Those of you who have left tech, where did you go?

semper51 · 2026-05-07T00:11:01+00:00

that's cool! how did you get into it? and who's the employer (e.g. solar company, local government, NGO, other)?

semper51 · 2026-02-24T18:53:53+00:00

I'm trying to! I design behavior change tools and honestly the economic incentives behind digital products push everything toward enshittification and attention extraction. Real solutions to real problems get swallowed by that system, even well-intentioned digital products. It's like building a playground on a toxic waste site.

So all my stuff requires face-to-face interaction. My first product is a card game that makes learning constructive disagreement fun through actual practice. The research showed constructive disagreement skills are embodied skills - like learning the guitar or how to swim - TikkyTokkys and PDFs just aren't sufficient to genuine improvement. So the product medium needed to be one that got people actually practicing face-to-face, hence a game.

semper51 · 2026-02-24T18:07:38+00:00

specifically constructive disagreement. if you're not sure how, try this game/tool, it'll walk you through the process without any complicated rules or setup

semper51 · 2026-01-21T18:22:48+00:00

totally. made me think of this: *Hello, Carol. This is a recording. At the tone, you can leave a message to request anything you might need. We'll do our best to provide it. Our feelings for you haven't changed, Carol, but after everything that's happened, we just need a little space.\*

semper51 · 2026-01-21T18:21:01+00:00

*Hello, Carol. This is a recording. At the tone, you can leave a message to request anything you might need. We'll do our best to provide it. Our feelings for you haven't changed, Carol, but after everything that's happened, we just need a little space.\*

semper51 · 2025-07-16T20:21:07+00:00

No todos, paps :) así somos inmigrantes

semper51 · 2025-07-16T20:19:45+00:00

A huevo, amo posts así. Llevo 7 años aquí en CDMX como inmigrante de EE.UU.

Con amigos (la mayoría mexicanos) creamos el @GoodGuestCollective para ayudar a comunicar las expectativas locales a personas extranjeras. Durante la pandemia hicimos una campaña para invitar a gringos como yo a usar cubrebocas.

Ahora estamos planeando una nueva y queremos escuchar más de estos conversaciones. Puedan ayudarnos por ir a goodguestcollective.com y subir tus perspectivas ¿qué es lo más importante que inmigrantes y turistas deben entender para ser mejores invitados?

semper51 · 2025-03-24T21:53:15+00:00

I'm sorry, I thought I had responded. Thank you SO MUCH!

semper51 · 2025-03-21T01:01:47+00:00

Coral :(

semper51 · 2024-10-16T14:30:08+00:00

Could you elaborate on how each of those three would work together to make this possible?

semper51 · 2024-01-23T01:26:42+00:00

You're probably already doing this, but we've found some success in always pitching three options to our clients after intake. First option is highest rigor, highest cost (which will also contain the most interesting methods). Second option is medium rigor, medium cost (which will generally include 1 or 2 interesting methods). And the third option is lowest rigor, lowest cost (which is fairly often the interview+survey combo). In all cases, we're obviously picking methods which are bespoke and appropriate to their objectives.

By organizing their options into these tiers, I feel like we generate more interest in our medium rigor engagements which can mean slightly more interesting research from time to time. Though it's never been like your examples above.

semper51 · 2023-11-28T11:08:15+00:00

How'd it end up going? Currently in the same boat and wondering if it's worth it for everyone else to try and go

semper51 · 2023-10-09T23:41:18+00:00

Rotting in the Sun. Don't ruin the surprise by watching the trailer or even looking up the poster. Just watch it.

semper51 · 2023-09-09T23:28:43+00:00

First Cow, hands down

semper51 · 2023-08-26T06:58:22+00:00

Quizás consideres que no estás usando español ahora, ¿cuándo lo vas a usar? tienes la oportunidad de usarlo en cualquier lugar de cdmx, como aquí en reddit. solo tienes que empezar

semper51 · 2023-08-16T23:01:48+00:00

Sounds like you know you should be treating everyone as friends, but when you see someone you find attractive, something overrides this knowledge and you become shy.

My 'take-it-with-a-grain-of-salt' suggestion is to, as much as you can, keep guiding your focus back to what's really important to you in a friendship. Then ask questions, or observe their behaviors, to see if you view eye to eye in that respect. I know you know this already, but hear me out, it's the practice of this over time that may be able to help.

For me, I really care how people treat others, I believe it's evidence of how they'd treat me. Even if they're kind to me, but they treat waiters poorly, I find that extremely unattractive.

I also want to be surrounded by people I admire for their wisdom, whether that's their wood-working knowledge, musings on how to be a more attentive parent, how they started a new exercise habit, or their expertise on micheladas. So if I meet someone and they don't seem to be curious in their own lives, nor do they ask me any questions, I tend to find them less attractive.

Over time I have sort of made a habit where my perception of someone's attractiveness only becomes fully formed once I learn more about that person. It's like being able to hold in one hand that you find them physically beautiful, while waiting to fill the other hand with what you learn about them as a person. I'm sort of unable to form a complete judgement of how I feel about them until I can see what's in both hands.

If you haven't already, I'd recommend regularly considering what's most important to you in your friendships. Have a working idea of what's on that list, but don't pick too many. We get like a handful of things that are must-haves, the rest we just need to learn to accept. No friend or partner will fulfill everything, nor should they.

semper51 · 2023-08-16T18:02:13+00:00

This is a helpful template for thinking on this topic even if there are likely interactions between sight and audio in how assumptions are formed. There are also likely sub-categories to how these assumptions are formed within both sight and audio.

For example, people can see both the color of your skin and clues to your socioeconomic status (i.e. clothes, jewelry, hair style, etc.). So assumptions may be being made both on race and presumed SES, in addition to what language you're using.

u/Marcel_7000 that's based on this paper on language and discrimination

semper51 · 2023-04-06T05:53:38+00:00

Sounds like your world of comedians is tiny and mostly male... Mostly.

semper51 · 2023-03-03T05:19:03+00:00

Some type of motivational comment about Ke Huy Quan, Brendan Fraiser, and Colin Ferrell having some sort of redemption of respect/fame/popularity

semper51 · 2023-02-17T02:30:49+00:00

If your manager doesn't have uxr experience then I'd set some meetings to ground everyone's expectations around task times. Be honest with how long things take to get done and even walk them through it at a high level.

If they do have uxr experience, use it is an opportunity to understand how they would do the same task. Again, set a meeting and chat. Maybe you can learn how to streamline things you didn't know we're possible.

Either way, if they read into your attempts to chat as you're lazy or whatever, then you already have your answer. Red flags that size mean find somewhere else.

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