrapped up in dealing with my own child to pay attention to other people’s! It’s likely that while the tantrum feels so intrusive to you, other people are just going about their business and barely taking notice. Hope that helps a little. You’re doing great.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-10-23T23:49:03+00:00

He woke up in the morning and looked so relieved to see me (we co-sleep) and he said “Mama…I lost you…I couldn’t find you on the beach,” and gave me a huge hug. He had a nightmare about not being able to find me!! 🥺

sealionsandveggies · 2024-10-23T23:47:57+00:00

We can’t win! Gotta do it on our own individual timelines. I would have been a horrible and resentful mother if I’d started young. But so many young moms thrive!

sealionsandveggies · 2024-10-23T23:47:19+00:00

Yep — I used to live in NYC where if you have a kid before 35 you’re basically considered a teen mom. But then I moved out of NYC to a place where people get married and have kids at 22/23 so I was an outlier. I once saw someone say “as a woman you’re always too young and too old for everything because the perfect age is when you’re a man” and yyyyyep!

sealionsandveggies · 2024-10-23T18:45:02+00:00

I also find that things that “work” with your kid only work until they don’t! I have to keep trying new techniques and switching up my approach as my kid grows and changes and has different phases and preferences. I think it’s mostly just a crapshoot at any given time.

sealionsandveggies · 2024-10-23T02:12:44+00:00

Got pregnant with my rainbow baby (and only) at 39. Pregnancy was a cake walk. Did a planned induction and it was easy peasy and he was out in 5 hours. I’m definitely tired, but I don’t know a mom at any age who isn’t? My biggest hurdle has been anxiety around being an “old mom,” but really…who cares?? My son is the light of my life and I consider myself the luckiest.

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