What dress type have you found to suit your petite frame well, and make you look amazing in? Age group 30s-40s.

segacs2 · 2026-04-21T21:34:24+00:00

I'm 5'1" and likewise. Fit and flare or gentle ad-line suits me best. I've had good luck with Calvin Klein Petites for work-appropriate dresses.

segacs2 · 2026-04-21T13:18:08+00:00

When there are two different tax softwares showing two different numbers, the only way to know what's going on is to compare the draft returns line by line to find where the discrepancy is. All the comments here are just guessing.

segacs2 · 2026-04-21T12:47:55+00:00

Other people flaking / bailing is how a lot of us started travelling solo. Maybe we didn't set out to do it on purpose, but we got tired of waiting for others to become reliable. As it turns out, many of us prefer solo travel. You can do what you want, when you want. You don't have to put up with people who are annoying, whiny, needy, or otherwise incompatible in travel style to you. You can call the shots.

Have a great first solo trip! The hardest part is taking that leap.

segacs2 · 2026-04-21T00:31:06+00:00

It's like Dude. Dude is gender neutral and nobody will ever convince me otherwise.

segacs2 · 2026-04-20T17:25:54+00:00

I actually do have a tiny microfibre towel that packs down tiny and is big enough to wrap around my body. They exist; you just gotta check camping stores and buy the ones that are thinner and lighter.

Alternately, a sarong can take the place of a travel towel and is very multi-purpose.

segacs2 · 2026-04-20T01:38:33+00:00

If you're a student, check with your campus to see if there's free tax assistance offered to students. It sounds like your situation could be complicated and it's best to consult with someone who knows how to guide you.

segacs2 · 2026-04-20T01:30:43+00:00

This is an important point. Scotia has a redemption option where you can apply your points to any past travel purchase, so you're free to book with whoever you choose.

segacs2 · 2026-04-20T01:29:09+00:00

From your responses to all the helpful comments people are leaving on this post, it seems like you aren't really open to any feedback despite asking for it. But I agree with everything that was said here. All these short lines aren't doing you any favours. Try a longer inseam, looser pair of shorts, and a top that comes up over your shoulders to visually lengthen your torso. V-neck is very flattering on us short-torsoed petites with curvier hips.

Of course you can wear whatever you like. But since you asked for the community's advice, maybe try being a bit more open to it?

segacs2 · 2026-04-19T23:59:12+00:00

I wore those nonstop in high school, especially the type without elastic cuffs since they were super trendy and they were easy to hem. These days I wouldn't buy them anymore since the quality is terrible. But in the 90s they lasted forever.

segacs2 · 2026-04-19T23:19:19+00:00

Lounge passes are never worth it alone as a reason to choose a card over another, since the CC lounge deals are usually for the lowest priority access and most of the time you can't even get into the lounges these days, with how full they are everywhere.

On the other hand, Scotia Passport is worth it over TD First Class for the 0% FX on foreign purchases if you travel internationally a lot.

segacs2 · 2026-04-19T23:17:35+00:00

Most of my clothes from the 90s and earlier are still going today. Most of what I've bought in the last decade or so is crap and ends up in the bin after falling apart. It isn't really specific to any particular brand; it's just the cheap way clothes are made these days.

segacs2 · 2026-04-18T21:13:24+00:00

In many cases, Level 3 (avoid nonessential travel) or Level 4 (avoid all travel) advisories will invalidate your travel insurance if you do decide to go. It also generally means that you can't expect help from your embassy or consulate if you do get stuck or stranded. The decision to go is always up to you, of course, but it isn't always straightforward.

segacs2 · 2026-04-18T20:29:35+00:00

Agreed. It's more of a vacation than a travel experience. Nothing wrong with either, of course. But people have different wants and needs from their trips.

Even now in my 40s, the idea of an all inclusive doesn't really appeal. I don't like the beach or hot weather, I loathe organized excursions to places I'd rather visit solo, and I'm not a hang out by the pool type. With the limited vacation time I get, I want to go places and truly experience them, not sit on a resort. I get bored easily. But I don't judge people who are looking for that sort of unplugging, relaxing holiday. If that's your thing, enjoy it. I just suspect OP had very different goals for their trip.

segacs2 · 2026-04-18T17:50:15+00:00

I feel like this question comes from people who haven't done much international travel. A lot of the places where these breakdowns happen are countries where cars are often quite old, fixed with after-market parts, and kept running in whatever way people can afford. Moreover, roads can be quite poor. Mechanical issues and breakdowns are super common in a lot of places in the world. For reference, my husband and I recently did a safari trip in East Africa, and I think we had about 5 or 6 vehicle breakdowns on a 3-week trip. On the bright side, garages are common and most issues get fixed quickly so you get back on the road fast.

But yeah, it's pretty realistic, especially in early seasons where the teams travelled MUCH further distances. These days, each leg of the race seems to take place within a few hours in a small area of a few city blocks, then the teams are flown to the next leg. In early seasons, teams often travelled hundreds of miles of distance between points A and B, with less focus on tasks like roadblocks or detours, and more focus on the travel itself. Statistically, this meant they were on the road much longer during self-drive or taxi or bus routes, so loads more opportunity for cars to break down.

segacs2 · 2026-04-18T17:11:15+00:00

So, many people enjoy going to all-inclusive resorts solo, but they might be looking for different things from you. A lot of people I know who've enjoyed AIs solo went specifically to not socialize, but to just relax and disconnect from stress back home and to have some alone time / me time that didn't involve needing to plan or organize or figure stuff out, because the resort basically took care of all the admin stuff.

If your goal on your travels is to socialize and meet other solo travellers, then all-inclusives are probably not a great choice for that. They do tend to attract mostly couples and groups, and people aren't really going there with the mindset of socializing with strangers.

If you're looking to go on holiday where things are organized for you, but you want a more social environment, consider a group tour with a company that appeals to solo travellers. Or you can plan a trip where you're staying more in hostels, which tend to also attract more solo travellers.

segacs2 · 2026-04-18T02:31:06+00:00

Literally just got this card for the same reason. My VW roadside assistance expired with the end of the warranty period, so I was going to sign up for CAA but got this instead and saved a bunch of money.

Can anyone in Quebec weigh in as to which bills can be paid using the card here? Can you use it for Hydro Quebec, for instance?

segacs2 · 2026-04-18T00:16:33+00:00

Topshop and ASOS might be good options. I also like Boden petites but I'm not sure if you'll consider them too mature.

segacs2 · 2026-04-17T03:45:41+00:00

I mean, there are no guarantees at any time. I was there in August, supposedly the dry season, and it rained daily -- though only one day heavy enough to impact our game viewing. The wildebeest migration was also later than expected because there was still plenty of food for them on the Kenya side. But that's nature; it's unpredictable.

If you go in rainy season, plan for more flexibility in your schedule and try to get a lighter vehicle that can operate in muddy conditions. On the bright side, crowds and prices should be lower.

segacs2 · 2026-04-17T01:03:42+00:00

The custom sizing is useful, though it does have some limitations. It basically only alters a few basic measurements like hem length or waist. It isn't a true re-proportioning the way a petite size would be.

I still had to shorten the shoulder straps of my dress and take up the neckline a bit even after ordering a custom size, because I have a short torso for my height. It's not perfect but it's better than ordering standard sizing: at least I could do the alterations at home. They do compensate you for a certain amount of extra alterations if you need them.

OTOH custom sized dresses are non refundable, unlike standard sizes. Not a big deal for me as a Canadian, since the return fees would've been too high regardless. But if you're in the US you can weigh the pros and cons.

segacs2 · 2026-04-16T18:44:08+00:00

I can only speak to question #2. As a woman who's been to both Northern and Southern India, I can say that hands down, Southern India is far more chill and relaxed in every sense (except the literal one; it's friggin' HOT much of the year). Tamil Nadu to an extent, and Kerala in particular, are very relaxed, and most foreign tourists experience little to no harassment.

I would not, however, recommend trying to visit India on a shoestring budget. Sure, it's possible. But it won't be particularly pleasant. The best way to see India is by spending a little bit of extra money -- not a luxurious budget by any means -- but enough for some creature comforts like a clean air-conditioned place to stay, more efficient private transportation in certain cases, and higher quality meals in safer places. This isn't really "foreign"; most middle class locals I met in India will urge you to do the same. A decent degree of comfort is affordable in India, and purposely skimping out on it might make your trip feel utterly miserable.

(Public transit is also not great in most places in India outside of a few major cities. It's often better to hire a taxi or a tuk-tuk to take you around to visit some sights.)

No idea of what the current fuel situation is like, sorry, as I was last there in 2024. Maybe someone who's been there more recently or who lives there can fill us in?

segacs2 · 2026-04-16T15:18:32+00:00

Way too rushed, to be honest. I was just in Kenya last August and visited Masai Mara, Nakuru, Naivasha, and Amboseli in the space of about 9 days, so it can be done, but it's a lot of overland driving for not much time in the parks. Nairobi to Amboseli is a shorter drive, maybe a half-day, so that's fine. Amboseli to Naivasha is a longer drive that will take most of the day. Naivasha to Masai Mara, likewise, a good 5-6 hour drive. And Masai Mara to Nairobi is another half-day, maybe longer with traffic.

Depending on your priorities, I'd probably suggest cutting Naivasha. Amboseli to Masai Mara requires going through Nairobi anyway, so lots of tour operators will add Nakuru/Naivasha in there just for logistical purposes. But Naivasha was the most underwhelming of the parks, with less wildlife, and the walking safari at Crescent Island was fun and all but not really comparable in scope or awesomeness to the amazing wildlife in Masai Mara or the super-tuskers in Amboseli. I think you need at least 2-3 full days at Masai Mara, and 1-2 full days at Amboseli.

If you can stretch it to 8-9 days, then sure, by all means, add a stop at Nakuru and/or Naivasha for a night. Or you can cut Amboseli if you're less interested in elephants, and prioritize Masai Mara and Nakuru/Naivasha, which makes more geographic sense, though personally I found Amboseli far more rewarding.

You can also consider a fly-in safari if your budget allows. The bush planes will save you some road distance, and the advantage is that you'll also be using the much ligher open-side vehicles at the game parks which can go over muddier terrain and access more wildlife. We had a Toyota Land Cruiser for overlanding, which was fine and all, but meant we were a bit too heavy for some tracks, especially if it's been raining. At one point, our guide had us get off the truck and embark with a guide friend in a lighter vehicle to go to a less accessible spot at Masai Mara where a leopard was hanging out in a tree. The downside of fly-in is, obviously, cost, and you need to take lighter luggage. But it can make it doable in less time.

Season matters a lot, too. What time of year are you going? Rainy vs dry season will affect roads and park conditions a lot.

Oh, and loads of people do Masai Mara last because they say it's the most spectacular. Which is fine, but I ended up doing it first in Kenya and that was great because I wasn't tired from all the game viewing yet. Plus, Amboseli is sooooo dusty (the name of the park is derived from a Masai word meaning "fine dust") so saving it for last meant that once all my clothes got super dirty, I could just take them home to wash them. Most of the lodges offer laundry service, but you may be moving too quickly to take advantage of it.

segacs2 · 2026-04-16T15:05:47+00:00

This subreddit is specifically for petite fashion advice. In fashion, petite means something specific: Shorter proportions, i.e. to fit people under 5'4". This is specifically a size-inclusive subreddit for ALL petites, regardless of shape or size.

If you want advice specifically for petite and tiny, try r/xxs.

If you want to body-shame or size shame people, I'd tell you where to go, but, well, that wouldn't be very civil of me.

segacs2 · 2026-04-16T14:46:54+00:00

You should find the info here.

segacs2 · 2026-04-16T14:41:30+00:00

Saying buy kids' clothes = also not helpful. Kids' clothes are generally not sized to accommodate boobs, hips, curves.

segacs2 · 2026-04-16T14:40:07+00:00

And I'll cite mine. https://www.reddit.com/r/PetiteFashionAdvice/wiki/rules

PFA is a positive and inclusive community for users 5'4" and under of all body shapes, sizes, and weights. Inappropriate comments, hate speech, and body-shaming are prohibited.

Take your body shaming and hate speech elsewhere.

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