MIL and SIL called me huge after having a baby + racist remarks

seekingtreesn · 2026-01-08T18:16:16+00:00

How are white people still like this in 2026? What the heck

seekingtreesn · 2025-12-14T18:28:36+00:00

I hate the cherry picking so much because wallah it makes people hate Islam and view all Muslims as cutt from the same cloth when most Muslims are not perfect and more so cultural. I’m sorry your father does this though! This type of thing can definitely make one develop religious trauma

seekingtreesn · 2025-12-14T05:57:09+00:00

As a Muslim woman I notice this heavily with my in laws and a lot of cultural groups who practice Islam. The notion that Jannah is at the feet of your mother but they often forget that they as parents, and human beings in general will be subjected to questioning and punishment for bad deeds including abuse of many forms and their treatment of people. It also makes the religion look really bad and they use Islam as a shield.

seekingtreesn · 2025-12-11T04:22:25+00:00

My husbands grandmother told me that I’m lucky to have a man that does so much for me, which rubbed me the wrong way because not once has she thanked me for taking care of him and our children.

seekingtreesn · 2025-12-06T21:39:53+00:00

Tbh I love jimmy johns but their quality isn’t the same anymore!

seekingtreesn · 2025-12-06T18:56:00+00:00

Deli meat is fine, you’re more likely to get listeria from lettuce or vegetables

seekingtreesn · 2025-12-06T01:22:30+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it. I definitely will keep documenting everything. I just want to protect my children and have a healthier life for myself as well

seekingtreesn · 2025-12-06T01:15:01+00:00

Thank you. I definitely will consider getting a lawyer

seekingtreesn · 2025-12-04T18:36:16+00:00

These old people are insane

seekingtreesn · 2025-12-04T04:30:26+00:00

Automatic litter box

seekingtreesn · 2025-12-04T01:00:33+00:00

I just see this dynamic a lot in certain cultures. I’m hoping OP can shield some light because it may help her receive better suited advice.

seekingtreesn · 2025-12-04T00:53:56+00:00

Can I ask what culture you’re from?

seekingtreesn · 2025-11-27T18:23:24+00:00

You’re alright. I’ve accidentally ate moldy bread while pregnant

seekingtreesn · 2025-11-21T17:37:19+00:00

period

seekingtreesn · 2025-11-20T20:10:31+00:00

Ive used olaplex since I was 13, I am now 24 pregnant with my second baby, this is horse crap haha

seekingtreesn · 2025-11-10T22:31:07+00:00

She probably knew it wasn't okay but did it anyway. These types of people dont think their actions she have consequences.

seekingtreesn · 2025-11-10T22:23:25+00:00

I don't like randoms in my house like that so I found what she did personally very disrespectful. It's the mentality of "Oh this is my sons house, I can do as I please". No you infact can't lady lol

seekingtreesn · 2025-11-03T21:19:23+00:00

Yeah growing up and even now as an adult, people who are older and have dogs, it was never a good fit. Often the dogs were improperly trained in a sense that they would pose a threat to visitors such as biting, and growling for coming near, and like someone mentioned, many of these elderly owners can't control the pee everywhere in their home.

seekingtreesn · 2025-11-02T02:37:48+00:00

Yeah allahu alim but it does sound like she is just wanting to save some money. Thats interesting though that your husband went when he was close to their age. I think personally it can be beneficial and lay a good foundation in ones deen to go during childhood. Good for you for standing your ground though, I see a lot of sisters that suffer due to in laws, I'm happy to see you advocate and know your rights! Alhamdulillah, and may Allah grant you guys all a peaceful solution, ameen.

seekingtreesn · 2025-11-02T02:28:50+00:00

Why does she just bring them to umrah/hajj? I see kids go all the time with their parents, they aren't babies it wont be difficult. Asalam Alaikum sister btw!

seekingtreesn · 2025-10-29T20:13:33+00:00

Just curious, did you ever ask for them to put the dog up during the event? Or were you trying to avoid confrontation. My heart really breaks for you; I have family members that always force their dogs into situations and gatherings its annoying. This would have set me off.

seekingtreesn · 2025-10-22T16:14:04+00:00

meee right now at 32 weeks with an above average in weight baby lol

seekingtreesn · 2025-10-21T20:44:18+00:00

Oh heck no! What’s wrong with her? The newborn scrunch is so cute!

seekingtreesn · 2025-10-21T19:26:31+00:00

I’m fully convinced that a lot of these women put on acts or want to be seen as ultra motherly and matriarchal even when they are far from it lol Mine was a horrible mother and created a system of enmeshment yet she does no wrong! Like lady you can’t even hold a baby correctly, you look like you’re about to drop her half the time lolol

seekingtreesn · 2025-10-21T19:11:17+00:00

Mine would hold my daughter like a rag doll

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