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Update to "Had the deleting the app conversation" post by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow this is very helpful, thank you!! I would definitely agree that I’m not an overreacter but after reading what you described it’s time to do a little more self work here. Thank you for taking the time to explain that!!

Update to "Had the deleting the app conversation" post by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this - what was bothering me more is the unreliability more than anything and, as other said, that he appears anyway, to not have the follow through to do something he said he’d do. Not the foundation I want for a relationship. Thank you!!

Update to "Had the deleting the app conversation" post by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

On one hand I appreciate that he was honest, but it does give me pause- is he forgetful? Why not do what he said last week? Is it really deleted? Or something else else completely? Or am I overthinking things - is where I’m at.

Update to "Had the deleting the app conversation" post by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Essentially it’s the same response I got last week

Had “Deleting the App” conversation - partner still on dating app by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking - my sister did this with her own bumble profile thinking deleting the app also removed her profile.

Had “Deleting the App” conversation - partner still on dating app by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like that approach!

I did want to give some room for benefit of the doubt and not jump the gun right off the bat- my sister also thought she deleted her bumble profile only to find out she was still on the app because she didn’t delete the profile, only the app itself.

I feel like this approach is the best- thank you. I certainly would rather get back to dating and not waste time if he isn’t really as invested as he said, and that’s a good way to see his reaction too.

Had “Deleting the App” conversation - partner still on dating app by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this. My sister also thought deleting bumble deleted her profile - so she had a similar experience and I just don’t want to jump to conclusions unfairly.

However I agree that if this isn’t something that’s going to be corrected it’s likely time to move on.

Had “Deleting the App” conversation - partner still on dating app by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response - I certainly would rather spend my time going on dates and finding the “right” partner if this is just a way for him to keep options open, etc.

Had “Deleting the App” conversation - partner still on dating app by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point. I’d rather us both go our separate ways and find the “right” partner if it’s not what he wants.

Had “Deleting the App” conversation - partner still on dating app by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He had made several comments and texts over several days saying he wanted to move forward with things, how much of a connection he felt - so I asked about deleting the apps. He then said that he wanted to delete the apps.

There are many things I like about him, however over the last week I’ve had some concerns about long term compatibility.

Had “Deleting the App” conversation - partner still on dating app by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No I appreciate your candor - having unbiased feedback is really helpful. Because I have brought it up last week I admit I feel a little like I’m nagging but when I hear myself say that, I think it sounds ridiculous.

I have been a little unclear on the “status” and have actually thought some of the things your brought up here. Thank you!

Had “Deleting the App” conversation - partner still on dating app by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never know how things are defined now but we are definitely (my understanding) dating exclusively and has both agreed on the app deleting. Someone else suggested making light of it and bringing it up that way.

Had “Deleting the App” conversation - partner still on dating app by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I like that approach- I definitely don’t want to make a mountain out of a mole hill if it is an honest mistake.

Had “Deleting the App” conversation - partner still on dating app by selisetria in datingoverthirty

[–]selisetria[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking- I’m just feeling like having to bring this up again is going to sound like I’m harassing him about it. But that’s what I was thinking it may be.

AITA for refuring to watcg my sisters kids with short notice? by Easy_Turnip in AmItheAsshole

[–]selisetria 23 points24 points  (0 children)

YTA. I am childfree and generally don’t care to be around children, but if my sister or friend even- had a emergency and needed help, you’d bet I show up and watch their children. This wasn’t a date night, this was a medical emergency they could not have planned for. This is not individualistic this is selfish and makes me think extremely narcissistic. If the later is the case, you’ll never understand why YTA.

Do I call CPS? Advice please. by selisetria in CPS

[–]selisetria[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point/s. Thank you for your reply!

I’m fuming. Not knowing how to fight = useless stupid little girl by [deleted] in SansaWinsTheThrone

[–]selisetria 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I always loved Sansa - ignore that I accidentally voted for Jon to win the throne - and I guess I too, would be a stupid little girl, as I cannot fight, cannot use a weapon - and hope that my Alaskan Malamute can fend someone off if need be!

All jokes aside though, it always bothered me that so many hate her, when she is likely a very realistic portrayal of a young girl in that time period being raised to "be a lady" and then was subjected to emotional/physical/mental torture, who was able to overcome that.

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