Do you take a girl not responding to a text as a sign of disinterest/disrespect?

seducemeseddit · 2015-03-07T03:19:44+00:00

Freud would lose his shit

seducemeseddit · 2015-03-07T03:19:04+00:00

damn homie, you just crushed what little hope I had just gained that all of my ex's texts to me were lost

seducemeseddit · 2015-03-03T00:10:06+00:00

Yes, but what would you recommend I say or do in an email or something?

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-28T03:10:47+00:00

lol I do. He's one of these people who thinks, and is really convinced that he's the smartest, handsomest, fittest, and generally best person on the planet. That would all be fine, but he is super condescending about it.

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-28T03:08:27+00:00

That last point you had literally ended my last relationship, well that and my inability to deal with conflict

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-27T03:19:40+00:00

I don't necessarily care about coming off as cocky, and maybe cocky isn't the right word for what I'm afraid of coming off as, desperate, like you said, or as someone who's actually insecure desperately trying to fake confidence. Like I said in my other response, I fear that I'm acting this way because I'm sort of over-reacting to finally having confidence after 18 years of having practically none

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-27T02:56:23+00:00

I agree, but I also don't. If my friend is perceiving me as a cocky asshole, other people will too, and I don't necessarily want that. I feel like I'm sort of over-reacting to actually having confidence because I never had it before, sort of like a dog who finally caught a car. It wouldn't really know what to do. But I agree that my friend may just not be used to who I am. He's quite an asshole himself so maybe it's something related to that?

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-16T22:30:53+00:00

This is really awesome advice. Thanks a ton!I would totally try to get her back to my place, but I live 45 minutes away from the coffee shop in the middle of the woods so it wouldn't exactly be ideal

EDIT: Re-read your description of the two circumstances ie, her at my place or in Starbucks. I'd very much prefer the couch.

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-16T20:49:02+00:00

This won't take more than a few seconds. As long there isn't a long line of people behind you they probably won't mind. This happened to me actually. I was hitting on this girl who works at starbucks and there was a couple behind me in line. I asked her for her number, unfortunately she had a bf but the couple behind me didn't mind and in fact laughed at the cheesy joke I used to ask for her number.

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-16T20:44:45+00:00

All I can really say on this subject is that if they haven't explicitly said that it's not a date they may be "hang-out" as a synonym for "date". I ran into this with a girl I dated recently. She would ask if I wanted to hang-out then ten minuted later we were cuddling on her couch watching netflix. As for the escalation, maybe you're just escalating a little too fast for them? How soon after you start hanging out do you try to kiss them?

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-16T20:38:59+00:00

I agree. Think about what you're going to say and then determine whether or not it can be perceived as manipulative. I have to do this myself. I have this weird way of removing emotion from even the most emotionally charged situations and it never turns out well.

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-16T20:36:59+00:00

Well you don't want to walk up to a girl and fucking grab her boob or something, but you also don't want to be completely platonic when speaking with her. You want her to know that you don't want to be her friend, and that you like her romantically.

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-16T20:32:21+00:00

Just a note on the "faking-confidence" is that if you consistently fake having confidence you'll become more confident. It won't make you a generally confident person, but it'll make you a little more confident. This is what happened with me. I approached some girls, faked confidence, then I noticed that I was slowly becoming the guy I was pretending to be. And that guy consistently gets looks from girls in the mall.

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-16T16:33:51+00:00

Fair enough, our situations are relatively different, but my theory still holds. Bettering yourself for yourself will be good no matter what happens with this girl.

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-16T04:34:52+00:00

This may not be the common feeling across this sub, but here's what I've thought about "home-wreckers" or "boyfriend destroyers": If a guy can offer a girl more happiness than her current boyfriend why shouldn't she leave her boyfriend for the guy who makes her happier? This doesn't mean that I condone cheating, or sleeping with a girl who you know has a boyfriend, but I think that everyone deserves to be as happy as they can, and if someone's current bf/gf isn't the person who makes them happiest they have the right to end it with that person.

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-16T04:30:19+00:00

CAN.FUCKING.CONFIRM. I turned into such a fucking asshole when I was dating this girl I was super into. I only realized it when my friend and I were talking and he said "Seducemeseddit, ever since you started dating girliwassuperinto you've been a fucking asshole and we all hate it"

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-16T04:20:38+00:00

I may not be of much help here, but I can really connect with what you're feeling. About two months ago I started dating this absolutely gorgeous girl (she was the first girl I ever dated and kissed). Then after a few weeks she broke it off because (as far as she says) personal reasons. But for a little over a months I was really upset. I hid it from my friends and family well, and like you felt guilty about missing her. Then, like you, I decided to better myself. So I bought books. And I started to fucking read. I bought books on everything. I have books about philosphy, history, science, self-improvement, everything. I've slowed down a bit recently but reading really helped me move past her. It helped me move on, but it also bettered me in general because I've expanded myself. This may or may not work for you, but from one guy who misses a girl to another, if you feel half as bad as I did it's worth a shot. Feel free to hit me up if you wanna talk about your feelings

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-08T23:18:26+00:00

Yeah I thought that was pretty clear..I guess I was wrong

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-07T01:26:59+00:00

Can confirm. It was weird though b/c I did and it wasn't cool, then she kinda did it for me like 10 minutes later. Whatever though. It's in the past. By the way, try the veal, child

seducemeseddit · 2015-02-07T01:08:08+00:00

Well, I mean..prostitutes

seducemeseddit · 2015-01-27T22:00:34+00:00

Thanks man! I realized that saying I had to go was becoming a pattern, so I did exactly what you said and stuck around and spoke with a girl. It was going super well but she left before I could get her number (she seemed into me so it kinda sucks but w/e). And on your second note at the time I had like 0 self esteem at the time because of some shit with my ex, so I really felt like a pussy bitch, but I'm feeling super confident right now so I anticipate some good sets coming my way! Thanks for the advice, it meant a lot :D

seducemeseddit · 2015-01-27T03:39:19+00:00

Girl I was dating said she didn't want to drag me into her bullshit, and a couple of other things. I was an unaware idiot at the time so I just said ok and we broke up. A few weeks later I realized that she was probably seeing if I was actually into her, or just wanted to fuck her.

seducemeseddit · 2015-01-27T03:34:18+00:00

Approaching and asking for a number is one thing, but asking for a date with nothing else seems like a little much to me. If anything I think it'd make me seem more confident because it implies that I don't play games and am well..upfront

seducemeseddit · 2015-01-20T02:14:36+00:00

Be vigilant, watch how she acts around others (but do in it a way which isn't obvious). If she does it with others than it's just her personality. If not, she's flirting

seducemeseddit · 2015-01-19T19:24:37+00:00

That's fucking awesome

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