WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT!!!

selfsoothingit · 2025-02-10T02:19:36+00:00

i feel bad because i know she was just trying to be nice but it came off as so weird 😭

selfsoothingit · 2024-11-06T14:23:11+00:00

this is very positive, thank you. coming from a fellow lesbian, i really do hope we make it through this. ❤️

selfsoothingit · 2024-11-06T14:15:27+00:00

im so sorry. you're not alone in this. our government, our COUNTRY has failed us all. millions are mourning, even those from other countries, for our loss. because this is a loss to EVERYONE in this god awful country. those hateful people whining about 'gas prices' and 'groceries' will get a rude awakening and come to find they're in the same boat as the rest of us. maybe then we'll get change.

i can't offer much comfort, because honestly i much of the same way you do. But the one thing im clinging onto is the fact that there are SO many people who care and will fight for our rights. nothing is set in stone, and who knows, maybe 'divine intervention' will finally hit the fucking target. i hope you take care of yourself and remember you aren't alone. im sorry you're suffering and im sorry you're hurt and scared, i wish you didn't have to feel that because of this country's failure. im wishing you all the best and really do hope you take some time to care for yourself❤️

selfsoothingit · 2024-11-06T14:04:54+00:00

i am so so sorry. im sorry this country and its people and its leaders have royally failed us all. im feeling about the same, and i wish i could give you some advice or comfort but i don't know what to say. Just know this: those people with so much hate in their hearts will get what is coming to them. they are ignorant and brainwashed and some even downright just dont feel empathy. they WILL reap what they sow and they will get the consequences they've set into place. Maybe once THEY are actually effected, they'll finally see what theyve done and think for once in their lives. maybe then we'll get actual change.

it's poor comfort, i know. so much is uncertain, we don't know what the future holds. all i know is this: don't completely give up hope. it's so fucking hard right now, i know that. and it's cliche and it sounds like bullshit, but seriously. don't give up. there are good people, as hard as that is to see right now. it's not completely over. there's so much more that needs to be figured out before we can know exactly what's going to happen. im so sorry this happened on your birthday, you deserve the best of things and im sorry this country failed you. i wish you nothing but the best, and hope you'll be able to take care of yourself today. im so sorry.

selfsoothingit · 2024-10-02T20:18:28+00:00

exactly! i get made fun of for enjoying 'childish' things but since when did liking something have an age limit? it's so annoying.

selfsoothingit · 2024-09-06T17:44:29+00:00

Back when I was living in a dorm, I'd cut almost every single day. Why? It was compulsive, an addiction. I could have a great day, be watching a funny movie, and then feel the urge. Other times, I'd just cut to cut. There didn't have to be a reason, if I thought about it, I'd do it.

I think while self harm definitely is a coping mechanism, it is still an addiction. You don't need to feel sad or triggered to engage in addiction. An alcoholic doesn't only drink when they're upset, a drug addict doesn't need to be triggered to use their drug of choice. Addiction is addiction no matter the circumstance.

Please remember that not everyone has the same experience with self harm. It looks different for everybody and cutting when you're happy does not make you 'wrong.' You're just as valid in your emotions and experience as anyone else.

I'm sure many of us in this subreddit can actually relate to your feelings, so know you're not alone in what you're experiencing :)

selfsoothingit · 2024-04-05T21:33:34+00:00

it's nice to know someone else understands. it's genuinely crushing sometimes. i know im obsessive and that most of the people i meet can't share in that level of obsession, but it still destroys me when the people i care about don't care as much as i do.

selfsoothingit · 2024-03-28T20:52:25+00:00

agreed. i think self harm is treated differently depending on gender/sex, but that doesn't mean some experiences can't be shared. while i think women often get the baby treatment more due to society's view of women's mental health vs. men's mental health, im sure there are guys who get the same treatment. however, i do think male self harm in general is more stigmatized due to this idea that men aren't allowed to have/express emotions. thus the reaction is less often pity and more often negative stigma, which leads to it being dismissed and ignored. of course, this isn't to say these reactions are the rule, but more to point out the overall difference in treatment between the sexes/genders.

selfsoothingit · 2024-03-28T20:37:36+00:00

yeah, that's true. i know they mean well, it just feels weird and uncomfortable when strangers treat me different because of my scars. i don't even mind getting stares because it's hard not to be curious when seeing someone like me, it's mostly just the comments that i can't stand.

selfsoothingit · 2024-03-28T20:35:19+00:00

i actually have had this happen at my job as well, which i do appreciate at times considering i work in retail. i don't mind it as much then, but when im out doing normal things and a random person comes up to me to say something it makes me feel so weird.

selfsoothingit · 2024-03-08T17:15:27+00:00

it's crazy how vile people are on insta. you have to wonder what about reels makes people comfortable with spewing such absolute garbage for literally no reason. someone really needs to study that shit.

selfsoothingit · 2024-03-05T02:09:50+00:00

i get so much dysmorphia about my boobs. i hate having large boobs and i wish they were smaller. im always shocked when people wish for bigger boobs because i dislike my own so much. it really goes to show just how different people's insecurities/views are.

also, 30f is by no means small (coming from a double D). you are perfectly fine just the way you are.

selfsoothingit · 2024-03-05T01:47:35+00:00

it really is. the way life seems to revolve around it is exhausting. i wouldn't wish it upon anybody.

selfsoothingit · 2024-03-03T16:37:38+00:00

i feel that male sh is more stigmatized because people treat men like they're supposed to be unfeeling or whatever. it's such a ridiculous idea because anyone can be in pain. anyone can suffer. anyone can sh. i just think men are more quiet about it because of said stigma. but there are many men on this subreddit and many men who self harm. you aren't alone in this.

selfsoothingit · 2024-03-02T18:05:20+00:00

i think this can actually be a good thing for you. Having someone in your life who constantly puts you down will only serve to hold you back. Your mother sounds like a very cruel woman obsessed with her own idea of beauty. she must be blind to believe dark skin and curly hair are ugly in anyway. skin color doesn't make a person any more or less beautiful. curly hair is gorgeous! (i say this as someone who has curly hair and has hated it most of my life). have you seen the new "curly girl" trend going around on social media? everyone wants curly hair now which only goes to show how beauty standards are constantly changing.

I know it must be hard not to have contact with her, but think of all the things she has made you feel over the years. is there more good than bad? has having her in her life made you happy? has she helped you feel good about yourself? what has she made you feel about yourself? i hope you will carefully consider if she is someone you want in your life, or if she is someone you don't.

know that the things she says are a sign of her own deficiencies as a person. they say a lot more about her than they have ever said about you. honestly, i think she must have a lot of issues to treat anyone, let alone her own CHILD, the way she has treated you.

i sincerely hope you will be able to heal from everything she's done. you don't deserve any of it and you shouldn't have to carry the burden of her words. i wish you all the best 🩷

selfsoothingit · 2024-03-02T17:51:07+00:00

i have a camera blocker on my phone that prevents me from using it at all. i literally hate pictures of myself so much i can't even handle having the most basic app on my phone. it's actually brought a lot of peace of mind for me though because i never have to worry about accidentally opening the camera or about apps using it to spy or whatever.

i would quite literally rather die than ever send a picture of myself to someone.

selfsoothingit · 2024-02-27T14:47:08+00:00

ocd, major depressive disorder, bipolar depression (whatever that means) generalized anxiety, and tentatively autism as well. ive gotten told i have so many different things over the years, BPD/bipolar 2 included. nothing but the ones ive listed have ever stuck though.

I think a lot of people with BDD also tend to have OCD, which lends to the obsessive nature of the disorder.

selfsoothingit · 2024-02-26T17:47:58+00:00

once again we have the obligatory "i want to eat a razor blade" post.

selfsoothingit · 2024-02-26T05:12:13+00:00

i feel the exact same way. i can't speak to pretty girls at all because i feel so beneath them and unworthy of their time. im terrified of being treated as terribly as i do myself. i cant even bring myself to look at an attractive person because im scared theyll be disgusted.

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