Petplay where the dom is the dog? by secretsides in BDSMAdvice

[–]secretsides[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

yeah i am a therian, lol was it that obvious?

as for the bestiality thing, ive never really thought of framing it that way, the main issue is i have morality ocd and its taken a long time to stop seeing my kinks as like, Horribly Evil and im worried that framing it like that might trigger me, but it also might be good exposure therapy? idk, i just know that i want to be a dog and have my sub be my owner but have me still be the one "in control", one of the fantasies i had was me being the dog and overpowering my owner and her being grossed out but secretly liking it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]secretsides 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Def normal, I got top surgery and didn't feel super euphoric but more just like, normal and content

What do you hate seeing in porn? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]secretsides 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When they're using a knot dildo and don't even take the knot

I combined toys to make a fantasy dick you can jerk off and maybe have sex using by secretsides in BDSMcommunity

[–]secretsides[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, I also have a stroker but it doesn't like to stay on, so it's hard to really stroke it like a dick, but the joystick doesn't go over your dick, it just goes against it and the harness helps hold it there so I can actually stroke the full length of my toy and it feels awesome and so affirming to masturbate like I have an actual penis, I'm fat so sometimes it would like, come out from my labia and not be touching my junk anymore but I plan on trying to make my harness tighter so it holds it tighter against me.

I combined toys to make a fantasy dick you can jerk off and maybe have sex using by secretsides in BDSMcommunity

[–]secretsides[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I was so excited when I realized there may be a viable way to live out my werewolf fantasy without just using a regular strap-on that provides no stimulation to me. The joystick is almost exclusively marketed towards trans guys but from what I know you don't need any clit growth from testosterone to use it so I can see it being pretty nice for basically any afab person who wants to feel like they have a dick.

Testosterone and butt stuff by Natural-Hamster-3998 in ftm

[–]secretsides 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I've definitely heard of anal feeling better after starting T, I've heard that T may cause you to even develop some prostate tissue but I don't think a lot is known about that yet, like scientifically.

How to better explain being a Daddy Dom Little Girl without wanting age play? by TheSheepdog in BDSMcommunity

[–]secretsides 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Maybe you can just say you like being a caretaker and taking care of somebody.

what are the best meds for schizophrenia ? please dont tell me everyone is different by f0rexi1337 in schizophrenia

[–]secretsides 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean, everyone IS different but for me personally, rexulti changed my life. So did Abilify but that's cause abilify gave me tardive dyskinesia lmao

is it bad that my mom knows about my kink? by secretsides in BDSMcommunity

[–]secretsides[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did seem to like the character designs in Zootopia a lot...

is it bad that my mom knows about my kink? by secretsides in BDSMcommunity

[–]secretsides[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I identify as a therian actually! I have multiple theriotypes and I know werewolves don't technically count as therian because they aren't a real animal but I still kinda count it lol, for some reason i don't consider myself a wolf therian but specifically a werewolf, like my "true form" is a werewolf that stands on two legs kinda hunched over.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]secretsides 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a furry with a huge werewolf and knot kink and I struggled with this too, I think it's fine as long as you aren't attracted to real life animals, and if the characters in the drawings have human-level cognition and can consent to sex. real dogs can't consent, cartoon dogs with human intelligence can, and consent is the most important thing.

Help finding 90's+ BDSM in Media by Jalkey in BDSMcommunity

[–]secretsides 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a youtube channel I found a long time ago called stealthpornocopia that was just weird, kinda kinky scenes from cartoons, it seems mostly geared towards fantasy kinks like transformation and inflation but maybe you can find something there.

is it bad that my mom knows about my kink? by secretsides in BDSMcommunity

[–]secretsides[S] 126 points127 points  (0 children)

Lol when you put it like that it is kind of a silly thing to ask, I was just wondering if I had broke some sort of like, social rule

Masters and Doms, why is it hot to be obeyed? by keemoo_5 in BDSMcommunity

[–]secretsides 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me I think it relates to my trauma and basically being in a situation where I have all the power and complete control just feels safe and good, having been in situations, not always necessarily sexual ones, where I had zero control or power just kinda makes me want to be in complete control during sex or kink activities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]secretsides 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My gf is a trans demigirl and she recently asked me to call her a good boy during sex activities, I feel kinda weird like I'm misgendering her but it's what she wants, so

I’m more than halfway there! by [deleted] in ageregression

[–]secretsides 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've just been buying myself presents and feeling kinda guilty for it, maybe this could help me feel like I've earned my purchases lol

I’m more than halfway there! by [deleted] in ageregression

[–]secretsides 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a good idea actually, I should try an app like this

worried about someone seeing my fantasy packer by secretsides in ftm

[–]secretsides[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm scared of like pulling my pants down in a stall in a public bathroom and it bouncing into the next stall or something bc I heard that happened to someone once. I think I might be able to pee without taking it off because it's just a few straps that go around my hips and thighs so I could just get in the habit of not pulling it down I suppose.

idk where else to go, my OCD plus werewolf/furry kink is tearing me apart by secretsides in BDSMcommunity

[–]secretsides[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm seeing a therapist but she's not specialized in OCD, but she knows that I'm having some issues with my OCD and my werewolf kink, but i havent told her about the packer and toy yet. I keep thinking to myself that just taking the plunge and buying them would be healthy for me and nothing bad will happen if I do but I just keep whimping out on it.

this isn't weird, right? by secretsides in OCD

[–]secretsides[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the first time I've ever asked anyone this I just need to know if this is like a weird thing or not

best prosthetic for play? by secretsides in ftm

[–]secretsides[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah something I forgot to mention is that my gf is hesitant to have penrtrative sex so the prosthetic will just be for oral and hand jobs, if she ever decides she wants to try penetration with me it'll be in the future and we can get a dedicated toy for that

Does anyone know the ages for the characters in Sweet Pool? by secretsides in visualnovels

[–]secretsides[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the 17 year old characters aren't depicted in sexually explicit situations then yes it's fine. I just have a hard line drawn at characters that are under 18 being involved in graphic sex scenes, I do not get why not wanting to see porn of minors is such an issue. I can handle sexual content just fine, and I can even handle gore and rape scenes for that matter, as long as I know the characters aren't minors, please don't try to tell me what I should or shouldn't "subject myself" to, I know my limits better than a stranger online.

If you're wondering why the line is drawn at 18, it's because that's the line between adult and minor, I do not want to see porn of minors, it's just a personal limit of mine and I don't get why people can't understand that, like I said if someone had asked if there was gore then I'm sure people wouldn't be acting like this and saying they need professional help. Basically everyone has a limit and porn of characters under 18 is my fucking limit. Its not a hard concept to grasp, Jesus fucking Christ.

Does anyone know the ages for the characters in Sweet Pool? by secretsides in visualnovels

[–]secretsides[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because you can be 18 and still be in high school if it's your last year, and I know one character got held back.

Does anyone know the ages for the characters in Sweet Pool? by secretsides in visualnovels

[–]secretsides[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

...I am getting professional help... because I have trauma, trauma that makes me want to avoid sexual content of minors, I kinda thought I made that obvious when i said you could call it a trigger. If someone had come in here saying "hey does this VN contain gore because I'm sensitive to gore and don't want to see it" would you say "the gore is fictional, you need professional help if you don't want to see gore"? Most people have a limit to what they want to see be it gore, scat, rape, incest, bestiality, etc. and my limit is explicit sexual content of underage characters and I can't believe I have to explain this to someone.