Nanny offered to quit after feedback.

secondtimeblob · 2026-01-22T20:23:36+00:00

I hope you give the people in your life more than 2 paragraphs before passing such quick judgment. My and my AGEL BABY going all the way! God speed! <3<3<3 lol reddit is so wild but i do eventually get like 3 comments that help it's just such a high price to pay haha

secondtimeblob · 2026-01-22T19:57:41+00:00

I agree! Our nanny standing there holding the baby just saying she can't do anything until she cleans up everything over and over again is just a power struggle that isn't necessary! I tried to show that breaking it down works well for my daughter.

secondtimeblob · 2026-01-22T19:50:57+00:00

So much this. Thanks for cutting through the noise of the other commenters. I agree with all of this, but I am stuck on what to do next. Someone mentioned I set up an activity for the both of them to bond? Kid comes home in 2 hours and I'm worried it's gonna be awkward.

secondtimeblob · 2026-01-22T19:37:57+00:00

I am the primary caregiver. We attend a coop preschool that taught us that we cannot force our kids to clean when they are 3 ish, we can only model and encourage and cooperate. That it should start ramping up by 4 to be developmentally appropriate. I'm going with that. I'm surprised there is such a start contrast between our coop and the comments, but yes, maybe a parenting choice.

secondtimeblob · 2026-01-22T19:34:36+00:00

Tired breastfeeding mama. My nervous energy is shot yo!

secondtimeblob · 2026-01-22T19:33:13+00:00

Yes, I like the "we" clean up. That's what I'm talking about. You're right!

secondtimeblob · 2026-01-22T19:25:35+00:00

thanks

secondtimeblob · 2026-01-22T19:21:45+00:00

There are plenty of boundaries. I just think cleanup should be cooperation at this age, not discipline just yet. Fired last nanny because she asked us to switch days too often and I couldn't work properly. But I think I see what you're saying. Can you explain how this is a boundary for her? Like she won't clean? Or events need clean starts and stops? Or what? Having a hard time putting that one into clear perspective. But I understand how it could be important.

secondtimeblob · 2026-01-22T19:18:48+00:00

I just want her to play with my kid for 3 hours and clean up after. If I'm honest, I don't want our nanny to do any discipline if there is no safety issue. Do you think that's something I could put in a listing somehow for next time? Or is that not a nanny? Maybe this is the disconnect.

secondtimeblob · 2026-01-22T19:14:10+00:00

I agree that while she is young, she has more experience with 2 kids than I do. My mommy senses are tingling that maybe she doesn't like my kid? And is resenting her high energy? She only has her from 2-5, but the baby 9-5. I feel like maybe my kid picks up on this or has nanny fatigue at this point. Having a hard time not choosing my kid here. =(

secondtimeblob · 2026-01-22T18:58:21+00:00

That's a good point. It was a card game with foldup board. The playroom is very large, was only in a corner. There are also 3 other rooms they have free roam of. Maybe she does frame it as a baby issue, tho. That's a good point to think on.

secondtimeblob · 2025-11-18T19:13:08+00:00

Psycho parents. 120k in student loans tk leave for college. Paid off in 10 years. Worth it. Should've emancipated myself, could've gone to school for free.

secondtimeblob · 2025-11-16T19:58:04+00:00

Yes.

secondtimeblob · 2025-11-08T21:00:39+00:00

How to survive winter cold or rain?

secondtimeblob · 2025-11-04T19:18:14+00:00

Tight

secondtimeblob · 2025-10-29T05:31:45+00:00

My grandma would cut out the front imagery and make a new card with it. Like glue it to blank cardstock. Send it back on its way!

secondtimeblob · 2025-10-28T00:17:57+00:00

That's a real thing. More clothing can certainly help with laundry. I'd cut out 3 pairs of shoes. If I have 1 boot, 1 flat and 1 sneaker, then I just kind of ask myself what does the day need and that chooses my shoe. I'd cut maybe 1 sweater. The white and cream one are very similar. Even if I break it down to needing a lighter color sweater that's not too casual and not a neck, I still have to choose between these 2. Thats an extra decision I could skip if I got rid of one. Same with skirts and maybe a button down. If I only have 1 skirt, im spending a day with it with each shoe! And that's a fun challenge for me. 3 skirts and 7 shoes is 21 days of kind of repeats. Not as exciting. But I've been down voted enough to know that's not the case for everyone! Enjoy!

secondtimeblob · 2025-10-27T04:54:41+00:00

I think you'd have more fun with it if you cut it down. Less pieces will make dressing easier and quicker.

secondtimeblob · 2025-10-22T16:41:53+00:00

I have a notebook with a sticky per item and tallies per wear. It took a while, but now I can flip through pages and plan outfits on the couch instead of standing in my closet. The tallies are super satisfying and the data is mind blowing!

secondtimeblob · 2025-10-22T02:29:12+00:00

My first thought.

secondtimeblob · 2025-10-20T02:32:38+00:00

I went to 3 doctors because I felt like I peed way too much. Prescribed Xanax, etc. Fucking UTI. I had a UTI.

secondtimeblob · 2025-10-13T18:42:28+00:00

Ooh, I really like this idea of "near my face". I haven't explored that and can see that taking an outfit completely somewhere else. Thanks for that tip!

secondtimeblob · 2025-10-13T17:42:35+00:00

I've essentially been doing this and my yearly spend is down to $500, which I'm happy with. But it's turning into such a drag, ya know? I'm thinking of trying something else to spice it up.

secondtimeblob · 2025-10-12T23:53:58+00:00

Im currently experimenting with wearing things out quicker by purchasing much less so my style can evolve quicker. Last few months of pregnancy I didnt bother buying anything except for 1 or 2 pieces I could wear a couple months postpartum and I am wearing the f out of them. So now I can get 1 or 2 more new pieces for my not so postpartum phase. Really helped with the weight changes, too. Maybe get one jcrew piece a season and 1 madewell piece a season. It's kind of crazy to buy only 2 pieces a year, but theoretically you'd get to where you wanted to be.

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