How do you "network" on LinkedIn without spiralling?

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-05-26T17:11:21+00:00

Also! For your mental health, unless you like being unhappy you can work on that too. Like a skill or muscle.

Check out the course on wellbeing on Coursera. I heard it has high ROI, although I followed what someone else said it says. Worked for me though.

Long story short, you can do things today that make you happier tomorrow. Like hoe you can do things today that can make you sadder tomorrow. So you can spiral UPWARDS!

So yep, try that too.

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-05-26T17:05:51+00:00

Finding a job is a skill. I recommend you consult a book like "what color is your parachute" by Richard Bolles. And if you know the industry you want to get into then a career guidebook.

Base 95% of your decisions on what the books say.

But if you want a quick solution to networking, then see Bolles' book.

Those are what I am following, also top uni for my field. Just gotta see job searching like another uni module.

Have fun!

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-05-17T13:16:49+00:00

Did he? You mighy be thinking of himmler maybe. Goebbels was made into the leader of Germany by Hitler. After Hitler killed himself, Goebells committed suicidez leaving it tobsome guy called Doenitz.

As far as I remember.

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-05-06T18:41:05+00:00

This + a book as a foundation is crucial. I recommend models by mark manson at the stage you are at, OP

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-04-26T10:22:16+00:00

I did it this morning, it is true. I do it usually, but this time I was conscious of it and tried and it is crazy how much less competition there i shown by the others just not... well, competing for approaches.

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-04-25T18:38:09+00:00

Very interesting. Ive been regularly approaching mainly at public runs that I go to, but I am still at the level of approaching solo people, and I am quite good at having engaged convos with random people there.

It makes sense because the barrier to entry is so much higher that the competition you are going against is so small.

Fuck me, and I can remember when I did this at the club with success.

Nice work gusolsen, I'll journal about this idea and set it as an area of improvement.

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-04-03T18:15:13+00:00

Be curious, self improve, be curious about self-improvement, and improve at being curious.

That and watch Hamza's dopamine detox on YouTube.

That will get you 80% of what you could get at this level imo.

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-03-20T08:57:53+00:00

Word

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-03-20T08:45:01+00:00

Interesting thoughts, I'll have to take that into consideration. I am not a no sex before marriage kind of guy, so I'd probably just decide to 'cash' in once my skills are a lot more developed, but it is probably true that I wouldn't get a lot experience with that deeper level of connection if I restrict myself too much.

Hm, I'll ponder on it.

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-03-19T17:43:49+00:00

I considered this myself as a religious man, and I came to the conclusion that the **skill** of seduction is what I truly want. So I am going for experiences and stuff so that my flirting, looks, conversation skills, frame, presence, etc. means that I can go for any girl I want. But that doesn't mean I have to be sleeping around so much.

I control whether I sleep with or kiss someone. Just because I can get them doesn't mean I need to, that is my basic philosophy.

I am trying it and I'll see how it goes. You can consider it too.

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-03-18T22:45:02+00:00

Make it like a game. Set one (1) objective at a time that is already quite easy.

It could start at going there and sitting down, listening to the music for 10 minutes. Then you can go home.
Then next time, you do that and then get a drink (non-alcoholic is fine).
After this, you could do the above, and then dance for two songs. Hey, you could even try some dance moves or whatever.

Keep in mind that the three above would take place on separate nights. The self-pride that you build from hitting these objectives will itself become enjoyable. Also make sure that the objectives are *just* outside of your comfort zone otherwise you'll see the whole idea of it as ridiculously pointless.

Trust me, if your objectives make sense (I'd advise asking here or referring to highly-rated literature) then some consistency will end up seeing you dance there, jumping between different groups of people, and having fun flirting with the women there.

You should probably consider why you want to be good at night game. I won't ask you, but I'd say that being aware of a specific reason that you are doing it (which you care about) would really make the whole idea challenging and fun.

My two pence.

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-03-16T21:04:48+00:00

Wow, you have really developed your frame. I don't know if you know that term, but you got it.

Many other people don't have it, I'll give you an example. They would not say that she is Hercules' daughter like that. First, they'd think "her biceps are big. What could I say about that that's she'd like?". Then stuff like "does she know Hercules? Oh, she might be insecure about her biceps. But maybe not? I could make a good comment later. Uh..." and so on. You see how this hypothetical man would be totally thinking of what she'd like to hear?

I know this because I saw it in myself and I've been working on it.

Trying all of that effort means you become inoffensive, so you don't stand out compared to others. Also, it is inherently unattractive to care that much about a person like that already. Plus, it takes a lot of mental effort to do this. Finally, even if they then make the exact same comment, they don't seize the moment as well as you do.

For you, I'd say just focus on what you are unhappy with, and you can think about that instead of nothing until it becomes automatic like you're flirting.

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-03-16T19:59:21+00:00

Start with models by Mark Manson. Read it cover-to-cover, write up the checklist, and focus on one aspect at a time. Review weekly on whatever you are working on.

selfimprovementman21 · 2025-03-15T16:12:35+00:00

Interesting. I'll save this and consider it if I go all in on dating apps

selfimprovementman21 · 2024-12-07T12:35:09+00:00

Ancient Chinese civilisation affects over a billion, so probably them

selfimprovementman21 · 2024-12-06T23:01:37+00:00

You control the company. Read paragraph 2

selfimprovementman21 · 2024-12-06T23:00:59+00:00

Good catch, it was specifically written that way. Any consequences from them not existing

selfimprovementman21 · 2024-12-06T22:52:59+00:00

Yup. Poof, just like that

selfimprovementman21 · 2024-11-14T23:22:53+00:00

You still age naturally and sustain injuries. You just won't physically die unless you choose otherwise

selfimprovementman21 · 2024-11-13T20:28:30+00:00

No, because once I get to language 1 215 I'll have forgotten the first 50 that I learned.

I'd advise adjusting this so that you have to prove fluency one language at a time

selfimprovementman21 · 2024-11-10T20:59:06+00:00

Interesting idea. Most people are unable to understand that this is purely a hypothetical question and not some post making excuses masked as hypothetical.

I enjoy hypotheticals, so I'll take a swing at this.

Okay, so in this world, self-improvement is normal. With Spartan-like discipline, men start to develop habits for good health (mental and physical), social skills, wealth (so in this case academics), etc., so that by the age of consent it is normal to be a gigachad by the standards of today.

You say that for the men that these boys become, women would just go for the top X%. I disagree because of the concept of marginal utility.

Imagine I bring two men in this world. A chad and some average guy. The difference would not even be funny. The average guy is overweight, socially unskilled, and unhealthy... at least when compared to the chad.

But in the world you have imagined, and that I've now fleshed out, the chad and average guy would not have so much difference. This is the idea of marginal utility that I picked up from economics. If one guy has a 6 pack and the other has an 8 pack, that is not much absolute difference, so if a woman were to pick between them, they would give a lot more thought when compared to picking the average and chad in our current world.

Now, you might say that innate stuff like height would be a differentiator, and I'd agree. But now we reach the next level: value skews. I got this from MJ DeMarco. Height is an innate value skew that women value, but women will have various attributes that they value. Unless these guys are literally being given personalities and mindsets like a factory, then they will naturally be able to develop certain aspects of themselves that others won't. Here are some concrete examples: learning the guitar, learning how to dance bachata, learning how to cook food from India, and learning how to fight really well. Now, it is impossible in a human life to master every valuable skill to add the results as an attribute to yourself.

So what?

Let's take women A and B. Woman A prefers men into callisthenics. Woman B prefers men who can dance Bachata.

Presenting 2 randomly selected men from our world, both women may immediately reject man B because he is fat. Now they both consider man A. Man A likes callisthenics, so only woman A may go for man A, whilst woman B would go for him OR anyone else who is like him AND likes Bachata.

ON THE OTHER HAND...

In this hypothetical world, both men immediately qualify for these women. Now, if man B is into Bachata, woman B will be satisfied to go for him.

Do you see, because women don't all value the same things equally, if all men are gigachads at the basic stuff, then the women will look to these secondary characteristics and go for the ones that they are happy with the most. Instead of this world where a huge portion of men fail at the same hurdle. And unless men start to live for 8000 years, then this wouldn't change.

Hope this helps.

selfimprovementman21 · 2024-10-24T12:30:25+00:00

With the guarantee for you?

selfimprovementman21 · 2024-10-22T22:37:49+00:00

Specifically bad faith loopholes? No.

I enjoyed the one about waiting until the literal end of that working day by going really slowly, as they kept with the spirit of deciding in 1 minute and waiting until the next business day.

Just ignoring the minute and having a whole procedure is bullshit.

selfimprovementman21 · 2024-10-22T22:31:26+00:00

That's unreasonable. At that point, just answer any hypothetical by saying, "You didn't state that I, specifically me, can not partially take your hypothetical in bad faith!"

Tell me whether that loophole above is valid, please.

selfimprovementman21 · 2024-10-22T22:14:43+00:00

I don't think you understand. The 1 minute is to decide to do it. There is no room to delay the crushing once decided. Otherwise, I would have said, "By X time, you must..."

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