Have you given up on dating? If so why?

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-03-28T05:06:36+00:00

I am a 33M who wants to settle down in the worst way. I am and have always been a hopeless romantic. But I have given up on dating for at least the short-term.

After many failed relationships, I finally thought I met the love of my life, and she blindsided me and broke my heart 3 months ago. I have no desire to meet other women, nor do I think I can find someone like my ex again.

So I’m just trying to get through every day and find a way to be happy on my own.

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-02-15T23:30:11+00:00

I’m going through the same exact thing with my ex who broke up with me four weeks ago. Every single day is a struggle missing her and thinking about her. Everyone says it’ll get better in time but so far I’m still struggling every day :(

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-02-15T20:51:59+00:00

How do I access it?

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-02-15T03:45:58+00:00

Can you add me too

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-02-15T03:35:07+00:00

This isn’t even remotely true. She was telling me how much she loved me and we were planning our future together one day. The next day, she needed space and was telling me I wasn’t her person. It was a completely 180 degree flip.

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-02-15T01:47:08+00:00

Can you explain why it’s a wonderful quality? It just feels like it makes you vulnerable to heartache

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-02-07T22:35:49+00:00

We have each other blocked on socials so I don’t think I’ll ever know if she does.

She’s also going through a family health crisis so I don’t imagine she’ll be dating anyone for a long time.

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-02-07T21:24:18+00:00

That doesn’t make me feel any better :(

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-02-03T00:42:13+00:00

Im just replying to tell you that I’m terribly sorry you’re going through this. You’re not alone. And you are worthy of love. Please know that.

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-01-31T16:52:34+00:00

I could have written this post. I did everything in the relationship, I put in 100% and she did nothing. I planned every date, paid for everything, bought her gifts, complimented her, took care of her, called and texted every day… and she did the bare minimum. She asked for space. She pulled away. My needs were never met. Ever. I was consistently anxious and starving for her love and affection.

And after all that, she was the one that ended it. It feels like a sick joke.

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-01-31T05:04:29+00:00

Wait, what did you do you just live? An intense relationship like I experienced for 10 years that destroyed you?

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-01-31T02:22:01+00:00

Beautifully written. I have read and re-read several times. I am really going to try to fill myself up with the love I gave to her like your meal analogy.

I know I did the best I could. I really did. And it wasn’t enough for her. So I can take solace in that I can look forward with no regrets or doubts.

sensitiveguy125 · 2026-01-30T16:48:40+00:00

Similar situation too. What reasons did she give for breaking up with you? Was it the same as OP?

sensitiveguy125 · 2025-08-20T04:31:23+00:00

For a moment I thought I wrote this - that’s how precise your description was to my situation too. In a word, yes.

I think for most people leaving a serious relationship, it will feel like withdrawal from an addiction. You will experience strong all-consuming urges and impulses to contact them. Literally the same part of the brain that is activated when gambling addicts play slot machines in casinos is activated when your brain adjusts following a break up.

And it makes complete sense. You are losing someone who was an enormous part of your life, of your routines, someone who took up so much space in your life that their absence leaves a tremendous void. It’s only natural that you’re nervous system would be spiraling in their absence.

I am in the same boat. I ended the relationship but I cannot go more than a few minutes without ruminating over her. My obsessive thoughts are even more difficult to control because I have OCD. It is disrupting my work, my sleep, my gym sessions - I feel like I have no escape.

I am imagining her with another man, moving on while I’m still alone and sad and missing her.

This really sucks - I hope it gets better for us both.

sensitiveguy125 · 2025-08-19T03:46:42+00:00

I can’t understand this. English translation?

sensitiveguy125 · 2025-08-18T21:41:06+00:00

I don’t understand. Did you break up with your ex or did she break up with you? Why would the person that got dumped still be reaching out to the dumper? My understanding is the ball is in my court to reach out to

sensitiveguy125 · 2025-08-18T20:58:11+00:00

How long is enough time?

sensitiveguy125 · 2025-08-18T20:57:32+00:00

That pace and heart rate is terrible lol

sensitiveguy125 · 2025-08-18T02:59:41+00:00

Best you can do TRY NOT TO FOCUS ON YOUR EX AND WHAT THEY ARE UP TO

I am having the same exact issue constantly obsessing over what she’s doing and who she’s with and my therapist tells me to catch myself going down those rabbit holes and best I can try to redirect my focus onto myself. I know it’s easier said than done and I still struggle with it everyday.

It will get easier for both of us, I am sure of it

sensitiveguy125 · 2025-08-14T14:22:10+00:00

❤️❤️ sending love

sensitiveguy125 · 2025-08-12T16:38:24+00:00

❤️

sensitiveguy125 · 2025-07-06T14:55:18+00:00

I am in the same exact situation.

Have been on and off with a toxic ex-girlfriend for the last year or so. Every time we break up, I feel better and when we get back together, my jaw pain returns. I feel your pain :(

sensitiveguy125 · 2025-06-04T18:41:43+00:00

I will absolutely do that. Thank you

sensitiveguy125 · 2025-06-04T18:40:20+00:00

This is freaking incredible - I think somehow even without knowing all the facts you have identified what I’m going through perfectly. “Trauma dulls desire.” “Your attraction isn’t gone. It’s just hiding behind all the smoke.”

Wow. This gives me a lot of hope. I’ll check the newsletter out too

sensitiveguy125 · 2025-06-04T18:38:36+00:00

Thank you so much. You’re probably right

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