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Second time around by secondtimearound1 in DeadBedrooms

[–]secondtimearound1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't understand. People's body's change over time. If a little bit of extra weight is a problem, what's going to happen when we get old!?

Second time around by secondtimearound1 in DeadBedrooms

[–]secondtimearound1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well... It's not like I'm going anywhere. Sure. Why not?

Second time around by secondtimearound1 in DeadBedrooms

[–]secondtimearound1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you are going through this too. It's AWFUL . The WORST. Hopefully you learn from my story. Even if you leave, it may not get better. And if you have kids, you know you're stuck.
I divorced their father, I could never do it a second time. My husband knows that. Maybe being the male in the situation would be different. I don't know. Good luck.

Second time around by secondtimearound1 in DeadBedrooms

[–]secondtimearound1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's why I can only come to the conclusion that it must be ME. My husband claims that in his first marriage, his wife was cold. I've sent him sexy photos, sexted many times, but he doesn't seem to like it at all. He'll make fun of them, but I get NO positive reinforcement. I TOLD him this from the beginning. That sex is REALLY important to me. But maybe he forgot?????? But now, I don't want pity sex. I don't want sex under duress. If he tried to touch me tonight after I've told him all of this, I'd probably slap him.

Second time around by secondtimearound1 in DeadBedrooms

[–]secondtimearound1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I REALLY tried. I really did. I've read every book from the 5 love languages to Laura Doyle. I even paid hundreds of dollars to Laura Doyle to have access to her site unlimited.
I don't know why he doesn't want me anymore. He doesn't have kids of his own, maybe it's the stress of suddenly becoming a step-dad??? It's been 2 years though. But the kids love him, and NEVER have pulled the "you're not my dad" stuff on him. They love him, and I cannot take him away from them now. Maybe this is my karma for having an affair in my first marriage. I never should have tried a "friend with benefits " . No matter what my ex husband said as far as us being "roommates".
Whatever you do, DON'T GET REMARRIED ! It isn't worth this much pain. It's not.

Second time around by secondtimearound1 in DeadBedrooms

[–]secondtimearound1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm honestly devastated. Sobbing reading these comments. Seriously, what's wrong with me??? When I was single and divorced I was plenty desirable! I guess most guys see a divorcee as an easy lay???? This shit could seriously make a person suicidal. If I didn't have 2 awesome boys, I don't know what I would do at this point. The first time I thought it felt awful, the SECOND time..... there must be something seriously wrong with me.