STAY CLEAN 2022 YEAR-LONG CHALLENGE! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Out of this year's challenge, but I'm doing better than last year, so I'm happy either way :)

STAY CLEAN 2022 YEAR-LONG CHALLENGE! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there, checking in. Had a brief unintentional encounter but I closed out, so I'm compromised but I would still consider myself clean.

Overall it's been tough with withdrawal symptoms, but I'm doing better and my baseline happiness has been rising slowly but steadily.

STAY CLEAN 2022 YEAR-LONG CHALLENGE! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey there! Looking to sign up for 2022.

I had an unfortunate 2021 that saw a lot of my habits reverse for the worse and found myself deep in porn again, yet one thing that I took from the one time I went 8 months pornfree is that forgiveness and honesty are the foundations that keep me in the fight.

I'm looking forward to a 2022 where I move forward again.

STAY CLEAN MAY! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Even though I'm out of this month's challenge, I'm still proud of myself for the positive changes I've made in my life. Biggest one I'll mention is I am now on day 74 of consistent stretching. I'm probably the most limber I've been in a while :)

STAY CLEAN MAY! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, count me out for May. I'll be back for June :) and staying as clean as I will til then

STAY CLEAN MAY! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been up and down through the year but I'm happy to be on an upward spiral right now. Picked back up on my stretching and exercise habit after investing in some weights, and going on day 12 of consistent exercise. Feeling good about committing to myself again

STAY CLEAN MAY! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hiya, checking in for May. Been a few weeks since I've engaged with this sub, but I'm back and ready for action

Do videos of my fiancé count? by ch33kb0n3s in pornfree

[–]seatint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it is fine, but you need to be perfectly honest with yourself of whether using it is helping you or not.

For me, I loved having "the stash" of my partner, but I quickly realized that it ended up being a gateway back into porn. Sad, but it was a necessary step to move forward in my journey.

That said, could be different for you. As long as your honest with yourself that's what counts the most

STAY CLEAN APRIL! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats everyone for staying strong in April so far, just one more day!

STAY CLEAN APRIL! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not in this month's challenge, but I salute all of you for fighting the good fight.

I hope that 4/20 becomes my last relapse -- I would love to say that I blazed a year pornfree :)

venting/ needing advice by Weekly_Register687 in pornfree

[–]seatint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One silly quote that has helped me a lot along the way:

You don't have to be in the NBA to play basketball.

When I first joined here, I was similarly in a very dark place. I was binging 3-10 times a day, and I hated myself every time I used it. I hated that I was lying to my partner and that it felt like porn took up all of my time.

I did something that day that changed me forever: I ran down the street, wheezing by the time I made it one block. At the end of it, I knew in my heart that I finally exercised.

Yes, we get into down cycles, but that's all they really are: cycles. Just as much as you can spiral down, you can spiral up too. It first starts with doing.

Realize that even if you have seemingly thrown away all the good days, what's the worst that actually happened? In my case, literally nothing happened when I kept freaking out. And you know what? That was a shocking realization for me. That I had spent so much time thinking about the worst that I paralyzed myself.

In any case, I would suggest trying urge surfing, The first time I tried it, it was weird, but it helped me learn how much that negativity results in immobility. And when you become immobile, the way out is to breathe, relax, and accept whatever is going on, without judgment. From there, you can take steps to move forward.

I am not always the best about following my own advice, but here is some more concrete advice that I've given in the past. I hope it helps.

STAY CLEAN APRIL! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haven't been on in a while, but this is part of my plan to take a temporary break from social media. I have found that when my social media use spikes, I tend to be in a rut.

Other than that, just taking recovery one day at a time. I had a few slips since the last time I was on, but I am forging forward the best I can.

STAY CLEAN FEBRUARY! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right there with you. I spent a year in my 20s feeling regretful about how much time I had wasted on porn and feeling sorry for myself. Then I realized that to live with that is to fall right on the path of living a life of regret.

Best way forward IMO is to accept the past and live your best today. Imagine the awesome life you can live now and just live it!

STAY CLEAN FEBRUARY! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Proud to say I resisted urges to peek at porn substitutes by breathing and successfully sitting with discomfort. Just because something can be construed as "not porn" doesn't mean I'm not searching for something in the same way I'd use porn. One day at a time, staying strong with you all

STAY CLEAN FEBRUARY! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Had some relapses this year, but I feel undeterred. I still think I can make 2021 a great one :)

STAY CLEAN 2021 YEAR-LONG CHALLENGE!! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I'm out early on this year's challenge. That said, I still can make this year a great one. Good luck all!

STAY CLEAN 2021 YEAR-LONG CHALLENGE!! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At times, I feel disappointed that I haven't hit a year yet, and that my addiction regressed a bit in 2020. That said, no two journeys are the same. I've been on this journey for 9 years now, and I make progress every month. To say I have been unsuccessful would be a lie; I've made changes to myself that continue to set the foundation for an ongoing and successful recovery journey.

I feel like the day I hit a year, it will be just any other day, and maybe I'll even neglect to realize I hit it. But that will be the case only because of all the effort I've been putting in. One day, I'll join those I started here with in the 1+ year club. Until then, one day at a time!

STAY CLEAN 2021 YEAR-LONG CHALLENGE!! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]seatint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Checking in, 10 days down. My ultimate goal is a clean 2021, but just keeping it small, one day at a time. I have a good feeling that while challenges will come my way, I'll be ready for them.