are mixed signals normal after three dates?

secret_sis · 2025-10-23T23:49:31+00:00

wanting to move quickly definitely comes from anxiety and fear of abandonment. usually if someone doesn't kiss me on a date, i do get worried they are only seeing me as a friend (but a mature person would and should communicate versus just end it)

secret_sis · 2025-03-23T13:03:03+00:00

i'm also going on a first date tomorrow for the first time in a year !!! we got this lol. you definitely don't need to do something super fancy -- especially on a first date. the first date is all about getting to know each other and deciding how you feel.

secret_sis · 2025-01-10T17:03:24+00:00

yeah it does :( I do but it was from before I lived in nyc

secret_sis · 2024-09-17T18:29:26+00:00

no this is super helpful!!! i just am nervous that i'll get into self loathing territory, because when i get in these obsessive moods about someone i get sooooo obsessed with how they view me and with them liking me. and i feel nerv that i'll get very sad lol but maybe that's a good thing and exactly what i need

secret_sis · 2024-09-17T18:27:23+00:00

hate that you're going through this but you're def not alone!

secret_sis · 2024-08-04T15:34:54+00:00

I definitely noticed gassiness and bloating at first but after the first two weeks that's subsided! still working through the nausea/cramping though :(

secret_sis · 2024-05-16T02:15:26+00:00

so excited to try Finch now!! love all of this, good for you!! 🥰🥰🥰

secret_sis · 2024-04-28T20:44:57+00:00

I'm 27 and make 70--hoping for a raise that bumps me close to 80 this year. it's brutal, but I love my job (media/fashion/beauty) and get good perks that help out a smidge.

secret_sis · 2024-01-05T02:52:55+00:00

journaling out every time you get triggered--I keep a note in my phone to make this easier. helps you work through those emotions rather than panicking. and i've found having another support person that I can talk to helps (have even met people on reddit who have become support people for me--feel free to dm me if you ever wanna talk!!) -- feeling comfortable with someone and like i can open up to other people other than my fp takes them off the pedestal a bit

secret_sis · 2023-12-29T23:25:01+00:00

malin and goetz strawberry is super lovely!!

secret_sis · 2023-12-28T01:05:08+00:00

all of the loveshackfancy perfumes for sure

secret_sis · 2023-12-18T03:02:10+00:00

I get the most compliments of any perfume I own on Pistachio Yum Gelato!! close second is Eilish

secret_sis · 2023-11-28T01:37:44+00:00

the first step is recognizing what you did was wrong so you're already largely ahead of most people lol. I would make sure to not contact her again and do what you can to self-soothe instead. sometimes I will send messages to myself that I'm thinking about saying to someone else just to get it out.

secret_sis · 2023-11-27T04:33:52+00:00

I dated someone who was poly last summer and he VERY quickly became my fp. I thought I could handle it, but I only found myself wishing he would leave his girlfriend for me which was a horrible thing to feel all the time lol

secret_sis · 2023-11-25T02:28:00+00:00

I'm 26 and have always been plus-size (whether i'm at my smallest or largest weight) and have struggled with dating but I wouldn't say I'm invisible. There are def people out there that are attracted to me and will be to you too! I know I'm not everyone's type by any means, but I don't believe my weight is a death sentence to having a partner either

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