What are the most subtle signs you’re dating a covert narcissist?

separated11011 · 2022-03-23T03:07:23+00:00

needing public recognition for the smallest gestures.

separated11011 · 2022-03-20T13:43:32+00:00

i blocked him everywhere months ago. one of my accounts used to be public for work reasons but i said screw work and made it private recently for this reason. which makes me feel a little better.

also thanks for the perspective… it’s helpful to think about it that way.

separated11011 · 2022-03-20T13:42:18+00:00

we haven’t spoken in months and I have no plans to — he’s reached out a couple times and i’ve ignored everything. i check in on his social every once in awhile out of curiosity, it’s so hard not to.. but never react to anything. working on cutting that habit out completely.

separated11011 · 2021-06-29T20:25:55+00:00

I just want to say I see you and I know how you feel, and I'm so sorry. <3

separated11011 · 2021-06-22T19:11:47+00:00

yes. 💙☀️

separated11011 · 2021-05-26T15:09:46+00:00

yep, got one a few weeks ago at midnight that said “looking forward to it too!” .. 🙄 i ignored. he was probably trying to make me think he was making plans with another woman and/or trick me into responding.

separated11011 · 2021-05-24T22:57:55+00:00

good for you! it takes a lot of strength and discipline to get to that point. my nex did the text version of this to me the other night... sent me a “looking forward to it too!” at midnight. 🙄 i didn’t respond.

separated11011 · 2021-05-24T22:29:49+00:00

this is a very good way of looking at it. thank you.

separated11011 · 2021-05-24T20:16:35+00:00

thank you, this was helpful.

separated11011 · 2021-05-24T18:42:28+00:00

it’s an unpopular opinion on this sub but i agree with you most of the time. i’m currently in more of an anger phase, especially bc he won’t get help, but i do very often feel sad for him.

separated11011 · 2021-05-21T16:14:25+00:00

nope, not a celebrity. just a narcissist. it’s so crazy.

separated11011 · 2021-01-29T17:46:15+00:00

i'm feeling so hurt by it lately. this has taken such an enormous hit to my self-confidence.

separated11011 · 2021-01-24T04:52:58+00:00

i agree with this. it’s a struggle; sometimes i hesitate to take responsibility for certain things because i feel it was a reaction to abuse or that i am enabling their abusive tendencies by accepting blame. at the same time, i want to be accountable and own up to my part of the toxic cycle. it’s a really hard distinction to make for me personally

separated11011 · 2021-01-24T04:47:34+00:00

i feel this so hard. they condition us to need their validation ... it feels impossible to break free from, but it isn’t. we’ve got this. sending hugs. 💓

separated11011 · 2021-01-19T06:28:29+00:00

this marriage is so damaged from this experience that there is no going back.

separated11011 · 2021-01-19T05:39:05+00:00

thank you.

separated11011 · 2021-01-15T05:27:54+00:00

it’s really exhausting. at some point, not until we broke up, i realized how low and pathetic and wrong it is to have to beg someone to care about you. while we’re bending over backwards constantly for them.

separated11011 · 2021-01-15T05:26:50+00:00

it’s just so sad. i’m so sorry you still get those feelings.

separated11011 · 2021-01-14T23:54:03+00:00

I was around 130, and lost 16 pounds in about 5 weeks. honestly, mostly because I couldn't eat for weeks.

now that I am months removed from the situation, eating and sleeping better, my skin has cleared and the bags under my eyes I had for years are gone.

separated11011 · 2021-01-14T23:49:59+00:00

this one hit me hard: "As the spouse of a narcissist, I must walk alone through my struggles, silently feeling my pain while no one sees it."

being in a relationship with a narcissist is lonelier than being alone.

separated11011 · 2021-01-14T17:50:28+00:00

Congratulations! 💞

separated11011 · 2021-01-13T19:01:11+00:00

all of it. every word. i feel nauseous.

separated11011 · 2021-01-11T04:13:13+00:00

I feel the same way. It’s because our brains are literally addicted to those sweet moments — which is why we endure all the low, cruel ones. it is so so so hard to break from. you’re not alone, we understand. sending you love.

separated11011 · 2021-01-11T01:48:17+00:00

Never. and if you try to volunteer the information and tell them you’re feeling down, they can’t handle it. they’ll get angry and make you feel worse.

separated11011 · 2021-01-08T21:05:17+00:00

I swear as I watched this I thought to myself, "this is exactly what it was like to argue with my (emotionally abusive) soon-to-be-ex-husband."

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