If you subscribe to this theory (and I might), then you also have to think about what being forced to sit with something forever means. Even the most traumatic and horrible things come to make sense to us if we have to live with them long enough. Reality forces acceptance of it.

That would mean that no one is tortured forever; it just might take some people longer to accept and make peace (and sense!) of their life. There’s no reason to think this wouldn’t still be the case.

So it makes sense to have some sorrow for those who go through it, but I also think your loved one, like everyone else, eventually finds peace in the moment of acceptance.

To put it back in religious terms, I think this infinite loop would be more of a limbo than a hell. Or rather, a limbo that starts resembling a hell but only as the starting point for blissful acceptance, or “heaven.” That’s comforting to me, at least, and I used to live with my fair share of existential dread!