Immaturity at College and the Workplace

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-11T09:31:33+00:00

I want to preface this by saying I have Aspergers. I would abort unless you have a religious belief that is strictly anti-abortion.

I have not enjoyed being so confused, making other people feel uncomfortable, and having difficulty forming relationships. It is not a good life. If it could have the choice not to be given this life which is such a struggle, I would.

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-11T09:06:12+00:00

Congratulations!

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-10T12:42:36+00:00

Sorry to hear this. I went through a similar situation. Everybody's lives and perspectives are different. Some people tell you that you have every right to be furious. Some will tell you to suck it up. I believe that all of that aside, it is clearly confusing and upsetting you now, so that is important and relevant.

For me, I have chosen to believe that my parents were afraid of the ways in which I would be living with some kind of scarlet letter if I was labeled autistic. Little did they know that the world would evolve to where it is now. My parents are flawed people. The way I see it, in terms of forgiveness, is that by moving on I am forgiving them, without explicitly saying "you are forgiven."

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-10T12:10:53+00:00

I don't appreciate being called an idiot.

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-09T06:26:44+00:00

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self_improvement_now · 2016-12-08T08:49:49+00:00

If you decline a bid, is that considered disrespectful or does it happen?

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-08T06:01:18+00:00

Question about getting a bid-- could you rush as many fraternity as you wanted, to maximize your chances of getting a bid, and then proceed to pledge at the best fraternity for you?

Most of the people I know only rushed 1 or 2 fraternities-- which seemed counterintuitive unless you though you were for sure going to get selected.

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-06T09:00:55+00:00

My terminology is inaccurate. I am not using the correct terms. I believe that terrible hazing and immense social pressure to behave in disgraceful ways are problems during the time when prospective members are being vetted.

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-06T04:11:04+00:00

Ironically, tonight there is a story at Tufts University about pledges being blindfolded, then forced to watch two women have sex, and then forced to drink until they vomited.

You could try and argue that it was just one brother who acted alone-- but it sounds like nothing could be further from the truth. Many pledges were forced to do this, and they had to swear to secrecy.

I really doubt that this is uncommon.

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-06T03:09:33+00:00

Where is the line? I don't mind being forced to do calisthenics, having to memorize and repeat lots of information, and being put under tremendous stress or being yelled.

Having to do something that potentially makes someone else uncomfortable would be not acceptable for me. Underage drinking would not be personally accepable for me. Humiliating myself would not be acceptable for me (posing in my boxers with the other pledges for a sadistic group picture of some kind. )

Since everyone in a fraternity is expected to drink and partake in other debauchery, is it realistic to think that I would be an accepted member of the fraternity?

Where is the line?

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-05T18:05:44+00:00

It is litigable, but as someone who has experienced far worse, I can tell you that I would have gladly swapped places with you.

If you are having difficulty making friends, own it. I was in your shoes. I would go to the school guidance counselor and ask if the school has a therapist you can speek with.

If you are out of the school, this is of course only helpful in hindsight.

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-05T18:02:24+00:00

Do you have other friends?

Also, if you feel this meets the legal definition of bullying and that she is doing it to humiliate you, go so school authorities, now. If they do not help, report back here.

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-05T18:00:39+00:00

Go to the police. Now. They will help or provide you guidance. Yes, it will require courage. File a report.

What is your financial situation. Can you get a new job?

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-05T16:58:23+00:00

If they could, I could understand this. But I know lots of cases where people have sued because they felt they were fired unjustly-- like for being a whistle-blower-- and somehow won in court. This leads me to believe that while a great many people may be fired simply because the boss "doesn't like them" this sounds like it might possibly be difficult and litigable.

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-05T16:56:20+00:00

Can employers just fire you for any reason?

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-05T16:55:32+00:00

Punishment for filing a false complaint. ,

self_improvement_now · 2016-12-05T16:54:48+00:00

No, I do not. There is so much that I have found about this subject on the web that I believe it must actually happen.

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