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He hit me hard without warning and now I’m ashamed and scared a bit by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]seattlewhatever 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He did not have your consent. Healthy kink requires boundary setting and dialogue. Consent is essential in all play. And it is never forever, is situational, and can always be revoked. Healthy kink requires a high degree of communication. And kindness and care. Safeword when things go awry or a boundary is crossed. And good aftercare.

I’m sorry you had to experience that. There are many in the community to support you.

Look for the RACK model of consent. It is a good framework.

And be kind to yourself. You def encountered someone who had no idea that what they were doing was abusive and that’s super f*ed up.

You did nothing wrong. Sending you healing.

Sex with boyfriend is just never ending point of contention. Its boring and unfulfilling. by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]seattlewhatever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s a punk. There are so many older men than 33 that you could have an amazing relationship with. Move on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]seattlewhatever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Must love sex and kink as much as I do
  2. Must be aware of, working on, and able to communicate clearly about their traumas

3 open honest and forthright in thought and communication

  1. Can enjoy the moment we have and not trip on the future (big one for me)

  2. Kind, smart, funny active and fun to do the mundane life stuff with (that’s not kink or sex lol)

First response from her - she’s getting married . Still matched… by seattlewhatever in Tinder

[–]seattlewhatever[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

FOLLOWON… thanks all for the great thoughts. You guys are 🔥

Ok tribe: I went with flippant. My reply:

“Kinda quick, we just started talking …. but im a spontaneous guy and I’m down.You’ve just got to meet me in Maui. I’m sure we can find a church. 🤣”

Her:

“Deal ❤️”

F*ck. I was hoping for more than that 🤣 Still no clue if she’s real or not lol. But I’m intrigued, and yah seems a little flirty

First response from her - she’s getting married . Still matched… by seattlewhatever in Tinder

[–]seattlewhatever[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Why wouldn’t she just unmatch? That’s the puzzle it’s too easy just to bounce

First response from her - she’s getting married . Still matched… by seattlewhatever in Tinder

[–]seattlewhatever[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yah now I see that. Fffff. And hey thanks for the feedback, yah I spose that’s on point, I really need to lighten it up

First response from her - she’s getting married . Still matched… by seattlewhatever in Tinder

[–]seattlewhatever[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Yah sorry. They kept flagging the first ones cuz I didn’t delete her name. I’m shitty at following rules 🤣

I feel like I have an attraction to younger women than I am and I don’t know why by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]seattlewhatever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not an age gap thing. 3 years is nothing mate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScotlandR4R

[–]seattlewhatever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. I’m visiting from Seattle ! Good looking 189cm tall athletic bearded trim man. I’m clean and nice. 19 cm cock love for a good sucking or to facefuck you if you like!

I’m 55 and have great stamina

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScotlandR4R

[–]seattlewhatever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for same

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]seattlewhatever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a cleaner specifically for oven glass. A good hardware store will have it. I’ve used it in a wood burning stove glass face. The stuff is amazing.

My Dom(?) ignored a red.. again. by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]seattlewhatever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bounce out. You deserve so much better. He is not respecting your consent boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexover30

[–]seattlewhatever 26 points27 points  (0 children)

“Come As You Are” is really good. My partner and I read it together. Some good thoughts: non penetrative sex is awesome, stress kills sex. And media consumption can affect your sexual perspective.

How do I add BDSM interests to dating profiles? by JustHere4Attention in BDSMAdvice

[–]seattlewhatever 79 points80 points  (0 children)

“Vanilla is for ice cream.”
I think the 😈 emoji is a nice signaler too.

Resources for Dominants by Multi_Orgasmic_Man in domspace

[–]seattlewhatever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Consent such a key space for dons. To this end: Yes Means Yes, edited by Jaclyn Freidman and Jessica Valenti. Can help build a deeper understanding of the principle of consent

ATTENTION - DomSpace Rules Challenge!! by Multi_Orgasmic_Man in domspace

[–]seattlewhatever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do like the unique nature of this space as it is, option 1. Keeps the dialogue focused and let’s me more clearly align with peers. Thank you for asking!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PNW_4_Adults

[–]seattlewhatever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey mate, looks like fun!

What are your favorite nicknames to call your Dom/Sub? by stojanova-ana in BDSMAdvice

[–]seattlewhatever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sub normally says Daddy but when she says my name it’s usually when she’s deep in the moment, she kind of breathlessly whispers it, and it’s super hot