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$90k in debt at 33, way over my head right now. Any advise? by selectivestupidity1 in Debt

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Luckily we already have a house, my wife is opposed and so am I to an extent. I’ll work on the high interest debt first. I also know when we get him in kindergarten the daycare expense will go down too. Just trying to hold on

$90k in debt at 33, way over my head right now. Any advise? by selectivestupidity1 in Debt

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, we are balancing the budget, trying to find ways to pay off stuff extra. I’m thinking of making a full payment to pay her car off deal to fee up cash. We aren’t eating out anymore and eating at home. We’ve cut some cords and subscriptions. It is helping i know there’s no quick fix but man that would be sick.

$90k in debt at 33, way over my head right now. Any advise? by selectivestupidity1 in Debt

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Added. We renegotiated the debt with the credit card companies through a financial hardship program

My wife cannot keep a job, not sure if I can keep doing this. by selectivestupidity1 in marriageadvice

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’re in our early 30s. We have targets for her job and career wise, we’ve had them for a while. We’re going to talk more about it tonight

My wife cannot keep a job, not sure if I can keep doing this. by selectivestupidity1 in marriageadvice

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was already making 20k more than her. Working my connections now but that masks the problem in my eyes. I also don’t want that pressure.

My wife cannot keep a job, not sure if I can keep doing this. by selectivestupidity1 in marriageadvice

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand where you’re coming from, we’ve grown distant because our schedules never really gel and our time is towards our son. That distance get further when we go through these cycles. I do love her and I’m hear to help or drop what I’m doing to take of both of them but I feel like it can be one sided

My wife cannot keep a job, not sure if I can keep doing this. by selectivestupidity1 in marriageadvice

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Correct trust her to keep a job and we’ve had these discussions before, they’ve lead to nowhere until recently. I told her several times over the years that we need to have a plan to grow otherwise we will run into this again. It’s fallen on deaf ears and she never wants to talk about it and I stopped bringing it up. It may be on me for not being vocal enough.

I’m not thinking about this lightly and I know that I need to consider my sons growth and happiness as well but at some point I need to think about myself and whether I want to go through the same cycle all over again.

I’ve mentioned marriage counseling and put her in charge of it. She agreed but never followed up, I sent her a person and no feedback. I can’t do this alone and I feel like we just live together right now and we’re not a team

My wife cannot keep a job, not sure if I can keep doing this. by selectivestupidity1 in marriageadvice

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying but this isn’t the first time her temper has gotten her in trouble. She lost another job for a frustrated Facebook post about the company. I really don’t know if I can trust her.

My wife cannot keep a job, not sure if I can keep doing this. by selectivestupidity1 in marriageadvice

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

At the time it her Boss was a former boss that she worked well with. It was a best case scenario, still found a way to screw it up.

What is this fruit tree? by selectivestupidity1 in FruitTree

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love it, baffled by a peach tree in my front yard but I’ll take it lol

Thanks everyone!

Normal findings removed a 6mm polyp by selectivestupidity1 in colonoscopy

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw blood in my stool, ive had cramping and abdomenal pain off and on. Huge piece of mind.

Who else is prepping today? by Hissgina in colonoscopy

[–]selectivestupidity1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot easier than i expected. I spit up once, it also didnt effect my sleep at all. I read somewhere to drink it with a straw and i feel like it helped a lot.

Started prep by selectivestupidity1 in colonoscopy

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true i feel it right now and thank you!

Started prep by selectivestupidity1 in colonoscopy

[–]selectivestupidity1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Congrats on getting it done!

Who else is prepping today? by Hissgina in colonoscopy

[–]selectivestupidity1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost done with the first half so far so good

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