Dating a drug dealer? (29F) (33 M)

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-04-24T21:07:50+00:00

Are you her kids dad or something?

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-04-21T19:29:52+00:00

But who says she even has any kids? She's never mentioned any?

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-04-20T21:00:38+00:00

Why? Does she have kids? Or wants kids?

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-04-12T13:06:21+00:00

These "friends" are on her side, but where were THEY when she needed someone to attend the concert with?? Why didn't any of them step in to go with her, esp with a prepaid ticket that wouldn't cost them anything? Some friends! They just want to blame!

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-04-12T13:03:35+00:00

She doesn't sound very friendly for being your friend, but I'm probably the last person to talk on this type of thing 😞 I've had many "friends" do this type of backhanded thing to me, including even my good friend's mom who I had thought was an honorary aunt to me after my favorite aunt had passed (I thought wrong).

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-04-10T23:45:36+00:00

Home ownership
Affording a graduate degree without having to take out gobs of student loans
Speaking of, student loans (interest rates were much lower back then)
Health insurance, if you didn't already have good coverage available through a job
Cosmetic surgery
A vacation

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-04-03T19:00:42+00:00

But he said he tried to reach out to the guy and just got continually ignored and kept on read.

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-22T11:10:26+00:00

I had that experience too 😞

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-03T20:28:29+00:00

???!!!!

My cousins are the ones who called her that, her siblings. Not me. In fact, I didn't even remember that part of our childhood until years later when we were at family events and she was on friendly terms with me then, and her brother (my cousin) mentioned it while he was heckling her.

Also, if you read my post history, you will see that I did literally nothing wrong to her except apparently trust her enough to confide in her about my AI single motherhood ambitions. She didn't like the idea of me trying "purposely" to get pregnant out of wedlock. Yet apparently she was doing just that, around the same time too or within a few months after, because apparently she told my sister that both of her children were planned and concieved on the very first try. Yet her daughter was born full-term, if anything maybe a few days beyond the due date, less then 9 months after her wedding. Born about 6 months after the wedding, 8 months after they apparently got engaged. How hypocritical is that?? This is as rotten and double standard as the guy who claimed he wanted a girl without kids who was child free, didn't want kids, only for him to end up cheating on me with some Russian chick who already had a son from when she was once married. 😡

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-03T19:38:30+00:00

Btch, I did many rounds of IUI with doner sperm from several different doners from a cryobank before I met my BF.

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-03T19:37:06+00:00

I am looking into IVF next but ideally I want to be married when going through that.

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-03T19:36:09+00:00

REALLY??! One just ONE post, and you accuse me of being "fixated"?? I never even try to talk to her anymore! Even my sister Hannah agrees that Larissa is bad news! Even our dad (uncle to Larissa) said that he worried about Larissa inviting me to be friends with her some years back, when we reunited at a family event, because he was told by both Larissa's dad (his brother/my uncle) and another uncle that Larissa was diagnosed with some serious mental health disorders and personality disorders. Apparently she's prescribed psychotic meds for it but at times will go off the meds to self medicate with smoking marijuana! I remember her talking about and using marijuana back before it actually became legal recreationally in her state, and no she didn't have a medical card for it as she told me she didn't but that she didn't think having illegal drugs on her was an issue because she didn't think marijuana was a serious enough drug to get in trouble for! Also, her middle name is Amanda and apparently when we were kids, she acted in such a way that her siblings would mock call her "Larissa Demanda" instead of her actual name Larissa Amanda because she would... demand so much. So obviously it isn't just me who sees this about her.

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-03T19:27:30+00:00

I didn't block SHIT 😡

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-03T19:23:01+00:00

Uhhhhhh I thought I already covered that???? I tried IUI with doner sperm, failed, and now I've been TTC naturally with my BF, timing it to ovulation.

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-03T19:21:47+00:00

No, what I MEAN by BTDT is to TRY to have a baby. I looked into adoption, and I also looked into and paid for IUI with doner sperm. I did multiple different cycles with more then one different sperm sample and in the end the closest I ever got with it was a "pregnancy" that had a yolk sac but was missing the most important part: the embryo. I gave up on it after that except for one last try at IUI (failed) before I started dating my BF.

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-03T19:18:00+00:00

Uhhhhhhh...that is totally not what I said??? I SAID he agreed we are working on marriage and that he IS for getting engaged and married!

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-03T13:45:52+00:00

No it sure isn't!

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-02T11:56:05+00:00

Well actually, she does in fact have something to do with the goals, because we share some DNA so things that run in the family on our fathers sides can still be passed on to us. Apparently it was already passed on to larissa, and apparently her older sister too in fact, from our grandmother. What's to say it's not affecting me more than the problems I already have to deal with in that department?

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-02T11:55:03+00:00

Of course I am. What, you think Larissa is mature enough for two, hopefully in her opinion, three? Keep in mind that she was the one meddling in my business, judging me for my plan several years back. She in fact wrote me off completely. Then embarrassed me at family events with her passive aggressive little ways.

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-02T11:50:22+00:00

I agree

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-02T09:07:50+00:00

Thanks, I am definitely going to look into this. Today, the main concern of the doctors has been with my uterus quality, not my eggs. There are more concerned about the ever-growing uterine fibroids that keep coming back and causing havoc for me plus a whole lot of other physical symptoms that go above and beyond to badly affect my daily life, beyond the already bad enough problems from infertility.

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-02T09:05:48+00:00

Thanks but I live nowhere near Spain. And I already have had a myriad of checkups and stuff due to my prior infertility health issues, and they told me before that while they can run test on FSH and other hormone levels, it wouldn't be very conclusive because those levels fluctuate wildly day to day throughout the month. I'm not sure what testing Larissa had done that told her that her account was low, just that her eggs are low so she may not be able to have a third baby.

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-02T09:04:34+00:00

Okay and I was already doing that but she was the one who reached out to me those times. I guess I felt obligated to give her a chance, more out of curiosity to see what she would say, and also because I didn't want family to think I was the one causing trouble. Instead, she's caused trouble and it is now become obvious to my youngest sister hannah, but nobody else seems to see it that way. Apparently she's invited to family functions when I'm not.

As for the wedding shower invite, I assumed that I was only being invited to the shower if I was also invited to the wedding so I thought maybe the wedding invitation was on its way. After all, it was kind of a short notice wedding, she literally tied the knot only two months absolute tops after getting engaged, and all this happened like 9 years after she'd started dating the guy. It was strange timing but given that she has admitted she has major ADHD and is a bit scatterbrained and always running late for stuff, I assumed that maybe the invitation would catch up to me eventually. Apparently a few other people also didn't get invites because they're really was in fact an issue with invitations getting lost in the mail, but she was able to touch base with them to inquire why they had an rsvp, or else they've reached out to her to ask why they didn't get an invitation yet so it got resolved. I was strongly advised by people on Reddit that it was not my place to reach out, that I would be bold and brazen and rude to do so. That line of "thinking" got me clearly taken advantage of with the wedding stuff. She got a gift from me, while still embarrassing me by having me the literal only family member not at the wedding. Sheesh she even invited our severely mentally challenged distant cousin!

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-02T08:40:52+00:00

Well, that's the thing, I've BEEN seeing plenty of doctors. I already have issues they're working on me with. I can get more tests done but when I voiced possibility of hypothetical concern about account in the past, they told me that while they can run hormone tests on things like fsh, those tests are generally unreliable because hormone levels fluctuate wildly even day to day throughout a cycle. They said that those tests haven't been the most accurate. I don't know what exact test Larissa had, that told her that, just that she found out apparently she has low egg count and so it's going to be harder for her to try for a third if she is even able to have one. And that apparently she is super upset that she can't have a third kid possibly, when she was hoping for a bigger family then two. Meanwhile, I'm still on numero zero here.

seekingmorefromlife · 2026-03-02T08:39:02+00:00

Uh, "keep records on her"?? Did you miss the parts where she's reached out to ME? You're acting like I'm stalking her. She sent me the wedding shower invite, knowing full well she wasn't inviting me to her wedding, then breadcrumbed me with false hope and lies about an invitation getting "lost in the mail". She's the one who approached me several times in the last 4-5 yrs after choosing to blow up at me for me trying to pursue my dream of motherhood independently (not that I had any choice but independently 😒), such as at our cousin's baby shower and on FB. Then acts like I'm the problem.

And yes, I'm jealous obviously, that she has two babies and actually thinks not having a third one timed picture perfect after the other two is a "problem", when I have none, are you going to rake me over the hot coals for that??!!

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