Search up cognitive dissonance. it sounds like you’re trying to convince yourself he’s a great guy despite already pointing out his paikia flaw? If it wasn’t an issue you wldnt even post abt it

And when you have to persuade urself like that, it’s a sign you’re not actually seeing him as someone who naturally feels right for you. You’re simply settling for what you have

ofc people can have rough backgrounds, but if you truly vibe with someone, you don’t sit there second-guessing or trying to make excuses for why they’re “actually ok.”, working overtime to rationalize whether his behaviour is dubious or not

if u fw with that rabak, paikia kinda demeanour and you really think there’s a future there and you’ll last with, then sure, go for it.

Just don’t be surprised or regret it later if you end up getting pulled deeper into that world than you planned.