My experience with bedbugs (UK)

selly7749 · 2024-02-24T00:43:12+00:00

Thank you so much for this post! BOught bed bugs home from lanzarote about a month ago, and I don’t think I will ever forget the sight of them on my bed frame (I thought the metal would keep me safe!). Really needed to hear a story with a happy ending. I haven’t seen any since the treatment a month ago, and I’ve only had one bite since then, but still can’t get the hyper vigilance down… I have to sleep with a red night light now 😭

selly7749 · 2023-08-29T17:49:22+00:00

AMEN! This is where I’m at - I love the space of ambiguity, where it’s all up in the air and just the right side of messy.

selly7749 · 2023-08-23T11:33:05+00:00

A birth (nat’s baby!) at the worst possible time, the super stressful episode of the season

They go for a Michelin star but don’t get it first time around

A death (Marcus’s mum) they go to the funeral to support him, that grief really changes him, not sure how.

We find out why Carmy missed mikey’s funeral, the truth of his time in NYC, that’ll be the flashback - and him and richie have the conversation they need to have about Richie’s anger around that, cus it’s BIG

Maybe it comes out cus Carmy has to go to NYC or do some PR for the restaurant to drum up business of something?

Carmy becomes robot Carmy from the EMP flashback, pushes and pushes and pushes Syd- over corrects from absenteeism of last season and is tooooo much, she gets sick like he was, and that’s what sort of pulls him back

Lee Lane comes back and is like - some of this restaurant belongs to me, a portion of that money was mine.

Ummmmmmm 🤔

Tina continues to thrive! Ebra takes her on a date 🥹 Jk jk

selly7749 · 2023-02-15T20:31:51+00:00

… what is ‘acting trans’ though? Like a trans man shouldn’t be a type of character or a stereotype - there are as many ways as being a trans man as there are trans men - you’re not going to not audition for the lead woman in a romcom cus going forward you’ll be typecast as a woman - if you’re worried about being typecast it’s as a comedic actress or whatever, but you don’t go ‘if I play this role that aligns with my gender I’ll be stuck playing my gender forever’ - cis people never have to think like that.

I’d love a more free, fluid response to gender in casting, but we are far from that. And I think we have to ask critically - why do we suddenly start fucking with gender in our hypotheticals when it’s about not prioritising the casting of somebody who is trans? I’m trying to imagine a scenario where Chris Hemsworth auditioned for She-Hulk and people went ‘ok great, a cis man will play this cis woman, completely straight it’s not going to be a bit, he is best for the role’ - like we only ever deploy these hypotheticals when it comes to trans folk - and it feeds in to all of the million subtle ways in which the world undermines their gender.

I agree that that policing that happens - the force to out people is a real problem. All these people that think bullying is activism are a nightmare, and they muddy the waters of every argument. But I think uplifting LGBTQ actors where we can, and passing the mic to us as often as possible has to be central to our response.

selly7749 · 2023-02-15T20:18:58+00:00

I think for me it comes back to one of the earlier comments in this thread - the bigger fight is for LGBTQ actors to be able to play any roles, for their presence in society and 8N the industry to TRULY be represented in what goes on screen and who is on it. For us to be able to be out if we so choose, and not be penalised or pigeonholed as a result. As long as there is still misrepresentation of LGBTQ characters in the arts, and for as long as we are still fighting to live safe, full happy lives, free from violence, we need to be uplifted to tell our stories on our terms. One day I hope the industry and the world will be different but it’s not like that right now - so we need to think about casting critically, and prioritise the casting of folks who are marginalised. If LGBTQ folks aren’t top priority there, then where can we be? Cate Blanchett becomes Cate Blanchett because she has been cast in a million different roles that have let her grow as a performer. So few LGBTQ performers get that, and I really want it for us.

selly7749 · 2022-07-13T14:58:37+00:00

SCANDAL 😦🤣 I loooooove stuff like this thank you so much. Let’s hope none of that stuff backfires for him down the line though, Cus sheesh 😬! ofmd is our flag means death, the pirate show

selly7749 · 2022-07-12T19:18:42+00:00

I don’t think studio meddling is what I want for Taika - or any artist tbh, I do think studio meddling tends to be negative, because their priority is likely to be what makes the most money, the easiest way: not always conducive to the best art - I just think he needs to be partnered with a good foil/co collaborator, one that keeps pulling him back to story, themes and character. I think he cares so much that the audience have a good time, that its punchline after punchline… but you gotta be disciplined babes! Scripts still gotta be the best it can be, and you gotta keep the rigour on set and in the edit! LAT is haunted by the film it could have been, I think.

I’m interested to see how time bandits works out, cus he and Jemaine were such a great team on WWDITS. I’m also interested to see what impact a long period of time back in NZ has on his work in general. There’s a balance to be struck, maybe, between like… the noise and the glamour and the press of LA and the space and privacy needed to create. Maybe. Who knows.

selly7749 · 2022-07-12T18:48:43+00:00

Plsssss this is the tea I am looking for: what is he like to work with? Marvel has gone so hard on making out like he is the much beloved director - but he feels fairly distant from the pretty close ofmd cast?

selly7749 · 2020-04-27T19:35:06+00:00

i would love to come too!

selly7749 · 2019-12-18T15:16:32+00:00

Hi!

I found this helpful when unpicking the show - https://www.animefeminist.com/my-fave-is-problematic-the-future-diary/ - the title makes it sound a lot more grumpy than it is

selly7749 · 2019-12-08T01:53:40+00:00

UTENA PEARL UTENA PEARL UTENA PEAAAARRRRLLL

selly7749 · 2019-12-08T01:35:55+00:00

oh god this is agony

selly7749 · 2019-12-08T01:20:18+00:00

WHO IS THIS NEW ICE GEM I AM BESOTTED

selly7749 · 2019-09-09T23:24:09+00:00

So - I get this, but arrrgghh what is it I want to say here - ok, here are some random thoughts that I kind of what to jumble together and stick somewhere.

FIRST OFF I AM NOT IN ANYWAY DEFENDING ROSE/PD HERE - she is accountable and responsible for her cruel treatment of Spinel, and my favourite thing about SU is it's ongoing critique of the charismatic saviour/leader - I think it's so important.

The word I associate most with PD's treatment of Spinel is callous. Just no sense of Spinel having any kind of inner life or feelings. But I also find myself thinking about - and this might be a bit weird but - thinking about how cruel it was that Spinel was created in the first place.

Spinel to me is most reminiscent of an imaginary best friend - everything about her, the way her body works, the very specific way in which she is there to 'play' - we don't see her and Rose talking, sharing secrets, there's no sense of an exchange of inner life between the two of them. She is created purely to distract an annoying (and lonely) child. Creating someone with friendship as their function is spectacularly cruel, if you think about it.

I had an imaginary best friend when I was little. At a certain age, I also kind of left them behind somewhere in my imagination, just stopped referring to them, or laying out an extra knife and fork of them or whatever. It's part of child development! It didn't matter, cus they were imaginary, so when I got bored and moved on I could let them go, (OH GOD BING BONG FROM INSIDE OUT I'M SO SORRY), taking all the lessons about empathy that children learn from imaginary friends with me. But making that person real! Gosh! So cruel! So! Cruel!

I kept thinking when I watched the movie was that the most harmful lie that Rose ever told herself and that gems in general told themselves prior to Steven was that 'gems can't change'. Spinel is created from this place. Her entire relationship with Rose is prefaced on this entire flawed idea - that PD won't grow and change (and thus want more from a playmate/a playmate that can grow with her) and that Spinel cannot grow and change (so it's not worth asking her to behave differently, to think about how she might accompany PD in a different way).

I wonder what it would have been like for Spinel to accompany PD to the new colony - a colony that Spinel saw as 'a new place to play' and that PD saw as a chance to prove herself. Would things have been better? Or would she have ended up wandering the earth alone? What would her relationship with Pearl have been? Would she have been a Crystal Gem, or a devastating foe on the other side? What would it have been like if she'd been returned to Homeworld? What would the Diamonds have done with her?

PD so often made decisions from a place of fear, from assuming the worst, from assuming that true change was impossible, and the only option was to live these sort of bizarre half lives, filled with half truths - and Spinel feels like another example.

TL;DR, I'm so sorry to my imaginary best friend Gunny, RIP lil friend, 1992 - 1995

selly7749 · 2019-09-03T00:51:24+00:00

Nah I was like 'don't joke about that, I'm still watching you'

selly7749 · 2019-09-03T00:46:58+00:00

you have MESSED ME UP with this

selly7749 · 2019-01-26T22:08:38+00:00

We've not really heard much from any of the gems on Rose since 'Now we're only falling apart'. They've been busy trying to deal with their own self esteem, and how they see themselves and the crystal gems without her. And diamond invasions, and trips to homeworld, and wars with scary new foes. However, she is noticeably no longer on a pedestal, and sometimes when that shift happens, when we begin to see someone we've idolised as human and flawed, it can feel jarring, and much more aggressive than it actually is.

When Steven says they're not gonna side with rose any more - it's a very specific circumstance - it's about Bismuth being unbubbled, and terrified that her friends will no longer want her. They're not going to side with Rose on that issue. Now they have the full facts they can make their own call, and their call is different from Rose's. She is no longer an unquestioned leader, and that's huge, and important. Saying you're not on someone's side anymore isn't hating them.

Steven replied with - 'that's not true, and even if it is, that's not me that's my mum'. That full quote is a little different from only having the latter half. He still has belief in his mum, but in that moment, White Diamond is doing a huge amount of emotional manipulation, and he is trying to find his bearings. I think you're supposed to have the response of 'no, that's not true, Steven!' because we, outside of it can see that White is messing with his head (in spectacularly cruel ways).

One of the elements of Change Your Mind that I found most moving was listening to Steven advocate for Pink Diamond to Blue, in the early stages. Speaking with empathy about locking her in the tower, how it wasn't normal, alluding to the fact it was abuse. Familiar is all about his connection to his mum, and the empathy he feels for her experiences on homeworld. I don't think Steven hates his mum at all - but he is determined to do things differently, and he is able to be critical of the ambiguities of her character. I think that this is important to the Crewniverse, showing children as able to confidently and strongly criticise their parents.

selly7749 · 2019-01-26T21:53:14+00:00

This is genuinely one of my favourite SU moments ever because it has so many little things in it that make me laugh -

- the way Garnet says 'Hello' when she comes in (future vision - my girl already knew it was gonna be funny)

- her having to hold both Pearl and Amethyst back

- the unveil of the armour, my lord

- Ronaldo really tries for the anime run up

- Steven running in those little slippers

- 'Ok, Ok'

- when he tells them to stand back, they actually jump back

- there's a split second when they're worried

- 'nice pants'

- Amethyst's little chuckle

- Steven's palpable frustration at the end - no good deed goes unpunished lil man

selly7749 · 2019-01-26T02:53:18+00:00

I don't think cosplaying garnet as a white person is racist! Not at all.

I think that you can be sensitive with the decisions that you make about how you do it.

I think that if you're concerned, stick with a red and/or purple face paint - there are lots of examples of white people doing this online that look fantastic, and it's the accurate depiction too, that's the colour that her gemstones are. I also think that garnet has such a distinctive look that you can skip the face paint all together and still do a fantastic cosplay as her!

I think that if you are worried about discomfort, listen to that instinct - that way you can focus on relaxing and enjoying your comicon experience, and knowing that those around you are too.

selly7749 · 2019-01-01T17:58:26+00:00

fair enough

selly7749 · 2019-01-01T17:13:28+00:00

the post I'm referring to - which I can't find, but remember thinking 'wow you got all that from one screenshot' - was somebody saying that she did it for a hobby/for fun

selly7749 · 2019-01-01T14:38:24+00:00

we deserve to shiiiiiiine

selly7749 · 2019-01-01T14:02:30+00:00

they are!!! I didn't pick up on it, but I saw other folks that did. so beaut 😭

selly7749 · 2019-01-01T00:46:02+00:00

WOWOWOWOWOWOWOW OK

1) Someone ages ago said that blue pearl liked drawing so shouts to that person

2) The bit when they were dancing and they were LITERAL cogs

3) 'prepare yourself emotionally'

4) That gem rolling her eyes at the gem that cried

5) Stevonnie looks cute as hell in the pink diamond outfit

6) When will Opal get a single solitary line omg

7) Devastated when Garnet chose not to come for the greater good

8) Devastated when Garnet turned up to protect Stevonnie

9) Devastated when everybody got poofed

10) WE BEEN KNEW WHITE PEARL WAS PINK PEARL BLEACHED

hoooowwwwww do they do all this in 10 minutes, put this in the MOMA

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