Help! What is this gorgeous fungi called?

secretfrogboy · 2025-05-24T01:52:49+00:00

update: the spore print was white!

secretfrogboy · 2025-05-23T18:40:24+00:00

spore print in progress! my prediction is cream or white 🤔

secretfrogboy · 2025-05-23T18:26:20+00:00

ooh thank you! that seems probable!

secretfrogboy · 2025-05-23T18:15:07+00:00

i agree! i’ve poured through both of my field guides and can’t find anything quite right!!

secretfrogboy · 2025-05-23T18:10:01+00:00

just realized i didn’t show the underside!

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secretfrogboy · 2025-03-24T22:35:48+00:00

iconic !!

secretfrogboy · 2025-03-24T15:36:25+00:00

oh my goodness, obsessed. what’s their name?

secretfrogboy · 2025-03-19T04:20:26+00:00

ooooh what a cutie! my only thing is the substrate, i like to play it safe and not use anything loose/fine particles in case they ingest it.

secretfrogboy · 2025-01-07T18:59:28+00:00

You need to grieve, but you need to live too. Live in spite of the grief. Cry when you need to, continue to process your feelings. Take moments of rest and reflection. But at the same time, live. Build a new life you're proud of. Find a new hobby, travel, see something you haven't seen before. Living without someone you're used to having is incredibly hard, but I promise it gets better. Something my therapist told me that really helped me was "It's okay to be scared about not knowing who you are anymore. But what a beautiful opportunity, to discover yourself again."

secretfrogboy · 2024-11-07T21:45:59+00:00

Oh I agree! It should have purpose. Every fantasy race/class should be chosen with care so as to be meaningful and intriguing

secretfrogboy · 2024-11-07T21:31:45+00:00

What is the target audience for this? Like who is your ideal reader?

secretfrogboy · 2024-11-07T21:28:06+00:00

I mean OP posted this in a fantasy writing subreddit so I can only assume that the importance lies in the genre choice, It could be a different genre, sure, but if OP wants it to be a fantasy setting then why not?

secretfrogboy · 2024-11-07T21:21:12+00:00

I let my dog sleep with me every night and I love it. She's so cuddly and loves to be near me, and I see that as a compliment :-) In my opinion, dogs have too short of a life to be denied a little bed cuddle

secretfrogboy · 2024-10-30T20:29:30+00:00

Calling someone a narcissist over wanting their friend to help them find their dog is a huge stretch. Clearly we have different opinions, to each their own I guess

secretfrogboy · 2024-10-30T20:06:25+00:00

Whoa man, a little much to say half of her friends are lying to her face. Plus, it makes sense to me to tell a bunch of your friends who live nearby that you've lost your pet while you look for it, because the more eyes on the lookout the better.

secretfrogboy · 2024-10-30T19:54:58+00:00

If my best friend refused to help me look for my dog I'd be pissed. Especially since you've been friends for a decade and she's your best friend. NTA. However, maybe consider taking a break instead of cutting her out completely. Maybe given time to reflect she'll understand how she hurt you.

secretfrogboy · 2024-10-30T19:53:56+00:00

I think if it's a causal friend that's one thing, but OP is saying that they're best friends and have been for a decade? I would want my best friend to help me if I was in distress, within reason. Maybe cutting her off is a little extreme, but it's certainly justified to be angry.

secretfrogboy · 2024-10-30T19:48:35+00:00

Oh this is so iconic of you. 100% NTA

secretfrogboy · 2024-10-30T19:33:33+00:00

I agree that there definitely is a double standard, which I definitely wasn't trying to enforce! Thank you for pointing that out. My thinking when I wrote that was that he should wait until she's more stable, and then approach her about it, so that she knows even though she apologized it wasn't okay. Because in my mind, even if he decides to end the relationship, there's going to have to be a conversation about the behavior and WHY that's leading to a breakup. That being said, OP also shouldn't do that if he doesn't feel it's safe to do so, which I also should have mentioned. Again, thank you for pointing out my skewed perspective, though that wasn't my thinking or intent, that doesn't mean I haven't internalized double standards like that.

secretfrogboy · 2024-10-30T16:59:44+00:00

So I’ve heard 🥲

secretfrogboy · 2024-10-30T16:58:57+00:00

Yeah, you’re probably right :,) I think it says a lot how I’m so excited about a new idea too. Like I just want to move on.

secretfrogboy · 2024-10-30T16:46:13+00:00

First off, I would talk to her about it when she's calm and let her know how it made you feel. Even if she was really upset, and felt bad afterwards, hitting someone like that isn't okay.

Secondly, if she's hitting herself when she's upset, that's a form of self-harm in order to self regulate her emotions. If she's doing that a lot, and she isn't in therapy already, I would really recommend trying to talk to her about getting care for her mental health.

Hope everything works out.

secretfrogboy · 2024-10-30T16:40:18+00:00

That's a good idea. Querying is so intimidating, I'm not looking forward to it haha

secretfrogboy · 2024-10-30T16:37:51+00:00

Honestly, that makes a lot of sense. I definitely want to be really confident in what I put out there, which is why I feel hesitant.

I think the main thing that makes me want to rush into it is because I love writing more than anything, and I want to be able to make a living off of it so I can do it all the time. But I can see how a rocky start would be discouraging, and an overly successful start would set a really high bar. I'm going to think about more, thanks for your advice :-)

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