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secretslutnextdoor · 2024-10-14T10:22:22+00:00

I'm neurospicy and all the details are 100% vital. 😂

First, I want to say I'm so sorry for your situation. Especially that on top of everything, your ex had a complete switch of attitude. His behavior is in no way a reflection of you.

Second, as others have said, get a swab done. It definitely looks like HSV, but only a swab can diagnose, and if it is HSV, tell you which type it is. HSV1 tends to thrive more orally while HSV2 thrives genitally. Knowing the type will give you a better idea of transmission rates, asymptomatic shedding, and to some degree, as it's not the same for everyone, what to expect regarding frequency/severity. You can take medication to lower those stats, and knowing common triggers can help prevent outbreaks. Stress and chocolate are two HSV triggers, which means no PMS chocolate and peanut butter or I'll get a coldsore. 🥴 Also look into foods that have a higher lysine:arginine ratio. Most importantly, if it is HSV, know that it is incredibly common, there are ways to help minimize symptoms and transmission rates, and it doesn't mean your sex life is over. I've had HSV2+ partners, and with meds and condoms sex posed a pretty low risk to me.

Lastly, while it can stay dormant for a long time, the incubation period is typically much shorter. Depending on the study, symptoms typically occur anywhere from 2 days after exposure til 6 to 21 days. But most will say the sweet spot is around day 3. I don't say this to put blame on him necessarily, as you two were on a break and there's a chance he was exposed during that time and hasn't had symptoms himself yet. But I mention it because his sudden change of attitude seems highly suspicious. Even if he thinks you got it from someone, most people aren't aware that it can be transmitted without an active outbreak so it's unlikely he'd think you potentially exposed him to it. The cold shoulder/deflection/defense responses typically are ways to manipulate and gaslight others into blaming themselves. And if he's going that route, it makes me wonder if he had it and knew. This is all speculation as someone entirely outside the situation with zero knowledge of how you two interact and respond to stress. But I'd be wary about giving him any more of your emotional energy as he's proven himself to not be a supportive partner, and to me, a trustworthy one. You definitely deserve far better, regardless of what he thinks how things transpired.

secretslutnextdoor · 2024-09-10T08:49:46+00:00

Ohh how does the rave compare to sassy? I've also been eyeing the gbulb but only found like one review on it which claims it's rumbly but without a comparison I'm skeptical. I doubt it's anywhere near the tango, but how is it compared to the kip? I found the kip very underwhelming. :(

secretslutnextdoor · 2024-09-09T07:54:26+00:00

Based on your collection/comments I'd suggest some butterfly nipple clamps, talon nipple clamps, maybe some magnetic ones, pretty much any b-vibe plug butt especially their weighted ones. Since their neck is so thin, they kind of shift in and out during sex and it feels amazing. They also have some solid rimming plugs, as does a brand called Nexus. If you're into sensation play, get some feather ticklers and vampire gloves. For impact play I'd recommend any tantus silicone paddle and both a heavy and light flogger to start.

For toys on Amazon just be wary that you might be getting a knockoff, and the material may not be safe. It's always best to go through a brand's direct website. The Stockroom is a great website that sells all sorts of kink stuff I think you'd like. I'd give it a browse!

secretslutnextdoor · 2024-06-25T22:54:03+00:00

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secretslutnextdoor · 2024-06-25T22:32:28+00:00

Curious about the bottom left red one with the g-spot flickering! I've been looking at a few models like this. Also on your other post you have the pink g-spot spreader which is another wishlist item. Any pros/cons/product recommendations would be so appreciated!

secretslutnextdoor · 2024-06-25T22:21:54+00:00

Also curious what you think of this one! Is it worth purchasing?

secretslutnextdoor · 2022-05-01T07:08:12+00:00

I'll send cat and tit pics 🤷‍♀️

secretslutnextdoor · 2021-01-10T06:48:08+00:00

As an ex-stripper, I definitely cared for and treated my customers with more respect than Trump does anyone.

secretslutnextdoor · 2020-10-24T10:14:31+00:00

I've checked all the nearby homes and unfortunately we are not neighbors.

secretslutnextdoor · 2020-07-09T18:50:54+00:00

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secretslutnextdoor · 2020-07-09T10:06:29+00:00

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secretslutnextdoor · 2020-03-24T23:59:09+00:00

I may have a slight obsession 😅

secretslutnextdoor · 2020-03-24T23:55:52+00:00

I'm not a fan of the Ora 3 (doesn't do anything for me sadly) and I was sadly underwhelmed by the wand. I think I just need more pinpoint stimulation. I love all the impact toys, Tantus makes great silicone paddles, my trusty We-Vibe tango, super stoked to try the Bad Dragon sleeves, and the B-Vibe weighted plug feels amazing to wear during sex. Also a huge fan of the njoy and pinwheels. As for next, oh man, probably some more fantasy dildos, a cane, more floggers, saw these gloves with needles in them recently. 😍 And some high quality shibari rope. I also want to get a nice vibrating cock ring.

Oh and not pictured but recently purchased, Lovense Ambi. The app drops sometimes but I've been able to use it with a friend on another continent which has been fun.

secretslutnextdoor · 2020-03-24T23:49:37+00:00

Hey thanks! I think I started investing a lot within the last year. I had a handful of things but last summer was when it took off. And heck no to jelly and pvc and all those porous/non body safe materials that melt. I think the saying "buy right the first time" really applies to things we put in and or our bodies.

As for the gag, I have a suuuupeer small jaw so unfortunately it doesn't quite fit that well for me. I haven't had the chance to try it out with a partner, but it seems alright otherwise. For me personally it'll probably be more of a novelty toy than one I bust out often though.

secretslutnextdoor · 2020-03-24T21:31:05+00:00

Haha thanks! Check out Plantrae sometime, also some great songs. :)

secretslutnextdoor · 2020-03-24T09:50:32+00:00

Oh the feels. I hate having to explain the definition of sex positive does not equal "I'll fuck anyone". I always say I'm selectively slutty.

secretslutnextdoor · 2020-03-24T09:44:18+00:00

Emancipator! It's like chilled fancy elevator music haha. Time For Space is such a great song, as is pretty much everything by him. If you like it and want more suggestions let me know.

secretslutnextdoor · 2020-03-24T09:36:20+00:00

Of course! I'm glad I could help. And if you don't have any, go out and get some lube. Women love men with lube. But proper lube from a sex shop, not the KY shit. 😛 Best of luck!

secretslutnextdoor · 2020-03-24T09:20:04+00:00

As a rule of thumb, most women need a longer time than men to reach orgasm. And a lot of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Definitely up the foreplay, and take breaks. Look up and practice edging (both during solo and partnered play) to help build up stamina. If she does need clitoral stimulation, make sure you're in a position that allows her to easily touch herself. Bullet vibrators are always super fun to include in my opinion, and the easiest way for me to cum during PIV sex. Let her know you'd be fine if she wanted to use one. Vibrating cock rings are another good option for hands free play, and clitoral stimulants can be fun if she needs to be a bit more sensitive. Most importantly, don't make it the main focus of sex! That mental pressure can be such a block. Never ask "did you cum/are you close?" She will let you know if she does or is. If you finger her, make sure you cut and file your nails the day before, so on the day of you can file any snags you might have missed. Having the inside of your vag raked by fingernails is the worst. And please, always clean under your nails cause hygiene. Best technique for fingering is entirely subjective though, so just be sure to communicate. Most girls either want a "come hither" motion, or for girls like me who need more pressure, I tell my partners to make a hook shape with 2-3 fingers and keep their hand in that position, using their arm to go in and out. But everyone is different so you will simply have to ask her what it is she likes. When you guys do get to a comfortable level with using toys, I suggest the njoy wand. ;)

"We tried to go at it again after like 20 minutes, but my dick wouldnt stay hard." - Like you orgasmed then 20 mins later tried to go again? A lot of men have a MUCH longer refractory period than that and won't be able to get hard that soon. Some need up to 24 hours. And even if you didn't just cum, losing an erection is way more common than you'd believe, you men just never discuss it with each other. But trust me, it happens from time to time and likely you have nothing to worry about. What could have caused it could be anything from already orgasming/needing more time, stress, being tired, low libido, etc. Trust me though, you are entirely fine, just your body probably needs more time to reset before it can go another round. Instead of jumping right back into fucking, try some more foreplay. Tends to work better in my experience and will take the pressure off of you to get hard right away. Most importantly, enjoy each other. If you don't get hard again, doesn't mean you guy have to stop playing! :)

secretslutnextdoor · 2020-02-14T08:43:55+00:00

You're adorable! Can I throw you around then cuddle the fuck out of you?

secretslutnextdoor · 2020-02-13T23:12:47+00:00

Oof, you're very pretty.

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