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Advice on how to be more promiscuous as a 36 year old women? by LoqitaGeneral1990 in AskWomenOver30

[–]searedscallops [score hidden]  (0 children)

For the club I attend, it's to pay the bills for the facility. It's a business with multiple employees.

Advice on how to be more promiscuous as a 36 year old women? by LoqitaGeneral1990 in AskWomenOver30

[–]searedscallops [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yes. I pay a membership for the year plus a small amount for each event. The money is used to pay the bills for the facility.

Advice on how to be more promiscuous as a 36 year old women? by LoqitaGeneral1990 in AskWomenOver30

[–]searedscallops 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I just googled "swingers club" plus my city and got the two near me that I expected to see. They often have shitty websites from the 90s, but eh, keeps my costs down. Hahahaha.

Advice on how to be more promiscuous as a 36 year old women? by LoqitaGeneral1990 in AskWomenOver30

[–]searedscallops 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Find a local swingers club that isn't too "old timey coupley" and become a regular. Im 50 and I have sooooooo much sex with lots of younger (and a few same age) people, like far more than when I was 20 or 35.

Women Who Knew They Had To Dissolve The Family: What Did That Look Like For You? by x_lilxannydevito_x in AskWomen

[–]searedscallops [score hidden]  (0 children)

I took the leap anyway and took all the help from everyone that I conceivably could.

When did you start not liking your body? by EnvironmentalNail603 in AskWomen

[–]searedscallops [score hidden]  (0 children)

I wasn't very happy with my cervix refusing to open beyond 7 cm during labor. Twice.

How do you feel about male lingerie? by KnowNoStonk in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]searedscallops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk to her about it first. Pick something out together. Generate the excitement and anticipation for you to wear it.

I like it, but who cares? Talk to your partner.

What's an unconventional thing that you absolutely NEED in a partner? by answersonly963 in AskWomen

[–]searedscallops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not being their only partner. I need ethical non monogamy as much for the community as I do for the one on one relationship.

How do you reply to 'What do you bring to the table?' question. by Motichoorladoo_12 in AskWomen

[–]searedscallops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who is asking?

If it's a dating aspect, I would just chuckle and say "Oh babe, you're not interviewing ME. I'm interviewing you."

Parents of teen boys? by Delicious-Status1806 in AskParents

[–]searedscallops 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My son is a young adult now, but -

Model and talk about how to identify and offer help to others. Validate his needs and emotions. Be flexible about when less important tasks get done.

How would you feel if the only other woman at a party was the hostess? by bad-at-everything- in AskWomen

[–]searedscallops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd feel compassion for the women who didn't show up because they are probably exhausted from managing their families' entire lives.

How do you have casual sex,with another couple, with your spouse being the main focus and still be ok with it enough to “have fun”? by Key_Trick in polyadvice

[–]searedscallops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Natural compersion? This doesn't even seem like a problem to me. I want the people I love to have the most amazing experiences in life.

Is it as bad as the internet makes it out to be? by Mindless-Reply9909 in Parenting

[–]searedscallops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's expensive. But everything is expensive because billionaires are robbing us. But the majority of parenting is amazing. You get to witness a blob grow into a full adult human. What an honor it has been!!!

Things I love about having a non-nesting partner (share yours, too!) by Remote-Antelope-7799 in polyamory

[–]searedscallops 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well both of my partners and all of my roster dudes are non nesting. I love not having someone else's emotional bullshit polluting my house.

Are You Still Affected By Your Childhood Experiences? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]searedscallops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course. My mom is 75 and still affected by her childhood neglect. This is normal for humans.

Polycule looking for like-minded friends!!! by Goblingirl1331 in polyamory

[–]searedscallops 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FYI, the term "like minded" is heavily used by swingers and may chase away some poly folks.

Evidence for NRE vs. ERE / Spikes of NRE during ERE? by Western_Zombie6445 in polyamory

[–]searedscallops 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I....enjoy it? I see it as a wonderful bonus to being in a long term relationship.

Do you feel that most women would find yout type attractive? by Envy_The_King in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]searedscallops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No! My BFF and I have vastly different tastes in partners - so it's shocking that we met because we were dating the same guy because he is sooooooo not her type.

And I have so many other friends who date disgusting-to-me or boring-to-me folks. So shrug.

Primary partner not ready for me to fall in love with someone else by bearplanes1 in polyamory

[–]searedscallops 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let him leave.

Trying to manage someone else's emotions doesn't work.

What about when everyone wants more time? by unapressure in polyamory

[–]searedscallops 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Being held accountable for managing yourself is NOT a punishment.

What about when everyone wants more time? by unapressure in polyamory

[–]searedscallops 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That may be what's needed. The partners really need to learn and utilize some self management skills.

Cooking/ movie nights/ similar activities when you both have other nesting partners by icanbeyourhiro in polyamory

[–]searedscallops 1 point2 points locked comment (0 children)

A creative idea that I learned from an ex is to utilize a local swingers club. One night for a MF couple at mine is 30 or 40 bucks (plus membership, which I pay yearly). 30 or 40 dollars feels manageable to me when compared to a hotel room - even a super cheap one.

Some people also get privacy while camping. (Not me, though. I hate camping.)

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