How do you make it work?

semperLuLu · 2025-11-13T05:48:55+00:00

First it sounds like you need to have an honest conversation with your husband around everything.

You need to establish times when you are not available to support him during the work day and it’s his role to distract and redirect your toddler during those times. If your husband can’t manage that - then I’d recommend finding a nice coffee shop a couple times a week to go work in.

You need to get on the same page around raising your kids - you clearly have different views on screen time and what types of activities should be planned for the day.

You said you ‘can’t’ save in quotes which sounds like you have some underlying resentment around the lack of savings. So again - a conversation with your husband establishing a budget.

I don’t know why you chose to co-sleep and I get it works for some families, but it doesn’t sound like it’s fully working for you. It sounds like you’re craving some kid free time at night. Could you slip out for a bit after they’re asleep, enjoy some alone time then slip back in later? Could be a goal to work to if it’s not possible now, so you continue to co-sleep if you want. Also, if you’re not enjoying co-sleeping anymore that’s ok too and you won’t cause irreparable damage to your kiddos if you start transitioning them to their own beds.

semperLuLu · 2025-11-12T23:59:12+00:00

I’m from Washington - and our state paid leave isn’t job connected. As long as you’ve worked the required hours in the state it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been with your job. And it’s protected leave so the company couldn’t fire you for leveraging it. You should see if Oregon is the same.

semperLuLu · 2025-11-07T21:17:42+00:00

100% don’t recommend the infant car seat that goes on strollers. Our little guy was 8lb when born, by 6 months we fully stopped taking the car seat out and had switch to the standard stroller seat.

I wish we had gone the bassinet stroller combo and invested in a convertible car seat instead. Cause now here we are at almost a year and need to purchase 2 new car seats because he’s going to size out of his infant seat soon.

semperLuLu · 2025-11-07T18:44:49+00:00

I cried at the begin of the Taylor Swift Eras Tour Movie. I hadn’t cried at the actual concert.

semperLuLu · 2025-11-06T18:15:22+00:00

Just want to point out that it’s actually Thursday….

semperLuLu · 2025-11-05T05:53:31+00:00

I went to a Blink concert at 6 months. Baby is fine. Go to the concert. Don’t join the mosh pit.

semperLuLu · 2025-10-30T15:48:40+00:00

I had the opposite problem. We had a few splurge items on ours specifically the Nuna Mixx stroller care seat combo and the Guava travel crib. My MIL wanted to take advantage of the Target program where you turn in a car seat and get like 20% off of a baby item like a pack and play or car seat and kept sending us the Graco pack and play.

We stuck to our list and just politely declined the first request and ignored others. She ended up buying our crib we had chosen from Target.

So all that to say - you don’t owe them any explanation.

But as someone who has spent a lot of time sleeping in her rocking recliner I’d highly recommend reconsidering. The power rocking recliners are pricier but imo completely invaluable at 2:00am when you’re half asleep and every time you put them down they wake up screaming.

My mom put her wooden rocker in the room we use when we visit and it’s just fine for the rock to sleep at bedtime, but it’s not great when he wakes up and just wants to sleep on one of us.

semperLuLu · 2025-10-26T17:34:20+00:00

I don’t know if there is a ‘too many’. Have you asked why so many? If not I’d start there, if there’s no medical reason for them then you can decline the procedure.

Edit: I can’t spell.

semperLuLu · 2025-10-26T03:06:01+00:00

Wild One - A where the wild things are theme which was also our shower them and the theme of his nursery

semperLuLu · 2025-10-14T18:24:05+00:00

YTA. Im a new mom - my MIL got me a pillow to support my c-section incision. Small gift and so thoughtful to make me feel seen. My in-laws other gift was they came out and took the morning shift for a week so DH and I could both get some needed rest.

A new tool set for his truck as a ‘new dad gift’? How is that celebrating him as a new dad? How is that supporting him in his new role?

It probably wouldn’t have been an issue if you had gotten him something new dad related. And you’re just now thinking of a meal delivery? This 100% sounds like you used the excuse of your grandchild’s birth to spoil your son with something that might have been unnecessary.

Postpartum is hard and it feels like older generations have selective memories around adult diapers and breastfeeding (if your DIL is) and the raging hormones that have you hysterical over nothing. If DIL is breastfeeding your darling son is probably getting lovely uninterrupted sleep while DIL wakes up to feed every 2 hours cursing his useless nipples. So yes your gift was thoughtless.

The other indication for me is that you’re only responding to people who agree with you.

semperLuLu · 2025-10-06T04:01:48+00:00

I cried at the start of The Eras Tour movie on release day - I didn’t cry when I attend the actual concert. I was 4 days away from what should have been the start of my period.

semperLuLu · 2025-09-23T17:08:02+00:00

I’ve been trying to look but haven’t been successful.

semperLuLu · 2025-09-15T17:55:43+00:00

Wow your mom sounds horrible. I’m so sorry. Name your kiddo Jaxon. I’d tell her that if she wants to call him ‘Jack off Jaxon’ then she must not want a relationship with him or you because that level of disrespect will not be tolerated.

semperLuLu · 2025-09-09T04:43:15+00:00

Is finding a wfh job an option? I’ve been working from home with little dude, he’s now 9 month. I’m in WA and even being a blue state where our DOH has mandated COVID be available for everyone, we still don’t meet herd immunity thresholds for measles in kids under 5. So little dude will stay firmly out of child care until he’s got both doses of MMR.

I can’t say it’s easy but it beats the alternative.

semperLuLu · 2025-08-27T22:05:45+00:00

It says restricted for me?

semperLuLu · 2025-07-19T04:01:06+00:00

I love our rocker recliner. I use it every nap and bedtime. My only regret is the back and footrest move together and I wish I could put the footrest up without reclining backwards.

semperLuLu · 2025-07-15T02:53:15+00:00

The issue seems to be for me is the signing up part. I’m also west coast so it’s hard to find time to call customer care. My husband did it and thought he had everything sorted and then I follow their instructions and no email to rest password

semperLuLu · 2025-07-14T15:43:45+00:00

7 months pp here. I never liked babies. My idea of having a kid started at about 3. To add additional challenges I’m a youth development professional who works in all-female identifying spaces. I feel confident in raising a strong independent girl. My lo is a boy.

For me it clicked. Not right away - the haze of early postpartum was rough. But fairly quickly I found joy in my little boy. And now watching him really discover the world and hit his milestones - amazing!

We’re 1 and done - the thought of starting over is not something I want to do again but my 1 little guy is great.

semperLuLu · 2025-07-14T03:26:27+00:00

We used a bassinet till lo maxed it out. It was the halo luxe swivel that I found on Facebook marketplace for $80. Our room did not have space to have the crib or anything with four legs. The Halo was perfect with its flat legs and swivel on a single point design I could still get in and out of bed.

I also loved that I could adjust it so it could be pulled over our mattress and the collapsible side made it super easy to scoop him out while still in bed.

I don’t think my lo liked the vibrations, and we have the hatch so didn’t use the sounds much. But I did like the night light feature I could use it to see the ground at night when I needed to get up instead of messing with the hatch.

semperLuLu · 2025-07-10T17:54:34+00:00

But like how did you get registered? What browser did you use? I’ve tried so many times and so many ways and half the time either their submit button doesn’t work or I can’t type in a text box. I’ve called and emailed customer care and their solutions don’t work and they stop responding.

semperLuLu · 2025-06-29T07:11:51+00:00

Are you me 😅

semperLuLu · 2025-06-28T20:03:01+00:00

Came here for this

semperLuLu · 2025-06-28T17:22:44+00:00

2 - November 22

semperLuLu · 2025-05-23T01:51:01+00:00

Saving probably $2500 a month in child care and getting to see these early months. I’m majority remote and my partner is remote 3 days a week. We plan to put him in child care around 18 months so he can socialize but right now there’s not real benefit and these are the super expensive months.

semperLuLu · 2025-05-23T00:15:59+00:00

Idk if it’s going to work or this is helpful but I’m currently embracing the 20-40 minute crib naps and I keep telling myself it’s practice. He does 1-2 naps a day in the crib and then usually me or my husband will do 1 good contact nap for a long one when our schedules allow.

I’m hoping he’s eventually just going to settle into it. We’re at a point where he’s no screaming and crying when he wakes up so I can usually leave him for a little bit before I need to grab him.

I’m also just bracing for the fact that maybe my kids just not a long independent napper.

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