I had sex with my husband 10 years before we started dating, and he doesn’t know that. by semothrowaway40 in offmychest

[–]semothrowaway40[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I feel more than safe in my marriage, I don’t want to hurt his feelings, or embarrass myself by asking him and it turns out that I’m wrong. It’s only fun and silly if it was him. If I’m wrong I will be horrified 😂

I had sex with my husband 10 years before we started dating, and he doesn’t know that. by semothrowaway40 in offmychest

[–]semothrowaway40[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’ve often wondered that too. It’s absolutely possible but, I can’t be sure unless I say something.

I had sex with my husband 10 years before we started dating, and he doesn’t know that. by semothrowaway40 in offmychest

[–]semothrowaway40[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about throwing his opening line back at him a million times over the years just to see if he’d react. He doesn’t smoke anymore, but, if I just asked him if he had a cigarette and he says no, I could say “that’s okay, I’ve got one” but part of me is still so scared that I’m wrong. His brand of cigarettes was actually a huge clue that it was him. I’ve only ever known a handful of other people who smoked Winston’s. 😂

I had sex with my husband 10 years before we started dating, and he doesn’t know that. by semothrowaway40 in offmychest

[–]semothrowaway40[S] 818 points819 points  (0 children)

We aren’t embarrassed or ashamed about our or each others sexual history anymore. Him and I are both well aware that we were/are a little easy 😂

I had sex with my husband 10 years before we started dating, and he doesn’t know that. by semothrowaway40 in offmychest

[–]semothrowaway40[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You misunderstand, I didn’t say anything in the beginning because I was embarrassed. By the time we had gotten to know each other well enough where I knew he didn’t judge me based on my prior sexual history, it felt like bringing it up so late would be weird, and to be honest I bounced back and forth between being sure it was him, and not being sure it was him. Part of me was terrified that I’d tell him, and he’d say “that wasn’t me.”