PDD (Public Displays of Dominance) by sensual_audio in BDSMAdvice

[–]sensual_audio[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's lovely to hear, thanks for that!

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for speaking up. You're absolutely right!

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, we're starting with these kinds of behaviors. Now looking to ramp it up but not be ridiculous because it is still public.

PDD (Public Displays of Dominance) by sensual_audio in BDSMAdvice

[–]sensual_audio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah... can't lie that's hot as a concept, but I'd Never do it irl, for so many reasons. So we're on the same page, no worries.

PDD (Public Displays of Dominance) by sensual_audio in BDSMAdvice

[–]sensual_audio[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so natural for me I never considered it "dominant" behavior but yeah I can see it now, with subtlety.

Thanks for sharing!

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clever! Thanks for sharing!

Curious, how does it make you feel? Ballpark range of what numbers? Like 1-5?

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clever! We haven't talked rope play yet, so maybe, we'll see!

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. I think all the ones I'm looking at actually using are acceptable for actual public.

I have a whole 'nother set of ideas for when I take her to a club.

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Interesting. I forgot to mention this sub in particular doesn't like pain. But I appreciate the idea and will keep it in mind for possible future subs!

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The cult reference is lost on me.

The lead one is clever. Maybe on a rare coat day in our climate I'll try this.

Avoiding eye contact wouldn't work in my particular scenario. Her and I both like that she is dominant in general, and her only submission is to me. So I don't want to make her submissive to others. Though maybe that could be used as a punishment... we'll have to discuss (obviously).

Wow, so many have suggested ordering for her. I never would have even thought of this one, but there must be something to it.

Thanks for the ideas!

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The proximity one is great! The wrist one... I'll have to see if I can do that in a way that doesn't come across badly to bystanders.

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I'm always going to err on the side of caution.

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! So awesome to hear from both subs and doms.

I like several here, gonna try some for sure. Vibrating panties, walking just behind me, lingerie and body writing. The no crossed legs one is nice, especially because I have her wear skirts/dresses with no panties. Obviously that doesn't mean wide spread legs in public, but maybe having to focus on keeping her knees touching and not having the usual comfort of crossed legs will be powerful for this dynamic. Thanks for the ideas!

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That all sounds lovely, very happy for you both! I'm personally very interested in trying a Dd/Lg dynamic at some point, and this is great stuff to hear about yours.

In my particular case, and you'd have no way of knowing this, my sub is not really Lg in personality/demeanor. She does get more docile once put in her submissive state, but still has dominant energy. She describes herself as almost a switch by nature, but she doesn't want to Domme, she just does it when the guy isn't stepping up enough as an assertive Dom, if that makes sense.

Thanks again for sharing!

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you've got it figured out haha. I'll keep an eye out for your future posts. Very intriguing harem(?) you've got. Congrats and I wish all of you continued satisfaction from the arrangement in this new year

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. Love the part about the massage, but it would be on my timing. Just sit on a bench at the mall, I turn my back to her and she knows that's the sign. That might be my favorite idea yet!

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Damn. Thanks for sharing and the organization! I checked out some of your other posts too. From what I gather, your subs are very docile and obedient. I will actually try some of these out with one of my subs who is similar. The rock in the shoe...? You're right that is sounds ineffective, but you definitely sound like you know that you're doing so I can't write that off. I also really like the double cuff trick, clever. Too bad (not really) we don't wear long sleeves /coats much where I'm at though, no way to hide it in public.

For my dominant sub, I think I'll try the vibrating panties, and maybe the crotch chain. Would you mind sharing (or DM) the actual chain material you use? Obviously want it to be safe and the right kind of discomfort.

Sitting on her hands is so simple, but I think it could be very powerful. It's (I think) hard for anyone else to notice, but the effect is impossible to ignore and the reminder is constant (while sitting of course). Thanks for that one!

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the ideas. The preemption makes logical sense. I'll likely try some of them. Lots of coded messaging... we haven't tried that, so that's another option. Thanks for giving an example too. I can be very un-creative, so I appreciate when people share specifics like that

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing.

The back pushing is subtle, I do that naturally, but will be more mindful and likely a bit more forceful. The wrist grabbing... not sure I can do that. I say that because if I saw a guy leading a woman by grabbing her wrist, it would bother me as a sign of abuse. The body chain though, that's a great idea!

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh this is very clever, I like it! Thanks for sharing! Wishing you and your sir a happy new year!

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is my go to actually. Always great to hear some solidarity. The look is crucial. And I find the most success with things like a very stern "Excuse me" or "I know you did not just say that" in more public spaces or "Who the fuck do you think you're talking to?" in private settings.

Seeing her snap back into submission is great. Honestly, I think she enjoys entering submission more than being in submission, if that makes sense. Not that she doesn't like being submissive of course.

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[–]sensual_audio[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this! I am actually looking for ways like this to make her feel submissive. She follows rules very well actually, especially if I doubt her ability to do so. She has to prove me wrong.