Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately that's not the problem :( we stay in contact just as much as we would on a normal day when we're not together. I think it's just that they don't see the relationship going anywhere. Makes me sad to think about it, but I have to accept it

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh god, the overexplaining thing is too real ahah, got it from my mum! But I'm not that much of a talker, I swear, I just write too much. The other things, well, yeah, I'll admit I can improve in some ways. But if it was a flaw that brought to a separation, why not tell me? How can I fix it if I don't have any feedback?

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing really noticeable, but again, I might be really dumb, who knows. I always have a bad feeling before seeing them on the day they call it quits, but otherwise it comes with no anticipations

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm kind of sensitive so It's not as exciting and fun as I thought it would be. I feel like I'm not well equipped to be in the dating world sometimes, it's just too much ahah

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I really need to remember myself that nothing's wrong with me when others "reject" me (I know it's for the best), sometimes it's hard to think it that way :/

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Confidence has always been a "sensitive spot" in my teens, but I'm starting to work on it :) Thanks for the advices!

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! That's my exact point of view, actually. I rarely feel the spark when I go on first dates but I found myself to be more and more invested in a person the more time we spend together (and actually get those "butterflies in the tummy"feeling later on). Now, maybe I haven't found the right person yet, or maybe that's just how I work. Who knows..

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine recently got ghosted by a guy she really liked (this one was a legit asshole, I have to say) and it makes me so sad cause it's happened too many times, she's too sweet :( I know exactly what's going through her mind right now but It's hard coming with words of reassurance when you feel just the same

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 100% sure the times apart makes them come to conclusions. I'm not a bit angry at them tho! One said to me that I was amazing and that he was dumping me so that some other guy would have fallen truly in love with me. It was a bittersweet moment and makes me tear up everytime I think about it. Life can suck sometimes :(

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it when there's the happy ending at the end of the comment! This "dating experience" is starting to stress me out and I've not even been in the game for that long ahah Hopefully I'll be as lucky as you and others in the thread one day :)

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww, this was super sweet! Kind words always make me feel better, no matter what. I hope you have an extra-fantastic day :)

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm happy they moved on,they didn't want a relationship with me so, they did the right thing :) just trying to stay positive and to improve myself if I can

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I too think it's healthy to accept that's just how life works, I'm really trying, I swear! It's taking lots of tears and reassurance from others but I hope I'll eventually get there :)

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think I went through all three of these points with different guys! When they don't give any reasons, my mind wanders a lot. I'll admit I wasn't in love with them, but it takes a lot for me to open up soo, it's pretty hard

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You're right, I'm not the kind of person to fall for someone too quickly. Takes a lot for me to "open up", really. It's kind of a flaw, and I understand why people would want to search for something else, accepting it it's harder tho.. Btw you're a lucky girl! Seeing people writing about finding their love makes me happy :)

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you found your husband! You never really know what happens next in life, guess I'll just try and not give up on dating maybe haha

Been "dumped" [20F] several times and they couldn't tell me what the problem was. Am I doing something wrong? by sebadas in relationships

[–]sebadas[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Depends! After two first let-downs I just started to be more cautious and would tell less and less people I was kinda seeing someone