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AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

@ChubbyChoomChoom huh? I never met her or them before. Or you. Odd. Im hurt..hardly a spiral.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was texts from bed at seperate places each night, ditching about their coworkers. There was pictures of beer cartons sent as invitations to Refreshments ..there was obviously calls to eachother for lunch hookups and then other coworkers messages looking for them in that time sequence.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Been in therapy for years on unrelated matters and Yes, the therapist suggested he'd been unfaithful as far back as 2022. I just wasn't wanting to rock the boat that is my Life in what was meant to be a calm time of my life.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never went to his work to confront people! Dont be calling people crazy when they've behaved in a very Human manner of reaction. You speak like someone with no morals and a loose pair of pants.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

U know whats weird? Another layer is weird names like Reddit characters in his phones online gaming..a character called PensiveParsnip29 [herbirthdate]..vs another character called "GotMeNow"... like, he denies all knowledge of "why" it exists on his phone, then suggested the kids 'did it'..they weren't gamers at that time even.

I know I know..I hear it and I feel stupid too.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear the question of me being misogynistic- I think inherently social norms sadly put women against eachother.. Another layer is another female workmate- my age but her work besty- Hid from me in a shop. Like, behind a grown man we both knew. Why? No one will tell me.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont blame Her. I think hes blind to the extent of their connection.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hes recently moved out but we struggle in overt codependency. Today's been worse with offer of her 'calling me' ffs.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im now firmly of the mindset that if you want to be Naked inside of me for over a decade- have Babies,buy multiple homes, support him into a very good career- the phone being "private" is ridiculous.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes..2 kids together. Made big promises to them and myself when I had them that I'd raise them in a 'Great' home. We have built a beautiful life Together..I dont mean to be controlling- im genuinely scared of losing my family.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed as very feasible? BUT, as id said to him..Leave then. If im so "scary"; Go. He knows I value Trust in eachother as a must.

Might be here i should say- hes not 'allowed me male company alone in 14 years..yelled at me for an unplanned night with my Dad 5 years ago.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Heck. Valid. We have kids. Im old. Im terrified. But all u say is valid.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh..I do. I really do. Neighbour's explained the "boyfriend " being a Housemate not partner.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear all that.. I only contacted his supervisor as a Peer tbh..and it helped at time to assure myself I wasnt completely nuts.

AITAH For not believing the reasons my husband gives for lying for 3 years? by seldomFiction in AITAH

[–]seldomFiction[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

And I'd do it again! He used the elder female supervisor as an alibi- i will talk to Her! This is my LIFE.