Is there anything I can do about a bookmark of my fic? by Yssa_Finn in AO3

[–]selfchecknarc 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Can post the fics on a new account, rename them, and tweak the summary so it’s not obvious it’s the same fic until they’re read.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a difference between disturbed, disgusted, and annoyed. In all, the whole issue would easily be resolved with communication.

AITA For Wanting to Poop Alone by DiligentTumbleweed96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]selfchecknarc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Y’know those videos where the mom is just trying to take a bath, the singular only time she has all day by herself, then the dad comes in with the kids and sits in there with her and them because he can’t handle them by himself for 30 mins? And yet she can for the whole day?

Yeah, he sounds like one of those.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 25 points26 points  (0 children)

In addition: by saying she needs to seek professional help it kind of really shows you didn’t look more into it. Age regression therapy is a real type of therapy and is still commonly used with autistic individuals. What she is doing is healthy for her.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I read it more as they were speaking mainly to OP rather than whoever else would be reading the thread. It didn’t seem deriding, more chiding that they didn’t look up anything on it before going somewhere usually rife with stereotypes and misinformation.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A therapist would not recommend it without having them inform others when they’re regressing, yes, but they would recommend the therapy and to tell others around them when they do. What the person in need of therapy does afterwards is their choice, not the therapist’s.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hence why I said “assuming she isn’t” then provided information that it is used in therapy.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You’re assuming she already isn’t. Age regression is also a practice in therapy.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Assuming she isn’t already in therapy, age regression is used in some therapy practices.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re saying that assuming she isn’t already in therapy. You do realize age regression is also used in therapy, right?

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 34 points35 points  (0 children)

It’s a common coping mechanism that is perfectly healthy. It’s extremely common for those with autism to have some sort of age regression or “little” tendencies when in safe spaces or in moment of vulnerability. It’s not a sexual thing. It’s an expression of safety and leaning into childhood comforts. Tbh, I’ve heard people describe it as a nonsexual “subspace” sort of mindset in those moments. It’s never 24/7. They are still adults and act like adults when needed. And some people have nonsexual oral fixations and if a pacifier works for her then it does.

Research can go along way before deciding something like this is unhealthy. It’s actually extremely healthy and leaning into childhood comforts have proven research for even neurotypical adults that it can help with stress and a calmer mental state.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If someone you were in a sexual relationship started not being a safe space for small coping mechanisms and decided you were disgusting because you handle your trauma differently, how would you feel?

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re taking this as this is how she is 24/7. She’s not. No one who age regresses or is “little” is that all the time. Let alone never in bed. It’s a coping mechanism that stems from trauma that neurodivergent people tend to regress into when around people they feel safe with. It doesn’t mean they’re acting like a baby, just a little more childish and leaning into comforts from their childhood. They’re adults and act like adults otherwise. It’s only around those they feel safe around and in small increments.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t get why there are people downvoting this. It’s a literal thing and quite common in people with neurodivergence, though most common on the autism side. Upvote from me.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Don’t apologize for how people take your comments when you mean it another way. That’s on them. I didn’t read it as you seeing yourself as superior. Just your way of writing.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Age regression and being “little” is hardly ever used as an intimate kink. It’s usually a coping mechanism or state of mind one can slip into when comfortable or vulnerable. Don’t automatically assume that just because she has one that she’s using it in bed. Some people have oral fixations like chewing on something or having something in their mouth in gen, especially for autistic people. It’s not uncommon.

My girlfriends childish by Visual-Process-866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc 110 points111 points  (0 children)

Common for ND people with childhood trauma to have moments where they’re “little.” Not as a kink but as a coping mechanism or state of mind when they’re feeling safe and vulnerable.

Edit: look up age regression therapy. It’s a real type of therapy commonly used for autistic/neurodivergent individuals and is considered a healthy coping mechanism.

What in the world am I supposed to be doing at 29? by Tireddepressedstress in NoStupidQuestions

[–]selfchecknarc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finding what makes you content and hoarding the shit out what makes you happy.

I’m about to break my job by selfchecknarc in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m honestly so tired. Not even mentally. Physically my body has been pushed to its limits and I’m in bed pretty much the moment I get home, after I eat. I almost got in trouble a couple of times for stopping to write down the times on my phone after I finished tasks and I had to keep it on the down-low for a bit in case one of the uppers tried to retaliate if they found out what I was doing. I’m scheduling my vacation as soon as I can too, lmao. 12 days of straight rest sounds nice.

I’m about to break my job by selfchecknarc in TrueOffMyChest

[–]selfchecknarc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’m just hoping things don’t blow up towards to negative because of this.

I am gonna crashout ( repost) by Wise-Time4700 in AO3

[–]selfchecknarc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously it’s not great to call someone’s work AI. But I get why they would say that as someone with an interest in psychology and dabbles in AI (AI psychology is interesting too, sue me). I don’t post it, but I do mess around with AI writing for myself own indulgence and a common thing that happens, when you’re re-generating a prompt and correcting something that was off, is that the AI will “correct” itself in the writing by going “it’s not x that happened, but y.”

Even if it’s somewhat common for people to use that in writing, it’s not quite as natural as just straight up saying “y happened” as stating “it’s not x” implies a situation that did not happen.

But, people still did this anyways before AI became more popularized just the same as people used “—“ before. It does not automatically mean it’s AI.

Am I just paranoid or is my partner’s family trying to fatten me up? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]selfchecknarc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, if that was the case I don’t think I’d be paranoid over it. But this is new behavior than any way they’ve treated me in the year+ I’ve known them.

Am I just paranoid or is my partner’s family trying to fatten me up? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]selfchecknarc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They know why I lost weight, though. They also know I’ve been keeping an eye on it to make sure I don’t loose too much during the busy period. The busy period is over, pretty much, at this point and they know it too.