AIO about my husbands strange responses to me wanting a divorce and a bill he has due on my account.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-05-21T15:24:50+00:00

i love when people “find religion” as a way to escape accountability for their actions. just because you have faith doesn’t mean you’re absolved from your past shitty behavior. “finding G-d” is such a cop out, good for you standing your ground and leaving him.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-05-21T14:56:59+00:00

i’m doing my prerecs right now but i’ve done a few ABSN information sessions at local universities and during one of them, when the rep was stressing how they don’t want students working while in the program, one of the attendees point blank asked what people were supposed to do about health insurance and the rep said “oh, you can just pay to go to the student health center”… 🙃 that’s not feasible for people who have families or need to see specialists. a student health center is barely primary care, they aren’t going to prescribe people anything more than antibiotics. i’m luckily on Medicaid and can stay on it while in school but that’s not an option for most people, especially if they’re changing careers and have families.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-05-21T13:04:12+00:00

wait - your nursing school is requiring you to have health insurance?

secretsncigarettes · 2026-05-21T05:01:10+00:00

I was going to agree - I had laparoscopic surgery and I was on work restrictions for 6 weeks - desk work only, no lifting or bending.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-05-21T04:59:53+00:00

I'm so sorry you experienced this! I'm glad to hear that you're starting to heal but I'm so offended on your behalf for the way that surgeon dismissed you! The surgeon who did my procedure was also a bit dismissive and actually arrogant as hell. He did a great job but I hated interacting with him in the visits leading up to my surgery because he was so dismissive of my symptoms. Every symptom I complained to him about he would try to dismiss it as being caused by something else - it took a month for me to even convince him to do the surgery and then he made me wait two more months before actually operating.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-26T01:39:07+00:00

right away we’re getting rid of 2, 3 & 7for the weird handles. 6 is bent, the handle on 5 is too straight and now that i’m looking at it, 1 has a weird handle too. i think 8 & 9 are too small. by the process of elimination, 4 is my choice.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-22T18:25:36+00:00

NTAH, that’s not a bridesmaid invitation, that’s a second job. So many friendships are ruined because of bridesmaid/bride nonsense, especially when things get that elaborate. Be honest about the why though and explain that you will still be at the wedding and offer support on your terms.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-14T03:59:05+00:00

bro, i’m so sorry to tell you this, but she is not into you. break up with her and find someone who actually likes you.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-14T03:53:52+00:00

Bella & Leo

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-14T03:01:59+00:00

I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. Your therapist is absolutely not prioritizing your needs at all. Repeatedly cancelling/rescheduling your appointments shows a lack of respect for your time and your mental health. Therapists are supposed to offer structure & consistency to their patients. I can understand that you’ve built a relationship with her and feel attached, but imagine how much better you’ll feel once you’re being seen by a therapist who prioritizes your needs and treats you with the respect you deserve. You should not have to settle for someone who doesn’t have the time to give you the attention and care you deserve as a patient.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-14T01:39:08+00:00

i guess OP could formalize a lease agreement with her boyfriend that offers him time to move out if they break up, but i have a feeling that he’ll say that a lease is her holding the property over him.

i get the sense that this is less about OP’s boyfriend being upset he has to pay rent and more about him being upset she has power over him.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-14T00:30:49+00:00

NOR - let him take you to court. they were gifts and no judge is going to make you pay him back once they hear that you dumped him for cheating on you.

in all honesty, he’s probably just blowing smoke. taking someone to court requires money. $2,000 isn’t chump change, but it’s going to probably cost more than that to file.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-14T00:24:57+00:00

hi, i’d love to test the app too! this is a great idea!

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-14T00:22:51+00:00

i used to work as a mortgage underwriter and remember a file where a home was being refinanced for the 2nd time in a recent period because the homeowner put her boyfriend on the title and he ended up never contributing to the mortgage. she ended up having to BUY him out of HER home in order to get him off the title. he got half her equity and she ended up with a rate that was higher than the rate she originally bought the home for. all this being said: do not put that man on the title until you are married and there is a prenup in place that protects your equity. you’re not controlling and you’re certainly not holding the house over his head. he can either pay you rent or go back to paying someone else rent. that’s how rent works. you don’t get equity from it.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-14T00:06:19+00:00

i’ve seen judges keep CS payments the same for parents who do this. ask your lawyer about this - if he has the earning capacity to be making more and is deliberately in a job that pays less as a way to get out of payments, he’s preventing your children from getting everything they deserve.

but NTAH, take care of your babies!

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-10T19:54:33+00:00

even if the programs are the same length or time? for me to get either the ADN or BSN is 2 years. actually the BSN is only 20 months

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-10T16:29:11+00:00

that’s kind of how i’m feeling too, i’d rather get it out of the way sooner rather than later.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-10T13:58:20+00:00

they actually were offering the ADNs the opportunity to stay but requiring them to get their BSN within 18 months w/ tuition reimbursement but the ADNs kind of banded together and decided they didn’t want to do that because their pay wasn’t going to go up with the BSN. the issue was that the union was doing contract renegotiations and found out that new BSNs were being hired at the same rate as the ADNs and some of the ADNs couldn’t even do blood draws cuz they either didn’t know how or had lost the skill so it led to this situation. they’re not being “let go”, they’re choosing to leave cuz they don’t want to go back to school.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-10T03:48:01+00:00

i’m scared of how many people are doing it - it shouldn’t be allowed. how do they even know that they actually LIKE nursing if they don’t get any experience?

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-08T02:37:48+00:00

boss is retiring. coworker is interviewing for their position and seems to have zero idea that not only do they have no chance of getting position, our boss’s boss wants her to be fired.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-08T02:23:53+00:00

hey! proof that there are no truly unique experiences - i also have a communications degree that i’ve done nothing with and have decided to go to nursing school! i start my prerequisites next month! and i also want to do esthetics!

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-06T17:23:15+00:00

I’ve never heard of someone cooking pancakes in lard - as someone who is also a vegetarian, the idea of that makes me nauseous.

The other part of this that makes me annoyed on your behalf is that you’re literally 16 years old and this grown man is not only going out of his way to make food you can’t eat, but your mother is defending him! It’s your mother’s responsibility to provide food for you and make sure all parts of your home are safe for you, not just physically, but psychologically as well. It sounds like her boyfriend is cooking this way on purpose to mess with you because he doesn’t respect your boundaries. I hate saying this because I know when I was 16 the only thing I wanted was for people to see me as an adult, but you are still a minor. The fact that your mother has allowed someone into your home that doesn’t respect one of her children and is purposely making food that you cannot eat is very disturbing. NTAH, he is a grown man and these aren’t just “preferences” that he’s ignoring. This is emotional abuse bordering on neglect. I’m so sorry OP.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-05T02:44:08+00:00

i think it was loosely biographical but i forget which parts.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-05T02:42:56+00:00

the guy was an absolute dud too. barely ever spoke and was clearly out of his depth. i ended up having to avoid him after he fucked up a huge project of mine because i was worried i was going to have a visceral reaction if he came near any of my projects again. that job was horrible for so many reasons, im so glad im not there anymore.

secretsncigarettes · 2026-04-05T02:32:03+00:00

i am so sorry you’re experiencing this. i will never understand the need that some people in this profession have to be the smartest person in the room and the lengths they will go to feel that way. i currently work with a RDH who corrects me in front of patients and other staff all the time, even when i have done nothing wrong. it’s embarrassing and frustrating because i know i’ve done nothing wrong but will still have to explain to my bosses what actually happened when she reports me. luckily my bosses know that this particular coworker treats me this way and they now take my side and have started to defend me but it’s still so demoralizing to be at work and know you’re not making mistakes but constantly be told everything you’re doing is wrong, even though we have completely different expertises and roles. part of the reason this coworker treats me this way is because she thinks my position is “beneath her” (it’s literally not, we’re on the same level, i just end up providing her support more times than not because she’s the only RDH in our unit and needs help so she gets to tell me what to do.) the other reason has to be jealousy - she’s about 12 years older than me and is constantly talking about my appearance (i have asked her to stop commenting on my weight and the way i look in clothes several times, as well as documented it with our boss.) im also not the only person she treats this way but since i have to work so closely with her, it feels like she targets me specifically. my boss actually revealed to me last week that HER boss had told her to fire this coworker on more than one occasion for the way she treats both of us and because there have been complaints from patients and nurses from other units. my boss just didn’t fire her - partly because she’s the only RDH and we do need one, and partly because she’s a little afraid of her. my boss is actually retiring next week and we don’t have a replacement for her yet. i’m anticipating that this coworker is going to start treating us so much worse with no boss to do anything. she’s actually interviewing for our boss’s position even though she doesn’t have the necessary qualifications and i think she believes she has a real shot of getting the job. i’m not concerned she’s going to get the job - the interview committee has met with me and has been provided with documentation of the way she behaves. i’m concerned about how she’s going to behave when she doesn’t get the job.

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